I've been in a 5 year relationship with a guy he was 17 and I was 18 when we started...Now he says before getting married he would like to experience and date other girls before getting committed to me because he doesnt want to get married without knowing whats out there...How do I respond to this???
He says if were meant to be we shall be together again....
2007-02-16 06:55:09 · 10 answers · asked by Alejandra2008 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to say, but this guy is not in love with you. If he was, he would never take the Chance of losing you to another. But he is willing too. Let alone the fact is, he wants to go out and look himself, to see if he can find something better. I am so sorry, but he is actually doing you a favor. It may not feel like it right now, but in the future when you meet your Mr. Wonderful, you'll realize it. Better days are ahead for you, believe me!
2007-02-16 07:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh...That's a tough one for you. Sorry. From your stand point that is NOT what you want to hear. From his....It's really necessary for him to experience what he says because if he doesn't at least try sex with a few other women he will most likely cheat on you later. It is almost impossible for a guy to truly commit to having sex with only one person for the rest of his life. No matter how much he really loves you....He will always be wondering what it's like to be with someone else and it's best to get it over with now before you go any farther. It will bug you though...You will have to be strong . Good luck!
2007-02-16 15:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Fireman T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't want to marry you and he's using that as an excuse to go out whoring. If I were you I would dump his *** and go have some fun, you are too young to get married anyway. Being in your 20's is for having sex with all the wrong people for all the wrong reasons.
2007-02-16 14:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by bkweeks2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him OK, but it's a two way street! Even if you don't want to, go out and date. I'm not saying you need to jump into bed with everybody. You may actually find someone who 's feelings are closer to yours.
2007-02-16 15:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by debjb1953 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that he has someone in mind that he wants to go out with. I think if it were me, I'd tell him that if we break up, it's for good. Sounds to me like he just wants to date someone else and if that relationship doesn't work out he wants you as a back-up.
2007-02-16 15:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him it seems he is just looking for an excuse to get out of this relationship.
This is my understanding. Just take decision only after you have considered other answers.
2007-02-16 15:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by looking for love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Totally immature and not ready to get married. Wait at least 5years.
2007-02-16 14:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really love u and wanted to be with u, he wouldnt want to see whats out there,,u need to kick him to the curb and moce on,, if u even contemplate staying with him or gettin back with him then u 2 deserve each other
2007-02-16 15:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by madre_de_isabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he's lost interest in you and not ready to get married and he might be breaking up with you
2007-02-16 15:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he just wants to make sure he is getting the best he can. in my opinion, if he isnt sure that nobody could be as good to him as you, it isnt worth waiting around for him to come back.
2007-02-16 15:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Lips-of-an-angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋