i need some advice....i really really love this girl im seeing now...but she never gets ready for me but she is real cool we understand each other and we make each other laugh...and we forgive each other for everything we do....but there is this other chick that is soooooooo damn beautiful...and shes real cool too...but not as much as my girl now...i wanna start talkin to this new chick but i cant stop talking to my girl now....i dont wanna break her heart...but i really realy really wanna get with this new chick...but i wanna be faithful to her....so what should i do? the thing about my girl is...she never gets ready...i cant trust her being faithful...she's pregnant and its not my child....and this other girl...she is sooooo beautiful! and she seems like she would be faithful....she a real good girl...she goes to church....but shes not nena (my girl)...what should i do?
2007-02-16 08:32:29 · 18 answers · asked by luis12216@verizon.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and the girl i love now, she says she loves me but supposably im the only boyfriend she hasnt cheated on because she "loves" me but there are times where i cant be sure...i already think she's cheated on me but she swears on her baby she hasnt....and this other girl...ive known her longer than my girl and we stopped talking for a lil bit but now were talking again and i think i could get to like her alot but i dont wanna hurt my girl now cuz were so close...im confused!
2007-02-16 08:38:50 · update #1
and i tried the dating two girl thing...when i first started talking to my girl...i was talking to her and this other girl and i would go to there houses on different days and i never got caught but i broke it off with the other girl because i started falling for this girl..and if i start going out with the other girl i wanna be faithful to her
2007-02-16 08:41:14 · update #2
OH AND SHE WAS PREGNANT WHEN I GOT WITH HER BUT SHE DIDNT TELL ME SHE WAS...SO ITS NOT THAT SHE CHEATED ON ME AND I GOT BACK WITH HER....BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO TEST HER IF SHE IS FAITHFUL OR NOT...THERE'S BEEN A COUPLE OF TIMES THAT SHE HAS DONE SOME SUSPICIOUS THINGS THAT MAKE ME WONDER BUT SHE ENDED UP HAVING A GOOD EXCUSE...AND WE EVEN TELL EACH OTHER THAT WE NEED TO START TRUSTING EACH OTHER BECAUSE WE BOTH KNOW IF WE WANT A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WE NEED TRUST AND I TRY TO TRUST HER BUT SHE ALWAYS LIES! EVEN ABOUT THE SMALLEST THINGS AND THAT MAKES ME NOT TRUST HER
2007-02-16 08:48:25 · update #3
and the worst thing is her babies daddy she said she "thought" she loved him and yet she cheated on him with 7 guys! (she says three werent by choice) and at the moment she was in love with him and now she says she's in love with me but what is stopping her from cheating if she loved the other guy and she cheated on him almost everyday of their relationship?
2007-02-16 08:52:29 · update #4
man, date them both and have fun with both. Don't commit. Maybe you can have both...Woohoo.....
2007-02-16 08:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. I know first hand how that goes. I would say break up with your girl and try the new girl. Not being faithful will never get the relationship going anywhere but backwards. Give the new girl a try and dump the permiscuous woman. Its really hard to have a honest relationship with a child that is not yours. Good luck with your choice. I feel for u. Ive been there before and i picked the new girl and things worked out greatly.
2007-02-16 08:42:03 · answer #2 · answered by dannyboy788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u cant trust ur current girl to be faithful then why are u in a relationship with her? to love is to trust, to have a relationship is to have trust.
as far as the other girl, if u only want to be with her bc hes beautiful then thats a bad reason. if u want to be with her because u think she will make u a better person and will be a better person for u, then i say u need to cut ur current girl loose and start over with the new one.
but if the only reason u want the new on is because of how she looks, then maybe u should just stay single until u figure out looks arent everything. and sometimes the "beautiful" ones are the least faithful.
either way, good luck
2007-02-16 08:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by chickenbuttoch2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is don't date two girls. If you care about either of them then you won't do this! If I were you I would date this new girl. If you can't trust you gf and thinks she has or will cheat on you then why be with her. You are not content with the situation or you would not be thinking about another girl. I know you love your gf but maybe its just that you are comfortable with her. If you are thinking about someone else then you shouldn't be with your gf. Good luck!
2007-02-16 08:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your current girlfriend is pregnant with a child that is not yours, there's a problem there! If a girl is pregnant, she shouldn't go and date other men, she should be worrying about getting enough together for her child! I would go with the other girl. Though be warned, just because she SEEMS faithful, doesn;t mean she is!
2007-02-16 08:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, nena is so cool. RIGHT! You haven't convinsed me of that! Are you STUPID???? Or are you YOUNG???? It has to be one or the other, or you would DUMP this nena girl. If you can't trust someone to be faithful, then you really don't have ANYTHING with them. Oh, so you can forgive each other of anything, huh? That means you forgave her for getting pregnant by another guy. If you can forgive each other of anything, then surely she can forgive you for seeing another girl. Right? Grow up, dude.
2007-02-16 08:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you taking on a child that isnt going to be yours? i think you are in for a world of hurt if you stick it out with the first one. when you become a dad, you want to be the one to have fun making the baby as well as knowing that the baby is yours too! make YOUR heart happy and do what is right which break it off with the first one and go with girl two with a fresh beginning. someone needs to put you first and not second....i learned the hard way and it sucks!
2007-02-16 08:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by brianju 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the girl is pregnant maybe she has her own reason for not being ready or being faithful haven't you asked her about that reasons and this girl who goes to church don't judge the book by it's outer appearance she could not be single get to know her first and decide whom would you like good luck.
2007-02-16 08:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the company of both of them. As long as you are not lying to them telling them that each one of them is the only one for you and as long as you don't set them up to expect more than you possibly give, you will be fine and you won't be doing anything wrong. As time goes by, as you spend more time with each woman, you will get to know them better and you will inevitably like one of them better than the other. It's just a matter of time.
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2007-02-16 08:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by PracticalHappiness.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me you really love your nena and your trying to make up exscuses to break it off. if she cheated and got pregnant and you took her back then you gotta let that go. stick with your girl i bet the other girl could never compare to nena thats your heart.
2007-02-16 08:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets be honest, you just want to be with this new girl because shes hot. trust me, if you leave the girl youre currently with, youre going to regret it in the future. stay with the girl youre with now.
2007-02-16 08:38:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋