so this girl & i have been dating really seriously for a while now. we havent had sex, but we have done the touching thing etc. nothing overboard, but more on the exploring side. everything has been great, but i want to do more to her w/out the sex part. should i just come out with it and ask if i can go "downtown" or is that too bold to ask a :virgin" girl. honestly, i do feel very safe in asking her, but i also dont want to press the issue. she knows me by now, and things could have gone pretty far, but they havent. i really adore her and think of world of her, and i am thinking that she would LOVE something like that......agree, or disagree in me asking with any other "virgin" advice
2007-02-16 07:56:19 · 10 answers · asked by brianju 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I completely disagree...if she would have wanted that then she would have said something to you (going overboard). If she doesn't tell you anything it's because she is not ready. I'm saving myself until marriage and I would not like for a guy to do that to me... it's disrespectful, and she is a gem for being a virgin.
2007-02-16 08:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember that no means no, i'm not sure means no, and maybe means no as well. in this situation the only thing that means yes is yes. this will spare the both of you unnecessary tears in the future. neither of you will feel devastated for the rest of your lives if you don't have sex now, but you could be if you do and one of you isn't ready. if you ask her and she doesn't sound absolutely sure, do not push. this will show that you respect her and want what she wants. and if you love her as you say you do, then you will be more than willing to wait. as for bringing it up to her, ask in the most straight forward manner possible; you both should know exactly what each other wants. do not imply anything. that said, don't be blunt and crude about it either. find the honest middle ground, so that she knows you aren't trying to take advantage of her or just "get down her pants." i hope this helps. buenos suertes;)
2007-02-16 16:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by nobu_abe87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys have gotten pretty close. She trusts you. Feel free to ask her.
If you're scared to ask her before why not ask her after you guys have fooled around a lot? She'll be pretty turned on by then and should be willing.
As long as you don't pressure her into having sex or reassure her that this won't lead to intercourse, she should allow you to.
2007-02-16 16:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-one can answer this without knowing the girl in question. It might be a little less threatening and more romantic to gently suggest it when you are having one of your exploration sessions. However, you need to respect her wishes if she is not completely comfortable doing anything you might suggest.
2007-02-16 16:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you two are exploring ask her if she would like for you to do her a favor, or just start playing with her zipper or something, see how she reacts.
remember to send me the video ;)
2007-02-16 16:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by crymsyneyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take it further but if she says no then stop or tell her how you feel about her and that you wanna take things further. tell her its up to her how far you go and that you'll still feel the same way about her if she doesnt wanna do anythin. good luck, you seem like a really sweet guy.
2007-02-16 16:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by xamethystx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about getting her drunk first? It's a win/win situation as you get to easily slide into 3rd base and she can deny anything happened the next day due to memory loss. Dang I'm good!
FYI: This advice is free this time, but next time I gotta charge ya. Peace!
2007-02-16 16:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hey respect her and be thankful of what you got so far and she thank you later stop trying to push
2007-02-16 16:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to MARRY her, I think.
2007-02-16 16:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it and if she says no, try again and again and again.
2007-02-16 16:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋