I found out recently that my fiancee changed his cell phone number becuase a girl kept calling him. I was told that she kept crying and telling him to break off his marriage and marry her instead. I am very upset about this. I don't know aht to do..?
2007-02-16 07:38:17 · 16 answers · asked by stephanie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He's known her since high school i guess-so about 15 years. They had a one night stand.. I've never met her...
2007-02-16 09:33:55 · update #1
More details- so this is what i know:
He had a one night stand with her a back when they were younger -i'm saying around 20ish. (They are both 30si now)... He then ended up likeing her friend, but still remaining in contact with this chick...I found out about this one night when he was talking to some of his buddies and he said that he changed the phone number cause 'you know why' and i asked and then he told me...She doesn't live in the same city as us right now, but i don't know why she would constantly be phoning me....
2007-02-16 10:41:58 · update #2
I need more details, this is very cryptic.
Do you know this girl?
Is this a past relationship from before you were in the picture?
If not, how does your fiance know this girl?
Also, did you find out about this or did he tell you?
My biggest concern is that he may have been with you and possibly fooling around with her on the side, which is not good, even if he has ended things with her, he still may have been cheating. In which case I would say GET OUT NOW.
If its a past relationship, I think I might just kind of laugh at her for being that pathetic and then give him a big hug for being so awesome about it.
Can you answer the above questions though to give us a better idea of what you are dealing with.
OK, so when was this one night stand and may I ask how old is he and how old would you guess this girl is? This is very strange to me that she would be hung up on someone from 15 years ago, which makes me suspicious that something else has occurred. Also, you didnt say whether he was the one to tell you aboutthe phone # change or if you found out some other way.
I cant even fathom a reason this girl is calling him and begging him to marry her. Doesnt sound like all the lights are on, if you know what I mean. I definitely would bring it up with your fiance when you two are alone and try to figure out why she would be doing this to both of you when its been at least 10 years and their relationship wasnt anything to write home about. Sounds a bit "fatal attraction" to me,(or Swimfan for the younger crowd). BUT I dont think I would worry about your fiance, he has been honest with you and if he can bring it up with you there in front of his friends (which, I mean, boys have the BIGGEST mouths if there was something one of them would have been an ****** and said something) then nothing is going on. But tell him you are feeling a bit put-off by the whole thing and let him reassure you to get some piece of mind.
Good luck!
2007-02-16 09:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
This sort of thing happened to me too--my fiance's ex-girlfriend, PLUS another girl who had her eye on him--kept contacting him, crying, begging him to break up with me; a few days before our wedding the second girl threw a screaming fit about it at a place where he works. It was very upsetting, but my fiance (now my DH) handled it right. He changed his phone number, deleted the emails, refused to talk to them, etc. And once we were married all that stuff stopped, they gave up. It was a freaky thing to go through . . . I knew my guy was hot, but this was unbelievable! Anyway, what's key here is now he handles it and it sounds like your fiance is doing it right.
2007-02-16 10:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did the right thing. He is trying to get rid of the problem before it gets worse. He's told you about it too, so I wouldn't worry about him. He's being honest. If somehow she finds his new number and keeps buggin or she gets worse in any way, I'd get a restraining order against her. BUT move on with the wedding planning and try not to worry about the crazy girl. Have fun...
2007-02-16 07:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he changed his phone number b/c someone was harrassing him then he's doing pretty good. If he's considering breaking off the marriage then you have a problem on your hands. Ask him to be straight up with you.
2007-02-16 07:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by JustAsking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel but the good news is that he was honest with you and changed his number. He cant help it if a girl is physcho and wont leave him alone.. dont let this girl do what she set out to do - ruin your relationship. Eventually, you wont think about it much and it wont hurt anymore. Take Care Honey.
2007-02-16 11:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your fiancee, and let him handle it. He seems to be committed to you, anyways. So why make the matter worse for you? The man needs to deal with the previous relationship by himself, otherwise, it would affect both of you.
2007-02-16 08:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by dansdna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What should you do? Realize that your fiance is trying to start off on the right foot. Why are you wasting energy thinking about the one he did not choose. Enjoy your life.
2007-02-16 08:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be glad! Your fiancé loves you enough to have actually changed his cell phone number to get away from this girl!
2007-02-16 07:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset too, but it sounds like you have nothing to worry about. He changed his number; he's obviously not interested. You will always have jealous people around.
2007-02-16 07:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he changed his number so right off the top he is making the first step in the right direction
2007-02-16 07:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tamalee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋