this "guy friend" says he wants nothing more than to only be friends. to me, it isnt fair because we ALWAYS hook up when we are drunk (sometimes more than just making out... ALOT of times more than just making out...) and i dont know what to do because he keeps telling me that he does not want anything more than just friends... should i keep letting it be like this? cause i really do like him alot and he is the sweetest person in the world, really he is! but he just doesnt want to commit... we are of two different cultures and i think that might also make a huge difference!! HELP!
2007-02-16 08:28:11 · 12 answers · asked by Saritah Bonita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is more... like he tells me he isnt using me and its a personal choice (i have been best friends with him for 2 years and i know he wouldnt hurt me on purpose!!) and i LIKE hooking up... i mean i like him and its a choice... but ****... i dont know, i look like a slut!
2007-02-16 08:35:41 · update #1
sorry ONE more thing... he doesnt hook up with anyone else and i am his first everything pretty much... doesnt it mean a little something?!
2007-02-16 08:40:13 · update #2
sounds like he is just using you for a booty call, why have the relationship when you will just give it up to him for free,
2007-02-16 08:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by paul b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, coming from two different cultures doesn't always mean chaos. If he is as sweet as you say he is, most likely he is non-desciminating and would accept your cultural differences. However, it takes two to tango. Even if you say you've had enough, you cannot force him to go out with you. It has to be consentual otherwise it wouldnt work out. Ask him openly about this issue and see where that takes you. U never know what could happen if you throw ur feelings out there. Stand up for yourself and dont let him back u into a corner. Maybe he'll give your feelings a chance. Good luck to you.
2007-02-16 16:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by dannyboy788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I understand you like him a lot. Well if he just only wants to be friends instead of being your boyfriend for a week and then at that point you could possibly ruin a friendship that could've lasted a long time. So what would you rather be. And it sorta does like he is using you a little. So you need to follow your heart and do what ever it tells you to do. Ashley
2007-02-16 16:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by turttle_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there's nothing we can help with (and a lot is 2 words, not "alot"...I got nailed in school on that one years ago and have never forgotten it).
Anyway, he's simply not interested in you romantically and apparently not interested in you sexually when he's sober so that should be your answer right there.
If you want romance or sex (other than when drunk) then move on...this guy isn't interested in more with you and you must accept that.
2007-02-16 16:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Players do that , he may be sweet but understand they can't commit . He may have feelings for you but doesn't want to hurt you because he can't just have one girl . You are most likely a close friend to him and he wouldn't do anything in the world to hurt you . He isn't trying to be ignorant just being careful not to hurt you .
2007-02-16 16:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are letting him have his cake and eat it too. Why would he want to commit when he can get the goods without committing? As long as he can shoplift the booty he will not want to pay. Cut him off and he may be more interesting in the relationship side of you friendship.
2007-02-16 16:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Shmesh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question he does not want to commit.
You see the reason why boy-girl relationships exist in the first place is for pro-creation.
You friend does not want to be in a suitation that could lead to children.
2007-02-16 16:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its only whens hes drunk then its not gonna happen, talk to him when hes sober about it, if he says no.... im sorry but its not gonna happen.
If he only says yes when drunk, then you say no when drunk.
when he says yes when sober, you say yes drunk or sober.
2007-02-16 16:32:11 · answer #8 · answered by crymsyneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be sweet but its not worth giving your body to him when he's not willing to give his heart to you! Think about it.
2007-02-16 16:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by :)Smile(: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep getting drunk with him
2007-02-16 16:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋