The list of things my boyfriend tries to control is so long it's riduculous.........?

Question

Whenever my phone rings, he gets pissed off - whenver I go anywhere with friends (which is very rare) he gets pissed off - whenever I mention my brother he gets pissed off - whenever I talk about making plans with a friend (which is extremely rare) he gets pissed off - whenever we do something that involves anyone but him and i he gets pissed off - He CONNNNSTANTLY calls me an alcoholic and I NEVER EVER DRINK - he tells me that he has to be #1 in my life no matter what - I used to be extremely outgoing and extremely spontanious, but he has toned me down and made me feel like somebody I am not. Whenever my voice raises in public and I say or do something funny, he gets really pissed off at me and embarassed for me. I feel like I have to ask him if I can do ANYTHING, from calling my mom to talk to her, to going to get a coffee..... I LOVE HIM THOUGH. I know, HOW could I love him? I don't know???

This morning he got mad at me for taking a phone call from my brother, so he stormed out of the house cursing up a storm and I lit up a smoke outside and then washed up and went to work and he called me minutes later (from the home phone) asking how the cigarette was and I said "good" and he said "Well you better buy ANOTHER PACK BECAUSE I THREW YOURS AWAY!!!!!" and he hung up on me. We bought a laptop computer together a few months ago and whenever we get in a fight he hides it from me and tells me that he is going to sell it for $$ in case I kick him out. He has done that a few times. I feel like I am constantly being told what I can and cannot do and I have no idea to stop all this confusion. I really need help. Nobody understands me and nobody can give me advice or make it better. Whenever we talk about it he makes me feel as if I'm the one that's doing everything wrong but I don't do ANYTHING because I'm constantly walking on eggshells and trying not to make him mad!

and trying not to make him mad! I'm afraid to go home tonight. He's going to scream and yell the minute I walk in the door. It's easy for you guys to tell me to run and get away... but the reality is that it's harder to say than to do. I don't know what to do. I have always been stronger then this. ALWAYS!

Answer 1

You should get out of this relationship. The way he is treating you is controlling and almost abusive, it is impacting on your confidence and self esteem in an unhealthy way so it is time to call it quits. Maybe this will be the wake up call he needs to sort himself out. As much as you love him, he is not good for you.