I have been in the house for 5 days straight with a 2 year old with ODD.?

Question

I dont drive and its too cold to go on a bus. I have no money on me either and Im getting very aggitated and irritated.
I have no friends either, due to appeasing my bfs insecurities I have lost my friends and/or social life...do I have a right to become bitchy when he gets home from work?
I ve run out of ideas to keep the kid busy as well...and family is non existent, Im 26.

When I said I have no money I MEANT AT THE MOMENT...not in general, the 2 pantrys are stock full of food.

Answer 1

What crack-pot therapist diagnosed a 2 year old with ODD? Or is that your own diagnosis? Two year old children are oppositional, that doesn't mean they have a disorder.

Don't be bitchy when he gets home, give him the kid and tell him you need a break. Walk out the door and take some time to yourself. Come back when you feel a little better.

Answer 2

I understand you are frustrated. ODD at that age is a strange diagnosis. He is rather young. How was he evaluated? Try doing things he likes, always reward the GOOD behavior. Play or read to him, keep it short though. A 2 yr old's attention span is short. When you have another adult present - go outside for a walk. Nap when the kid naps. Bitchy won't help the situation.
You might also try calling your state dept of education or dept of health. If he has been diagnosed, they may even have a preschool program for him. Sometimes these are even subsidized or free. It may give you a break.

Answer 3

You sound worn out; your partner should give you some time off, if even for a couple hours. You know, 26 is just beginning in life, and though you feel spent right now, I promise it will get better.

I think too often labels are put on children when in fact there is NOTHING wrong with the child except they are two. There is nothing wrong with being two, but I truly believe there is no way for a doctor to "pigeon hole" your baby with ODD; I wouldn't even give that the time of day. Sweet one, little people don't need a lot of "things", they are thrilled with playing with pots&pans or plastic dishes in the cupboard, clear out a low cupboard so the child can play store, you could even give them empty boxes and they love that kind of thing. Take a cardboard box and draw some wheels on it and fix it up like a little car, there are lots of things that don't cost anything to create and the child will be busy for hours.

If you start looking at your child like the "baby" it is, your baby who came into this world completely innocent with no preconceived notion to cause you grief, the baby will act differently as well, because it will no longer feel that negative coming from you. Try to let go of all the garbage you've been fed and start to embrace your life as an opportunity and your baby a blessing, you will be amazed at the freedom and joy that will come.

Try to start taking care of yourself as well, try to catch a nap when your husband comes home to restore. Anyone who thinks being home with a little one is a walk in the park and no work has to get their head examined.

When the sun shines again and you can get out, see about getting hooked-up with a play group in your area; that is where young parents can come with their little ones and have a nice time visiting and their little ones can play. This would open up new friendships for both of you and allow you to see things from a different perspective. Whatever you do, know you are doing a wonderful job and that is why God intrusted this baby to you.

Don't feel guilty for feeling blue, just realize what it is and allow yourself to move right on through it. Things will get better!

You need to focus on all the wonderful things you are and want for your life, and focus less on what isn't, because the only thing in that equation holding you back from being/doing anything you want is you. Let go of the thoughts that would burden and replace them with all the possibilities.

Don't forget, you do have a family out here beyond your front door, and that is this community that is made up of individuals with real hearts, minds, stories that care very much about you. Please, keep in touch with us and shout out any time, we will be here.

P.S., I was reading these replies to you and I just want to say, you all give me hope for this world, what wonderful caring hearts!

Answer 4

Okay, not addressing the title question right away but here goes. If you have lost friends to appease your insecure boyfriend, that tells me he is an emotional abuser. He has successfully isolated and has control of you. I don't care if he has never hit you. You are in an abusive relationship and you need to get out of it.
This is adding to your stress. You need friends, especially friends with children, to be with and to talk to. Pick up the phone can call them. If your boyfriend doesn't like it, tough. You need a life and without one, you cannot properly care for your child, ODD or not. If he dumps you over this, is says plainly that he cares nothing for your happiness or your health and his need to control you has no room for real love.
Call our friends. Tell them the reason you have pulled away and apologize for it. Let them help you find a new place to live away from your loser boyfriend.
Also call the Domestic Abuse hot-lines in your area. They are in the phone book. Abuse is abuse, no matter if it's emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, or spiritual, and you have a right to avoid it. Even if you are not ready to leave your boyfriend, they can help you with ideas on how to move forward with your life.
Your emotional health is extremely important to your child, and getting your social life back will certainly give you something to do after 5 days of going crazy with a 2 year old.

Answer 5

What is ODD? I have a girl almost 2 so I know how difficult it can be! I think you both need to get out of the house in some way. Maybe take your husband to work in the morning if you have a car. Go for a walk with the toddler. I know a toddler can be more difficult if you keep him inside too often.

Answer 6

Sorry but I don't know what ODD is I guess you mean ADD.

Sure you have the right to be bitchy ,it's his fault your feeling this way,you should make a really big scene act like a nut case start throwing things around screaming
at him make him think your losing your mind .

Who the hell does he think he is not allowing you to have a social life?

If he's abusing you physicaly get out!

Answer 7

Yes you do have a right to become cranky.You have to try getting out with the child even if it means going to the local mall and walking with the child.Your boyfriend should not be stressing you about your friends or family.If he is insecure then he is going to have to be more flexible.How about a babysitter.Get yourself a part time job if possible.Good luck.

Answer 8

No, you don't ever have the right to be bitchy.

However, your bf has an obligation to help with the 2-year-old, unless the child is not his.

Sorry, I have no ideas. You are in a very tough situation.

Answer 9

I used to be married to man like that. Very controlling, manipulative and isolated me from everyone. I fell for it because I was very young. Please get help and get out of there. What he is doing to you is a form of abuse. Tell him what you want and what you expect, if he throws a fit them wait until you have the money, get your kiddo and leave. I hope that you have some form of family that you could go to.

Answer 10

You need help. Call a helpline. You need to talk with someone. The key is your having lost your support system. There is something seriously wrong with any bf who needs to isolate you. Get help...and maybe get out of this relationship.
Good luck!