Please Please Please give your opinion?

Question

My friend who is 13( she lives with her grandparents) was on punishment so she couldn't talk on the phone for 3 weeks. Her 3 weeks were up so she was talking on the phone. Her grandfather saw her talking on the phone and told her she wasn't suppose to be talking. Then i guess that was the last straw for her grandfatherd he was tired of this and there wasn't enough room for her which is weird because before they had 6 people living there now they only 4. He told his wife they were getting to old and that my friend had to leave. My friends grandmother kept trying to change her husband's mind but she couldn't so she told my friend that she had to respect her husband's wishes because thats what the bible says to do and she doesn't want to fight anymore. But I think that it wouldn't be right to do this because my friend can't live with her mother because she's a drug addict and her father is dead. My friend's grandfather told his wife he stays or my friend stays. Give your opinion on this.

mY FRIEND DOES GET INTO TROUBLE ALOT BUT ITS NOT LIKE SHES SNEAKING OUT OF THE HOUSE AND DOING DRUGS OR HAVING SEX

Answer 1

First of all, the grandfather over reacted. I think he just used the phone situation as an excuse for something he had already been wanting: your freind to get out the house. Your friend does have options. You can try and be a good friend and ask your parents to take her in. Explain the situation and BEG your parents to help your friend. Being around a good family can help her stay out of trouble. If that doesn't work, then she should probably talk to a person she can trust at the school. Explain the situation and see what they can do. Something that your friend should NOT do is go back to living with her mother. She could get pulled into that lifestyle or probably worse. Drug addicts usually do what they can for drugs (that includes letting strangers have their way with their kids). I kind of see the grandparents as heartless. The grandmother claims to be a Christian, but her actions are none of the sort, and neither is the grandfather's. As a Christian myself, the thing to do is help the child. Help get her on the right track, and if it is too much to handle for themselves, find someone who can handle it. Don't give up on them.

Answer 2

It would be better for everyone if there was another family member to go to. The girl should have talked to her grandparents before using the phone again, that way if they had forgotten the three weeks were up they would have remembered and none of this would have happened. If she is getting into trouble too much and her grandparents are pretty old then I can understand them being frustrated and wanting her to go live some place else, but if there is no more family to take her that is really harsh or she is just just really naughty and they are fed up and to tired to deal with it anymore. It is important, especially if it isn't your parents you are living with, to always have respect for your elders and it sounds a little like she may not have any for them. She may actually be a lot happier and better off some place else. I hope everything works out for her.

Answer 3

Your friend should listen to the grandfather, since she doesn't have no where to go. When I left home and moved in with my grandma...I wanted things my way. I listened to her most of the time. Today, I'm 41 and I thank her for all she's done in my life. Your friend is only 13. She should concentrate in finishing high school and move out on her own when she's ready. I thought I had all the answer when I was 14. I turned to drugs and alcohol at 14. I wish I knew better back then. Good luck to your friend!

Answer 4

The grand parents r too old and cant handle raising a teenager. Why did your friend not say to the granddad that the 3 weeks had expired then there wouldnt of been a problem. And she should of asked first.

Answer 5

It seems he feels too old to cope with a teenager. Whilst it's not very nice for your friend maybe it's better for him to make this known now before things get out of control. Your friend might be safer with foster parents than with her Mother. Whatever happens I hope she finds a safe home where she is happy.

Answer 6

It sounds unfair, but your friend seems to be better off staying with the grandparents. They will be able to provide a stable moral, educational support. Your friend is lucky that s/he has a friend to gain emotional support from you. I think you guys are doing quite well.

Answer 7

i imagine people would properly experience free to have the opinion that they prefer. they must be in a position to particular there opinion, and those who listen (which must be lots of persons) must have an open suggestions, and per chance substitute there opinion. some reviews would no longer become some thing, besides the undeniable fact that it doesnt advise there worthless. regardless of if no one treasures your opinion, you need to. Its what makes you who you're.

Answer 8

i think thats absolutley discusting.my heart goes out to your friend. she needs her family now more than anything. her grandmother should stand by your friend in my eyes. who else has the poor child got to turn to???? they might be old but that child needs a good start in life. her mother should get off drugs and sort it out. tell your friend to be brave and its not her fault. she could phone child line for advice you dont have to say your name and its free even from pay phone.

Answer 9

so sorry to hear this, but first you got to rember, it his house, an his wife was try to do all she could,,but i belive if you try talking to him, he could change his mind, sound llike he tired of all the people in the house, but i sure their more to this story than you telling

Answer 10

Ask your parent if you can take her in.....They might let you if you explain the situation.