The company where i work is giving me a vacation (paid - all inclusive) to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. It will be the last weekend of March. My question is, should i take my son with me? he will be a year and 3 months by then.
Our original plan was to go by ourselves, but our son is so attached to us. If he doesn't see us in the room, he'll start crying right away, even if there are other family members which he sees everyday in the room.
Should we take it as the honeymoon we never had and be worring about it all the time - or should we take him and have fun as a family.
Ps. he's a baby, so i don't think we'll get charged for his seat.
WHAT DO WE DO?!?!?!?!?
2007-02-16 08:58:32 · 13 answers · asked by Rosie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Trish - I'm asking for advice, not for bad comments!
2007-02-16 09:09:57 · update #1
Also, remember it's Spring Break month. It will for sure be filled with many, many Spring Breakers!
**I had forgotten about the diapers and bottles, and milk! AGGGGH!!!
2007-02-16 09:34:51 · update #2
I think you should take the vacation as a honeymoon! It is a great time for your son to have his first taste at independence, and hopefully learn to cope without parents!
After a day, he will be fine with other family members, and it will also give him the chance to develop a bond with someone else.
He will benefit from that additional bond in his life, and you and your husband will benefit from that alone time. It will be great for the relationships all around :-).
Save the family vacation for next year - when he might remember a little of it!
2007-02-16 09:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's really up to you - you could either make this a romantic trip for you and your husband, or your first family vacation.
For those who say she shouldn't leave her baby - I really think it is quite reasonable for a couple to have a weekend alone at least once a year or so, especially when there are trusted family members to take care of the little one. Family time is very important, but it's tough for most people to keep their marriages strong if they NEVER have any time alone together. And it's good for kids to learn to adjust and build close relationships with their extended families, too.
If you do decide to go without your son, I would start now leaving him with family members, starting just for short periods of time like an hour or two, and working up to overnight, to give him a chance to get used to it. If it is TOO traumatic for him, and continues to be even after you do it a couple of times, it might be better to take him with on this trip and postpone your romantic trip until he's a little older and past the separation-anxiety stage.
If you decide to take him with, just one bit of information - you don't have to pay for a plane ticket for a child under 2, but they don't get a seat - it is expected that you will hold them in your lap. If there happens to be an empty seat next to you, no problem. But if you're on a full flight, you'll be holding a squirming toddler on your lap the whole time. We traveled with our daughter for the first time when she was about that age, so I can tell you from personal experience that the flight itself will not be an enjoyable thing. ;-)
If you decide to take him with, I recommend LOTS of preparation - pack snacks and buy a few new toys and books that will hold his interest during the flight. Also bring a sippy cup that the flight attendants can fill for you before you take off, since that will help relieve the pressure in his ears during take-off. If possible, arrange to rent a car seat with your rental car so you don't have to take one with, and find out ahead of time if your hotel has a portable crib or pack-n-play you can reserve so you don't have to pack that.
Whatever you decide, have a great trip and try not to worry too much!
2007-02-16 09:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Deanna B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still pretty little, it will be difficult to do either. If you leave him, your family will have some struggles with him but he will have fun and won't really be depressed the whole time. If you take him, you will have to watch him and it will determine what you can and can't do while you are there. You will have to bring clothes, diapers and a playpen for him to sleep in and then there is the food issue. He will have fun and you will too but there are a lot of things you won't be able to do or see if you have him with you. It will ultimately depend on your family. If you feel that they will make it fun for him then I say leave him to have his vacation and you take yours. You will miss him and worry about him but you will be able to more fully experience your vacation.
PS. you will need to get him a passport if you take him. Don't forget to plan ahead.
2007-02-16 09:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what I would do....I would take my baby with me. I think it would be fun. And besides you'll just be worried about your child while your gone. It sounds like you really want to take him. You can just do family things while your there. Unless of course you want to go and act like wild springbreakers:) As far as bottles and milk just take them with you. But on the other hand if you have someone that you trust to take care of your baby then it might be good for you and your hubby to have a break. I guess it depends on where your priorities are. And that doesn't mean your a bad mom or anything if you choose not to take her. It's just up to what you want.
2007-02-16 09:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start NOW and have a family member watch him for a bit and then have them watch him while you're on your honeymoon (besides, a honeymoon is for the man and woman - NOT a baby)!
The airlines WILL charge you for his seat!
2007-02-16 09:18:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him. My little girl is 3 and she has NEVER been away from us one night.
ETA-
To the poster who said not to take him because you won't have any fun....well, you know what?? The kid is the parents responsibility and he should go where they go!! It's called being a parent!
2007-02-16 09:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Alison 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take him with you he's not that young think of it as a family vacation. He'll love you for it later when hes older and you tell him you loved him enough to take him with you.
2007-02-16 09:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tara Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably take him. I think the only problem you will have is when the plane lands. Just take him and have fun.
2007-02-16 09:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by fashleyluong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him home with someone you trust. Your relationship with your husband needs to be strong for your son. He will love you just as much when you come home
2007-02-16 09:21:33 · answer #9 · answered by ambz79 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would take him and have a family vacation
2007-02-16 09:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋