how do i tell my parents?

Question

ok well as we all know people make mistakes right? so how do i tell my dad that im pregnant he will probably kick me out the house or throw alot of stuff around i made a mistake im not afraid to admit that but my babys dad is behind me 100% (not alot of guys are like that) plus im 14 so how do i tell him? he might even hit me

i want to keep the baby it's my responsibility

no mom and only 14 just dad and brother

Answer 1

That's a toughy.. What are you doing having sex at age 14 anyhow? If you were my daughter you would be grounded until you were old enough to get out on your own, and you would get a night or after school job and pay for everything yourself, then I would sue the boys parents because they are responsible for the boys actions and he would have to get a job to pay child support.

Answer 2

You don't say how old the daddy is because if he is the same age as you are, then he is too stupid to know the responsibility of having a child. If he is 18 or older, then he is just a pervert. Now, as far as telling your parents, most dads don't want to know that their little princess was really just a little prostitute. So understandably so, he will be upset and truly disappointed in you. A real parent though, after having some time to calm down, will want to take you in to see the doctor as soon as possible to ensure the health of both of you. Then will come tough decisions to be made about what to do with the baby if it is carried full term and whether or not abortion and or adoption is an option. This is really a bad situation and the sooner you deal with it, the better.

Answer 3

First of all, it's not the end of the world. You should talk to a teacher or guidance counselor at school...maybe they can help you break the news to your dad. You don't mention a mom, but if there is one in the picture ( or an aunt...older sister etc.) you might want to confide in them and ask them to help. Your dad will absolutely be upset....but in time he will get over it. Fourteen is so very young to start a family. You might want to think about giving this baby up for adoption. My daughter was 14 when she bacame pregnant. She is 19 now...kept the baby...who is the absolute love of my life, but she should have given him up. She has missed out on EVERYTHING a normal teenager does...had to drop out of school. She went to the alternative program, but had issues with child care. She never got to go to her prom, and the father of the baby is not around anymore. Her friends are pretty much gone out of her life...different interests, like going to clubs etc. She is always stuck home. Think about the commitment it takes to raising a baby. It's hard. If you keep the baby, see if there are any support group for teen parents. You will need all the help you can get...Good luck and God Bless you!!

Answer 4

Do you have a mother?

Tell her first, and have her help you figure out how to approach your dad. She'll know better how to handle him than any stranger would.

EDIT: If your brother is older, talk to him first and have him help. If your brother is younger, then the other person's suggestion of talking to your guidance couselor is the best option. You won't be the first pregnant teenager the counselor has had to help.

As for the baby being your responsibility...sometimes the most responsible thing you can do is give your baby a better life by letting someone else adopt him/her. I don't know your specific circumstances, and can't tell you what's best, but don't stubbornly stick to your plans no matter what unless you're sure that's what's best for the kid.

Answer 5

Oh sweetheart I do hope that you are mistaken. If you are certain that you are pregnant I would not tell my dad without first telling an Aunt/Uncle or Grandparent who will approach your Dad with you with this news. How old is your boyfriend? You do need to be absolutely sure you are pregnant before you approach him. What tests have you taken? When was your last period? If you are not pregnant, please go to family planning and talk to a counselor about contraceptives and use them. You are too young to be a mom and yes it would be a huge blow to your dad and also a financial responsibilty that he will have to take on. He is raising a son and a daughter without a wife. This has to be difficult. I am a single Mom and it is a difficult life. I am hoping that you are not pregnant. Good luck to you!

Answer 6

I have a daughter around your age myself, and I know that fathers can give the impressionthat they will "kill them" if something like that happened to discourage their daughters... But fact is that if it should happen there is nothing I could do but to comfort her and support her 100%. I love my daughter unconditionally, and most fathers do. Having said that, I don't know your father so I can't say much about how he could react. I think you should remember you still have some time to think and talk with friends and ppl you trust. You're in a very difficult and life changing situation, but that doesn't mean it can't work out well. I'm happy that your bf is man enough to stand up for you and be by your side, he can help you but you need others too. Try to worry less and talk with people who can help you, and it might just go well - you're not the first one :-) Good luck :-)

Answer 7

dang grl i know what ur going throughi was there to but its not the babys fault so he cant get mad at it just u and if he does hit u make sure that he does it after the baby but have ur boyfrind there with u it will relieve the stress a little and he would be less likly to hit u knowing that he was there just sit hem down and be open and dont keep anything from him and just tell him that u know u made a mistake and u know that it is a big respsiblilty and all but yes he will be mad but in the long wrong he will get over it and help out dont be to scard parents cant feel that and since that fact that ur keeping it from him so just tell him and get it in the open the sooner the better

Answer 8

I had a cousin that got pregnant at 14. I hope that you are willing to accept the changes that are fixing to come in your life. I think that you should just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your parents. I 'm sure that they will be upset but hopefully they understand that people do mistakes. If your father throws you out, then you should stay with your boyfriends family until your father cools off. I hope that everything goes okay for you and that you have a healthy pregnancy.

Answer 9

talk to another adult you trust, maybe someone from your school and have them be with you when you break the news to your parents. I was 19 when I had my baby and it was really hard and really changed my life, and as much as I love my daughter, if I could go back i would have waited. You should really look within yourself and realise that you have so much ahead of you in life and there are other options than keeping the baby. I wish you the best of luck either way.
and p.s. if your babys dad is 14 too, he may say he's behind you but he wont be.

Answer 10

oh my. 14 is pretty young to be pregnant but Im not here to knock you. If you are anticpating your dad is gonna be upset ( especially you are his baby girl and probably the only girl) try to get him at a time when you know he's not gonna freak out. Most dad's do get a lil upset when it comes to the dangers of their daughters. If your mom is around, maybe you should tell her first and the both of you go and tell your father. Oh yeah, try praying as well....everything will be ok.

Answer 11

He won't hit you and if he does he is an ***. You messed up in a big way but he is going to notice eventually. So sit him down and tell him what's going on. Personally I would spring it on my mother first and do all of this without the baby's dad there because your dad might try and rip him apart.

I am sorry to hear that you didn't take proper precautions. I hope that your family will help you raise your child.