Say you and your dad were going to mail some letters. When you drive up to the mail box, he wants you to mail the letters. You don't want to get out of the car because it's cold, but you do it anyway. Later, he finds out that you didn't want to mail the letters, and didn't want to "do a favor for him," so he gets angry at you and tells you to "go to hell" and doesn't want to talk to you.
Do you think this is normal behavior?
2007-02-16 08:17:48 · 28 answers · asked by JetAlone 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i guess that because i didn't want to do it, it seems like i'm ungrateful. really, it's just a big misunderstanding
2007-02-16 08:25:29 · update #1
My dad called me a prima-donna ***** when I was 8 years old because I asked for a dollar to go to the store and get candy. I didn't even know what that was. And boy was my mom pissed when she heard that, and then explained it to me, and that I wasn't one.
Yes, I think your dad overreacted, as long as that is the story in it's entirety. But how did he find out that you didn't want to jump out? But what kid would want to do that anyway? The fact that you did do it, despite the cold and that you didn't want to, should be enough.
Though I think it went more along these lines:
You and your dad were fighting and you yelled at him that he forced you to jump out of the car and mail the letters when you didn't even want to.....WAHHH!!!
Sorry, but as a mom that's how I see happening.
2007-02-16 08:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your the one with a problem if you did mail the letters then you must've been nagging him about how you didn't want to mail them in the first place which cause him to get upset which parents do when there children are ungrateful and cant just do something they ask without all the gripe I doubt he said go to hell and if he did it was probably because this isnt the first time you have been disrespectful to him I would say you need to hush your mouth and listen to you parents.
2007-02-16 16:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful Dreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand, because I went through the exact same problem, except it was with my mom. And I am sure that it is Overreacting. It would have made more sense if you like smacked your lips or something, he really should have been happy that u did not show the fact that u did not want to do it. You completely kept it to yourself and he should have appreciated that. He should not have expected you to want to get out in the cold and mail some letters. I can really relate to your situation because my dad was in the army and he always takes stuff way too seriously in minor situations. You have my sympothy dude. If you have anymore problems with your dad be sure to place them on yahoo answers and i'll reply to u on them too. Good luck.
2007-02-16 16:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? Zoo York ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your father needs to 'get a life' and wash his mouth out with soap!
He had no right to cuss at you when you eventually did what he asked of you (even though you didn't want to).
What he should have said was "I realize you didn't want to mail the letters, because it is cold outside, but thank you. I appreciate your help".
Is there a reason why he's behaving this way...............
2007-02-16 17:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the only thing that has happened then yeah it's really odd behavior. But, why would he find out that you didn't want to go, clearly you were griping about it or at least telling someone. Also, if he has been doing a lot for you lately and then hears that he might be annoyed. If none of those things occurred then I think it's pretty weird.
2007-02-16 16:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's normal behavior for a dad who has a son who was not willing to get out in the cold and mail letters for his him.
You are much younger than him and should have wanted to do it. Look what he does for you.
2007-02-16 16:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tenn Gal 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes that seems very touchy.
I am sorry you have to be made to feel bad for something that silly..I mean, you got out of the car ultimately, right? So it shouldn't matter whether you were doing it as a favor or not.
2007-02-16 18:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this isn't normal behavior. Any parent that tells their child to "Go to hell." is cruel and unacceptable. I hear and see often parents losing it and resort to name calling, ridicule and humiliation. These are all forms of emotional abuse. These attack a child's self-esteem which is completely not normal. Realize that this is about him and not you personally. Keep strong and tell your dad how it makes you feel. Voice your opinion and stand up for yourself. Good luck.
2007-02-16 16:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think there's any excuse for a parent to tell their child to "go to hell". I don't think you're over reacting, I think your Dad is.
Best bet is to honestly tell your Dad that you didn't mean that you didn't want to do him a favour, but rather that it was cold and you hesitated for those reasons.
Still, it's an awfully small issue to make such a big deal out of and I can't imagine a parent using words like that or not talking to their child.
(((((hugs))))
2007-02-16 16:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by soaplady99ca 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he has things on his mind and your attitude on things just aggrevates him. I know teens can be self centered and my daughter is the same way and parents sometimes get tired of the attitude when they sacrifice so much for their kids who just have no idea or simply don't care that they often do without so their kids don't have to. Think about that when dad asks you to do a simple task for him!!! :~)
2007-02-16 18:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋