Overreacting?

Question

I need some advice. I am debating on leaving my 2 year old with her aunt who is 12. Grandma will be there as well as her on and off boyfriend and his daughter who is 13. But, the 13 year old has made mention that she doesn't like me, don't know why,don't care really. What bothers me is the 13 year old has said that one of my children should die (I have 3) because I have to many. Should I be concerned? Should I leave my 2 year old with her aunt when the 13 year old is there? or am I just overreacting? (When this 13 year old has misbehaved or said something distrubing she was just told to be quiet.)

Answer 1

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! Honey, this is your child you are talking about. A 12 year old should not be caring for a two year old. I have a two year old and I would NEVER allow a 12 year old to care for him. This does not seem like a healthy, happy, productive environment. Come on now, you common sense!?!? This is the life of an innocent child that cannot protect themself. If you really need a sitter, there has got to be better options. Really... I would strongly be opposed to you doing this.

Answer 2

I wouldn't leave a two year old with a 12 year old in charge, even if Grandma was there. Now, if Grandma is willing to be responsible (because she'll be able to keep an eye on the 13 year old) that's a whole 'nother story. But there is no way a 12 year old could protect her against a vindictive 13 yo.

Sounds like a Montel show. Maybe you should find another babysitter, it'd be worth the money.

Answer 3

You are not overreacting. Your gut is telling you that there is something wrong with this situation. I would feel a lot worse if it was JUST the 12 year old aunt and the 13 year old (psycho). But you did mention that Grandma is going to be there.
This is a judgement call on your part.
If it were me, I wouldn't.
And what's up with this man not disciplining his daughter who has made such utterly inappropriate comments?
Perhaps it is time this guy hears of the comments she has made so that he can address her issues.
Follow your instincts - it's the best advice I can give you.

Answer 4

No way would I leave my child in the presence of the 13 year old. She's bad news and nobody knows what she is capable of. As stated in the last sentence of your question, she receives no guidance or discipline. The 13 year old needs help. Don't do it.

Answer 5

Follow your gut. You do not think your child should be left near that awful 13 year old girl, and I agree that she might try to pull something. It seems like she has serious emotional/behavioral problems. Can you get the 12 year old to come to your house or someplace else to watch the child?

Answer 6

I wouldn't leave my child with that situation. Those are disturbing thoughts and actions for a 13 year old.

Answer 7

i would not leave her there, i wouldnt feel comfortable, since she doesnt like you, she would want to do soemthing to hurt you, and she would do something to your kids. And i def. wouldnt leave her there if she made comments about your kids needing to die, i would get that child some help. the parents obviously dont see whats going on.

Answer 8

I don't think I would leave my children with any one who has thought one of then needed to die...Just does not sound very healthy or smart to me...ss

Answer 9

Don't do it. If you don't feel comfortable less stress and the girl already light weight threatend you about your kids...Girl if I was you and you was going out I guess the kids should go out with you or find someone else to look after them.

Answer 10

Do everything to get out of that situation! TRUST ME! Please, don't leave her there. And, why does grandma have a boyfriend? Odd.