My 5 and 6 yr old cry and fight too much HELP?

Question

My kids are 5 and 6 yrs old 2 girls and they fight too much as soon as they get in from schoolk they fight over just about anything and after 3pm its crying and fighting all day I dont know what to do, can anyone tell me how to deal with this situation, i put them in separate rooms but as soon as they coem out they cry again and fight if anyone has any suggestions let me know thanks

Answer 1

When my kids come home from school the first thing that they do is take a little nap. They could be exhausted from school..... that could be why they are crying so much. You need to also try taking things away from them when they start fighting. My kids learned that if they do not behave then they get their favorite toy taken away until they earn it back.

Answer 2

You need to watch Supper Nanny. She is wonderful. You need to discipline both of your girls. Discipline that you follow through with. You can not just bark orders and expect them to follow. You must have enough resolve to put them back into time out for 2 hours if that is what it takes. I have a 5 year old girl too. She can be very trying. She gets warned one time by myself or my husband explaining what behavior is wrong and what we expect and what will happen if she does not do what we expect. This is all done very simply. For example...if she has thrown something. She will be told"throwing is not allowed, this is your warning if you throw one more time you will be in time out". She has learned that I will not cave in and I will follow through. Once the child has finished a time out you must discuss why they were in time out. Then tell them you love them and give them a hug. My daughter is not spanking free, I do not however suggest anyone use that due to the fact that some people may hit too much or too hard when angry. I know I can get pretty upset and that is when I will not hit my child. I take a break from the situation. We use both of these techniques and I must say our daughter is pretty well behaved. She does not have the sibling issue as her brother is only 7 months, but I am telling you Supper Nanny really does work. Watch her and use her tips, incorporate your own style, but first and for most children need to be disciplined and you must follow through.

Answer 3

This is gonna sound cruel and unusual, but it works: Place both kids in a "time out". Get a timer of some kind and place each one in a chair with no outside stimulus (TV, etc.) besides an empty room and keep them there for however old they are. 5 minutes for the 5 year old and 6 minutes for the 6 year old. Combine the times for when they are both bad. If need be, sternly wanr them of a spanking if they act up. (If you spank, then just give them one each time they do something in the chair. If you don't believe in spanking, then use stern verbal warnings.) When they fight, you can make them hold hands while they are in time out. It may be hard to get them to settle for it at first, but they will break out of it eventually. It works for my 8 year old boy and 6 year old girl every time. They will straighten right up when they hear us tell them to hold hands.

Answer 4

I'm sorry, I can help a little, but nothing will really stop that as far as I know - my kids do the same thing and it drives me crazy! Mine are 4 and 6 and fight like animals sometimes. One thing you can do is put them on punishment rather than just separating them - one minute in time out for each year. I also have a craft box that I pull out when my little ones start to get like that. They paint and glue and color and it usually keeps them out of each other's way for a bit. Good luck!

Answer 5

If you find the solution let me know!! lol I have boys ages 10&8 and they do the same, only they take it to the extreme and try to duke it out sometimes. I've tried making them sit indian style-knee to knee-in a time out and it works to a point. But usually I make them go in separate rooms and they can't come out until they are ready to discuss it w/o whining or yelling. Also, we use 3 strikes and you're out. Each time I have to yell at them, they get a strike, three strikes and they are grounded for a day. Whether it be f/ friends or a special toy.

Answer 6

What is the fighting really about - toys? attention? other? Try and find this out first.

If it's a toy and it is out anyone can play with it - - it does not matter who owns it. Say the 6 year old leave out a favorite stuffy and is not playing with it and the 5 year old picks it up. The 5 year old gets to keep playing with it until she is done.

If its attention - set up regular times with each girl so they know when it’s their mommy time.

If it's something else, like good old sibling rivalry, as long as they are not hurting each other (NO hitting or throwing things) tell them to work it out themselves. When they know you will not be the tie breaker they will need to work it out.

If they are hitting - create a chore list and let them know if they hit or throw things this is what they have to do. If EITHER girl is the problem, both have to do extra chores. Soon you will find if one of the girls is the main instigator and you can deal with that individually. But if they both equally annoy each other they both have extra work.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

Heres the thing...their five and six girlsss!! No seriously dont stress yourself out so much because girls fight, especially close in age. One day they will learn to appreciate each other but not for a long time. I didn't even like my sister until I was in college.
But in the mean time try to express communication, which is hard. But explain to them correct ways of arguing instead of screaming at each other. Use words like, "I dont like it when you..." which is more positive way of anger. Tell them that screaming and crying is inappropriate behavior, which you will not accept. They need to just work it out themselves, really. But what you really need to do is to ignore them, it hurts but it will work.

Answer 8

Call Super Nanny!

Answer 9

they are so close in age, and I think it's normal. All the women I know and even growing up, we all fought with our sisters, rich and poor, black and white. different religions. My sister was always making sure that I didn't get more of anything ! I didn't care ! (and I was the oldest ! she was pushin' me around !) My boys are close in age, and sometimes they get into it. BUT, I shut it down immediately.

Answer 10

well, me and siblings fight alot too, but sometimes we get along by talking about the things we both like and by playing with the games we like. hope this helps!