yea i'm a virgin he isnt and i want to do it with him but i cant help being nervous and scared. and we're actually gonna do it at school in the bathroom next week bc my mom doesnt let me go anywhere but i'm so nervous.
2007-02-16 07:29:42 · 64 answers · asked by soccerstarsara33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do if you want to, not for him or no one else. If but it in your head and makes you think and feel like you want to do it. DON'T cause after the fact its done he might not want you anymore. Guys like to brag bout taking someones virginity, hell I was one of them but I learn the hard way bout that. Think about it and I know you don't want ya 1st time to be in the bathroom at school. WAIT
2007-02-16 23:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Killa Wiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunni...Let me give u the best advice on this OK? This young man in which u are speakin about is not worth u loosing ur virginity something u will NEVER get back in a bathroom. Think about it a bathroom? Let me tell u something it is definitely understandable u are ready to have sex but I think u should wait I am not gonna say not to do it but please don't feel pressured by him or let ur hormones deter u from logical thinking. I don't care how cute or whatever this young man is I will be damn if I let someone take my virginity in the BATHROOM. Please think about that. Also, he should have enough dignity to at least think logically and hold off and this even. But to him unfortunately he doesn't care as much because 1. like u said he is NOT a virgin
2. He just wants to get a nut aka have sex with u just so he can feel good. Girl trust me I know the game and u tell him u r NOT gonna loose ur virginity in a BATHROOM stall @school. Tell him I said instead of suggesting the bathroom stall @ school while he is @ school tell him to go pick up a dam book about being a little more sensitive to a females feelings. Good luck mama!!
2007-02-16 07:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by nae718 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop! First, don't do it in the bathroom because you will remember all your life the first time you had sex and that will NOT be a great memory. Second, if he is fine with doing it in the bathroom then he is not the guy for you. Any decent guy would want your first experience to be nice for you and if he is willing to do it in the bathroom then he just's wants sex. Finally, ask yourself if you have sex with him and he dumps you a week later how will you feel? Lots of guys are sweet and nice up until you have sex then BAM they've gone on to the next innocent girl. You may really like this guy but if you are scared and nervous maybe deep inside you know you are not ready. Good luck.
2007-02-16 07:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by 2craz4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is nervous the first time. Its a new thing, and sometimes you feel like you are never ready.
Keep in mind, you are only 16, you still have lots of time. This will be something you remember for the rest of your life. The school bathroom is a terrible place for a first time. There will be the smells, and don't forget, what if someone walks in on you two.
You will regret this. If this guy is pressuring you into this, which in most cases at that age a guy usually does, then don't do it. There are other ways of proving your love.
You also mentioned that he has already done this. Why did he break up with his last girlfriend. Whats to stop him from leaving you once he has sex with you. He might be doing this to add you to his list of girls. You will probably lose your reputation at school too. In schools society, if a girl sleeps around she is considered a slut, so be prepared to carry this name with you.
2007-02-16 07:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by only_one_vince 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i don't think ur ready. if u have sex, then u might get pregnant. protection doesn't always work and u can still get diseases.
second of all, a bathroom! i can't believe ur soo desperate to have sex that u'll have it in a bathroom the only reason ur probably having sex is because, since ur mom won't let u do anything or go anywhere u want to disobey her. that's not a good reason, i'm not sayin u have to have a good reason to have sex, i'm sayin its just wrong
third of all, if u do it in a bathroom, someone might come in and see u! do u know what that would mean? they would probably tell an adult and u could get in serious trouble. then they could also spread ugly rumors like ur a stripper or u have sex with every guy. do u really want that as ur rep. that's not cool, neither is having sex and age 16. u shouldn't have sex till ur married cause then u would have a nice job, a great husband, and a great home. then u can support ur family. idt u should have sex. u shouldn't care if ur bf had sex already, he has experience and u don't . keep it that way. if he pressures u then u should dump him because u need to wait and he needs to understand. u have the power to mold ur life. do u really want to be a girl doin anything to keep u and ur child alive. i bet that if u get pregnant ur bf would back out. he wouldn't help u with anythin. wut will u tell ur child, i had sex with my bf and he didn't want to be part of ur life. no. uif u have sex, then u should think bout what that would do to ur future. and ur baby's future. don't be selfish make the right choice. don't have sex.
2007-02-16 07:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by pateljill 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, eveything he instructed you is for the reason that he wants intercourse. Dont hate him though cuz its a normal wish and you'll never find a man no longer like that (absolutely). Even satisfactory guys secretly need sex. Now i'm a man so i cant relatively answer what i might do in that concern however I dont quite see having intercourse earlier than you're married as a horrible sin. Total, dont have sex when you dont want to but additionally dont drive yourself to not do what you need. You wont go to hell for it. P.S. In case you turn out to be having intercourse, make him put on a condom.
2016-08-10 16:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do something now, that you will regret later. If you are nervous and scared it's because your not ready to go all the way.
Oh and how romantic to loose your viginity in the school bathroom, don't you consider yourself better than that.
Believe me honey once you give yourself to him, he will forget you ever existed.
For whatever it's worth, don't do it, save yourself for someone who will have the honor of waiting and making this day special for you. He's not a virgin, so he doesn't care where he does it, as long as he gets it. If he really cares, he will wait, if not, then he's not worth your time. Don't be pressured into giving yourself to him thinking he's going to leave you, if he does, then your better off. Really think about what your doing, what if you come out pregnant? You think he'll stay around to raise the child?
2007-02-16 07:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At school... in the bathroom...
In one word, no.
Your first time is your first time. It should have some meaning attached to it, not be a stand up quickie in a place where you can very well be interrupted, caught and punished.
In my experience, there's nothing that a high school boy has to offer that's worth the time. Wait until you find someone who's interested in showing you a good time in exchange for the elusive prize of your virginity. Even a bed is better than a cold bathroom floor with no privacy.
You're better off waiting than giving in, and if you must give in, insist on a condom and some class to the act.
2007-02-16 07:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jarien 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
in the school bathroom? good god, come on hun, thats not where your first time should be. If you have to do that its not your time. You should wait until you dont have to sneak around to do it. I lost mine at 16, so Im not being a hipocrite and saying there is anything wrong with that... just think this through. Is it worth getting suspended or expelled from school? Is it worth having someone find out and then all of a sudden youre known as the school slut? Is it worth falling into a toilet over? I dont think so.... worst case scenario, wait until spring/summer and do it somewhere more private like in the woods on a soft blanket or something. Plus for your first time, theres no way you'll be able to do it standing up and you dont wanna be on a bathroom floor either.
2007-02-16 07:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't respect you in the morning. You need to read your own question and you will know what to do. You are nervous and scared because you know it is wrong. And you want your first time to be in the school bathroom? How touching! I am sure it will be something you will treasure forever. Keep your pants on kid and forget sex. This guy is just a passing phase. He just wants to score. Sex is overrated and it leads to pregnacy. Just imagine what it will be like to be preg in hi school. Think about the converstion you will have about it with your parents. Can you deal with the consequences? And don't say you will have safe-sex.
2007-02-16 07:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are that scared then you shouldn't be having sex. This is a very big, special moment in your life, do you really want it to be in a bathroom. As someone who has had sex allot, in many different places, i am telling you that will not be a comfortable place. The bathroom will limit your options for positions, and believe me, it will not be comfortable. For a women to achieve the most pleasure, even one that has been having sex for a while, the best positions are either girl on top or missionary, neither of which are feasible in that setting. Besides, what if someone walks in on you? that would destroy your reputation. And if your bleeding? you will need some way of cleaning up.
2007-02-16 07:37:07 · answer #11 · answered by Nicole E 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋