I've been on a lot of dates and been through four serious relationships in the past two years. and I was just thinking....my dates/boyfriends never Ever paid for me. Is this normal? Or did I just date cheapos?
2007-02-16 07:27:42 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey you dated cheapos sorry, if a man asks you out on a date, then he is to pay for it, now if you ask him out and are going out casually, then you should pay for yourself, but at least see if he will offer and if he will then refuse once and then if her persists them allow him to pay.
2007-02-16 07:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If your dates never paid for you, that's a bit strange. I think it's just courtesy and being polite.
In general, I would say that whoever asks who out pays, or some arrangement where one party doesn't pick up the bill each time. Perhaps if a couple in a relationship agree to go out, whoever suggests the activity should pay for it. That's what my girlfriend and I do, and it works fine.
My girlfriend and I try to switch off, but I usually end up paying for most of them because I earn more than twice as much as she does. I had always been used to picking up the check with girls that I had dated, but I have to admit that it felt nice to be taken care of once in awhile. It did take me awhile to get used to it.
I don't recommend each person paying for themselves or what they ate, nor splitting the bill in half. It can lead to problems regarding arguing over who SHOULD pay, or not carry exact change, or whatever.
Sorry to say, but it appears you dated cheap men if none of them ever paid for you, especially men which whom you considered yourself to be in "serious relationships".
2007-02-16 15:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I pay for myself usually because money makes me feel awkward and I don't want to feel obligated to someone. Now that I am in a more serious relationship, I still pay, but occasionally my boyfriend will take the check and pay, or if we are out with friends. I think women shouldn't expect to be paid for,(especially if you are asking him out) it will make you appreciate it when/if they do pay.
2007-02-16 15:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
most girls ive been out with we have split the bill 50 50. There has been times ive paid for a girlfriend and shes paid for me. But we never had any arguments over whose paid.
I think its acceptable to split bills on dates. Why should the guy pay for drinks and everything?
2007-02-16 15:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Robert G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why should the guy pay, women are always complaining about their equality rights and how they should be treated as equal to men, then they expect the guy to pay for a meal and drinks and be treated like a princess if they go out on a date. I mean, come on girls, ye cant have it both ways!!
2007-02-16 15:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by nobby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is usual for the guy to at least offer to pay. Having said that, the girls I have been out with in the pasthave taken great offence when I insisted on paying. One girl accused me of suggesting that she was a charity case because I wanted to pay for both our meals.
2007-02-16 15:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sometimes_maybe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant judge someone by if they pay for you or not, you dont know if they have enough money to pay for both of you it seriously happens i know many friends who simply cant afford to pay for both themselves and their girlfriend its not called cheapness its called understanding that not everyones outlook on dating is the same... personally i would not want to waste money at my age on a date because its not going to progress significantly in the high school years, but if you have a job and youve got enough money then by all means pay for the girl, if your like me dont have a job and only studies for their education then dont pay. If the girl is going to be shallow and dump you because she feels your "cheap" then she's just after your money...
2007-02-16 16:26:32 · answer #7 · answered by not32myself 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no more excuses chickie!! Any guy who is trying to impress you would NEVER let you pay!
So if he does not care to impress you in the beginning, then what does that say?
Don't try to stand up for him, just accept it that he did not care to impress and move on.
On the other hand, if a man makes the move to pay, DON'T fight him for the check. Let him be the man and pay! That's what men like to do, feel like men!
Don't you try to look especially nice for a date? It would be the same as you showing up in sweats with dirty hair and yesterday's makeup.
No more second dates with men who don't care to impress! A real man would not treat a nice lady like you like that!
2007-02-16 15:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by notsureifimshy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he asks, he needs to pay. Same goes for you. If you're just friends, that's a different story, but if you're dating, one good litmus test is whether or not the guy is just too cheap to pay. If so, he's probably cheap in other areas as well....
2007-02-16 15:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by Stef 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it is not normal. you can pay for your self ones in a while but not very often. i think you just dated cheapos
2007-02-16 15:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Daisy l 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋