I had a sexual experience with my good friend, both of us are female, I liked it, is this normal?

Question

While she had phone sex with her boyfriend, I made out with her. I liked it ALOT!!!!! I also work with her and the next day at work, she acts as if nothing happened. I want to do it again, I am not sure she does, she won't even talk about it. She was really into it while we were doing it. What should I do??? Is this feeling I am havng normal?? I should also add that I am Married.....HELP

Answer 1

Chock it up to a good time and leave it at that. If you try to get her to do it again, she may not want to and it could spoil your friendship. She may be embarrassed or even disgusted with herself. She may think that you are being too forceful in pursuing her sexually and are turning into a weird stalker chick.
Maybe her boyfriend is angry at her for lezzing out with you while she was supposed to be getting off with him.
Maybe you didn't really exist for her while she was using you to get off while she talked to her boyfriend.
Is your husband cool with this? Would he encourage you to engage in more lesbian sex? Even if he could not participate?
If it will not hurt your marriage, and it usually does,perhaps you can explore a casual sexual encounter with another woman, one whose friendship you may not care that much about.

Answer 2

Calm down. If you liked it that much, then go talk to her about it. Find out if it was her first time or not (I bet it wasn’t) with another girl. If you two are really friends, then she shouldn’t mind to give you some advise. Maybe she is not interested in doing it again, or maybe she is. Again, you have to talk to her.

Now, the problem here is that not only she has a boyfriend (that he is probably more than happy with her being bi), but you have a husband. Does he know anything about this? For what you said, I don’t think so.

I don’t know what is going to be his reaction. Most guys like it when they are with a bi-curious or a full bi-girl, but you are the one who knows him, and you should know if he likes it or not.

But one way or another, you should talk to him because he is your husband. If he likes it, then maybe you two can explore more that side of you. If he doesn’t, then you need to talk a lot cause if you are really desperate for another female, it will influence in your married life, especially if he is against it.

Is not easy, but talking, everybody understand each other. And that includes you talking to yourself. You must find out if this is pure sexual “ecstasy” or if there is something else, like real feelings. Would you say you are now in love with your friend? I doubt it as you only spent a “one-night stand” with her. But is a possibility.

If you think there is something more than just sex, then you must stop, and think about it. Your matrimony might depend on that now. Make the right decision. Even if you want to love both your husband and her, there are 4 people now involved. Unless you don’t mind a foursome… different story. You never know.

But if is just a sexual thing, to be honest, I think you will be just fine. Ask her, and if she wants more, go ahead, otherwise, see if anybody else would like to give it a try.

My wife has been thinking about it, but hasn’t done it yet. But I doubt she is gonna do it unless the right girl appears in front of her. I support her, and I do like the idea if it happens, with or without me pictured there. As long she is happy, I am happy (of course happier if a threesome, but hey, I’m a guy, what else can you expect).

Good luck, be careful, and have fun!

Answer 3

Ok let me say a few things here she might have liked it but will not talk about it, Wont say any thing to any 1 that it happend but she didnt stop u so she must have liked it and if the opp. cumz again she will do a lot more just dont push the issue just go with the flow cause to her this may be her first time do n sum thing like this. And 4 u yes this is normal it dont mean that u r gay or any thing like that so dont think that 4 1 min. just go on and see what happends. And 4 the married part well i think u just cheated sorry to have to say that part but i would tell him what u did. Be 4 he finds out from sum 1 else.

Answer 4

She might be a little embarrased by it, or she may have the guilts. This could be why she isnt talking. As far as you, you are craving it, or want to do it again because it is different. It is not your husband kind of diff. I think you would still feel the same way if it were with a man. Which is normal. It might not be morally right, but it is normal. We are all animals and it is normal to be attracted to other people man and female. What you now need to consider is what is important to you. Yes, you really enjoyed it, but is it enough that you would want to sacrificie your marriage over. I learned this the hard way, I had a one time, enjoyed the feeling of someone else, and almost lost my marriage over it. All is well now, but i had to decide what was really important.

Answer 5

I think it was at the spur of the moment since there was phone sex involved and she was hot and probably wanted to turn of boyfriend on even more and that's why she kissed you. But talk to her and let her know how you felt about it and see where she like it too or just a one time thing it'll be a shame to ruin a friendship over this...Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Although most of the guys here think that this is cool,I bet your husband would not agree. You need to decide if you are bi sexual or are a lesbian. Are you still interested in your husband sexually? I think that your friend isn't talking about it because she regrets it and is embarrassed after the fact. Any chance that alcohol was involved? You should ask yourself what it is that you really want and consider your husbands feelings in this whole thing.

Answer 7

COOL! I like girls that like girls. Uh I am sure your husband won't mind. if you want to do it again, find a way to talk to your man about. As For your friend that may be a one time thing or just an every now and again sorta thing. If she's not talking about it, don't mention it to her.
use your own instincts to do what you want with her. Just keep an eye on her for a week or so. If she keeps checkin out your goods approach her,since she did with you.

Answer 8

Very normal, few women will admit doing this and liking it, she liked it, she is wondering if you did. Maybe just ask her out to coffee after work and just drop a few comments on how nice she looks today. when you see her look her straight in the eye, SMILE, and say nice 2 C U. You two can have something really nice and special together.

Answer 9

ok properly answering your question how a great way do i bypass on a ordinary date? properly im a guy and that i wont lie toutchy feeley is stable yet given which you would be able to tell that the different individual likes it, in the event that they dont appear like they have fun with it or they dont do it back stop immediatly simply by fact opportunities are high its creepy, i might choose for a kiss, as quickly as back if the different individual looked like they're pleased with it, yet no longer something extra, definitely once I went on the 1st date with my female buddy i replaced into so scarred i infrequently did something basically sit down there haha yet i think of he might have pushed the line slightly to lots, espepcially with the sexy remark, i might have long previous for the gorgeous or beautifull remark yet on condition that i meant it, maby he has basically been single for for this reason long hes getting desperate haha yet i would not have long previous so a great way as he did, the 1st date might desire to be extra approximately getting to appreciate eachother interior the innovations no longer seeing if ou can get them into mattress

Answer 10

Feelings are normal, controlling your feelings can be difficult!

That being said, what does you husband think? If you can't talk to him about it then you have a problem.

As a married man I know my wife has one very close friend and if she came to me and said she had been or wanted to be physical with her it would not surprise me! I would encourage her to explore her feelings and physical desires but to also be honest and let me know what is going on.

Be honest with everyone and who knows what the future will bring!

Good Luck!