I was talking to this girl for 3 weeks straight. She would tell me that her ex used to control, beat, and mistreat her, but she ended up staying with this man for 3 years. And talking to me, she sees that im not that type of guy. As soon as I bought her something for valentines day, she must of seen that as a sign of weakness and began talking to that very same man that used to mistreat her. Do I need to be controlling?
2007-02-16 07:57:12 · 10 answers · asked by hardworkur84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with Rio..Beating a woman is just wrong on so many levels, buying a gift is not a sign of weakness, if she can't handle a good man then its on her, not you. She stuck with the last guy for three years because she didnt know any better, I bet he left her, not the other way around. I take control in bed, ladies seem to like that.
2007-02-16 08:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Young brother,
I married that girl. I don't condemn her, she grew up with a life of abuse that carried over into her adult life. My relationship style is more oriented towards moments sublime with intervals of reflection and solitude. Hers was more oriented towards togetherness. I felt suffocated, and she felt chilly.
Plus, she was used to dudes from the streets. Now I've played in the streets but I'm not into 4 and 5 ho's, baby's mama drama, and some other stereotypical bullshit she had been dealing with.
Read up on the experiences abused women go through. It ain't pretty. Some of them bear some scars you would never want to imagine having to endure. Some of them come out straight vicious and if pushed (or not pushed) a certain way, will stick a knife in you. You've got to understand what your dealing with.
Unfortunatley, many women can't appreciate a man who treats them 'nice'. Fortunately most can (eventually). Find somebody your speed and let Busta handle his.
Like an old cartoon used to say, "Be who you is, and not who you is not. For those who do is the happiest lot!"
2007-02-16 16:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by TzodEarf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be a definate NO, for me. Although some woman like the man to be in control and have all the power. I suggest you just be yourself, and treat the woman right, and I guarantee that you'll have better luck with the ladies.
Good luck
2007-02-16 16:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by ☼ Latina Loca loves Yayo ☼ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt see it the same way you do. when a guy controls her, its showing a lot of emotion and that emotion is for her. she probably loved him before he became abusive, and she's forgiving him for doing those things to her.
im not saying what he's doing is ok, im just showing you her point of view. ive been in the same situation, and he ended up cheating on me. that time i REALLY did leave him, and ive learned my lesson from it.
i dont think theres anything you can do. you just have to let her leave him on her own, and still be there when he's finally out of the picture.
2007-02-16 16:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No most women don't like to be controlled. She probably did not expect any better after being treated that way for so long. You should have showed her that men are not all jerks and treat her well.
2007-02-16 16:04:36 · answer #5 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl is so used to controlling men that she doesn't know how to handle one who isn't. I would tell her to seek counseling. Women only like to be controlled in bed. Otherwise, we are our own people.
2007-02-16 16:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u don't need to be controlling most women wouldn't want you to be it might just be that she's been in an awkward relationship for so long and doesnt know how 2 react to ppl not kicking her around.
2007-02-16 16:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to be controlling , but the lady is really in a stiff situation and she is confused, many other women would enjoy your company and your charm. Many men need to step it up and those who are too rough need to tone it down, but you sound like a prefect gentleman.
2007-02-16 16:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by sadiebabe81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her sum space 'cause if not she'll leave ya!
so thanx for helping!!!
love,
ananimous kid with the slinky
2007-02-16 16:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by m&m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know but females like ****** that do them wrong!!!especially black gurls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-16 16:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by bron g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋