This man spends his time inbetween two countries, and I really like him but have no idea on weather I should even bother since it could be a set up to future heart break but he spends half his time here half over seas, I havent slept with him yet but we have kinda had a thing going on quiet a while now (dating) I know he is interested in a second relationship and he had no choice in the first one (social order thing) anyways what are the ods of it working? I dont mind the fact he has a family and I agree his kids should go first (money is not an issue here either more than imaginable)
2007-02-16 08:46:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Samantha i know that by you dating this guy is not going to hurt you right now because ofcourse at the moment your living the life with him and you enjoy being with him. But one of the main reasons a lady should not get involved with somebody that has a wife and kids is because, if you ever want to go ahead in life its not going to work with somebody that is only giving you his 50 percent all, a couple unites to go ahead in life together, help each other 100 percent, you might be at where you want to be at now but wouldnt you like to have even better cars or a bigger house with a lot of extra money to have in hand. The only way your going to get up there is either by your self or with a partner that gives you his all so you can be better too. And if you just want to sleep with him with no relationship just go ahead and do that but you have to make it clear to him that you guys are just sleeping together and thats all, i know your thinking "ohh my god what is he going to think of me?" hello, he is married and looking for a second relationship, thats just greedy if he wants to have fun you have fun too plain and simple. samantha if you get involved with him for sure you will get hurt because he is not going to choose you over his wife and kids of i dont know how long, unless he deeply falls inlove with you and leaves his family but i dont think you want that for his kids.
2007-02-16 09:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by ahivalaloca1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any situation you go into with another person can lead to heartbreak, but if he is married that's a whole other issue. How do you know that he is not feeding you some sob story and really isn't happily married to another woman who has 2 kids by him in another country, and just wanting to have the best of both world, or at least 2 countries? Men lie, people lie, so don't take his word as the gospel. Money may not be an issue, but it won't repair your heart if it ends up broken. Know that his kids and wife will always be first. They are still married for some reason or another, so just don't be a fool and if you enter into this you should hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. All the best.
2007-02-16 08:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very wrong. Basically you are helping to contribute to the break up of his family. You say that his kids should come first, do you really believe that by having a relationship with him? What does it do to the kids to see their parents divorced. I think this will bother you if you go through with it, think long and hard about it.
2007-02-16 08:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by krupsk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is way way wrong because well.... i think either you break up with him because he already committed his life to someone he loves almost the same or you can talk to him about it and let him decide on whether he wants to leave his family for you or leave you for his family and try to be a bit realistic it isn't right to even go around dating with him because you say he spends most of his time with you overseas and that's making him break up his family and may cause them to leave him which may leave him thinking what if it all worked out and we were still a happy little family and i doubt you want it to be your fault ... and your right his kids should come first so it's up to you if you want to take his complete and committed life away to start another one .... and by the way it is very dangerous to have pre-marital sex because ABSTINENCE the right choice the safe choice
2007-02-16 08:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by celine_boodoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odds of it working? Slim to none. If he (or anyone) is cheating already, it is hard to say how many other times in the past they done this and the question is...how many more times in the future?
Now for the reality check for you...
1st thing he has children, are you willing to be part of destroying their future? Their father seems not to care, but don't be a tramp and be part of it! Get a grip on your life and straighten your act up.
I don't mean to be rude, but that is about the truth of it.
2007-02-16 08:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by IndianaHoosier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too undesirable a toddler is in touch that makes it harder on anybody incredibly the youngster. This guy has validated his unwillingness to abide with the help of the ethical constraints of our society. specifically whilst a woman is pointed out as married then she is to be left on my own. that's why many women human beings positioned on a hoop - to do away with the opportunity of being approached. i'm no longer asserting each and every male follows the policies i'm asserting the rule is there and maximum abide with the help of it. So once you get entangled with this guy, in case you do, then anticipate him to no longer abide with the help of any policies you're turning out to be on how a boyfriend, fiance or husband could behave. it is obvious he will pursue any woman that catches his eye inspite of alternative peoples expectancies on suited habit. I.e. he will cheat on you on the drop of a hat.
2016-09-29 05:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by betker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok thats so wrong hun and really sick dont do that to his family what kind of a guy is he anyway if he wants to cheat and yes its cheating not having a second relationship its cheating and messing up a family even if he didnt want to in the first place you need to get away from him he is bad news for you and i promise you that your heart will be broken
2007-02-16 08:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your heart tell you to do.....why are you setting yourself up for failure...don't you believe that you deserve better....that there is someone Just For You?!?!
Think twice...being the Other woman...a dream of yours or something you could have never seen yourself doing....if not for anything else but integrity!
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2007-02-16 08:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seeing as it's not only in a different area code but also a different country, and he's in an obviously loveless arranged marriage overseas, I don't see a problem with it. I wouldn't be expecting too much from this relationship though...
2007-02-16 08:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by sincarnato 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
also his wife...when he is with you he will forget her, when he is with her he will forget you...if you want to spend time for a 50% love and attention whereas you can get 100% from an available guy, and if you feel that you are ready to face the consequences, go for it...
forget the social order...that's just bs...
2007-02-16 08:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋