sex...before or after marriage? which did u chose?

Question

some people believe sex is meant 4 marriage, and some ppl think as long as u love that person and u know ur making love...then its ok...

and i knwo some ppl just want to because they're h o r n y!!! but im 16...still a virgin...and at this age, of course im pressured to do it, but i wanna wait 4 marriage too...and ppl make it sound sooo good, and im sort of anxious to find out...but im afraid... did YOU wait? should I?

Answer 1

I waited, so did my wife and we were both glad we did. It may be hard now, but I think you'll be glad you waited, and ultimately sadder if you don't.

Answer 2

I wish I waited. Some say sex is for marriage and some say it's OK if you love someone. I say sex IS the marriage. Sex is exchanging a little piece of your soul with the other individual. This causes a soul tie. People don't realize it but it's true. It's a bond. And a bond is a marriage which is a responsibility.
If you can wait, you might have less emotional problems and you won't get into trouble or end up a very young daddy.
You might wanna at least wait til your sex drive goes down a little because you're gonna be reaching your peak next year when you turn 17. This is a dangerous age for a guy to be having sex.

Answer 3

I will say this...

The first time is special... the bond that is there when you have only done "it" with one person is amazing... and most people don't desire to do "it" with more people at that point..

once you break the seal per say... well it looses some of the significance.... isn't quite as special... and well you start to want to do it with more people... or at least are open to the idea... where before you had absolutely no desire to do so...

At least that was my experience... and have heard the same from others...

So it really comes down to... do you want sex... or do you want sex to be a special thing you save for that special someone...

looking back... I sometimes wish I would have waited... and other times I wish I would have started sooner... but if I had to choose I would say I wish I would have waited...

That being said I truly believe you are the sum total of your experiences and I wouldn't be who I am today without my first heartbreak... and well that wouldn't have been as tramatic if I wouldn't have had sex with that person... so on the other hand I wouldn't change it...

Good luck with your decision

Answer 4

I didn't wait, but I don't plan on ever getting married. My first time was with my highschool sweetheart, we were together for a year before we did anything and stayed together for 2 years total. First time for both of us and we are still good friends today. Do what you think is best for you it's really a personal choice that no one can make for you. Don't cave to pressure though, because you will certainly regret that.

Answer 5

I'm 17. I didn't wait and I don't regret it. It was with someone I loved.
Don't do it until you are ready. Theres nothing wrong with being a virgin. You should be in a good stable relationship before you have sex, if you're that anxious about it.

Answer 6

I do not believe on waiting until you are married to try things. That is one of the reasons matrimony fails. The best thing to do before getting married is to move together and live together for a while. Sharing everything like you were married helps you realize what married life is, and lets you also understand each other much better. And that includes sex as well as everything else, from paying the bills, to painting the dining room together.

As for myself, my wife and I have known each other for 8 years. We moved together 4 years ago, but didn’t get married until a year ago. So we lived together unmarried for 3 years. Our wedding was nice, the party was crazy, but for us, it was another day in the park, just a paper we signed. We considered ourselves married for a long time.

And yes, we had sex from even before we moved together. And we do not regret it. We took care of ourselves, we used protection at the beginning, then when we became serious, we took test for STD, and after knowing we were safe, she started on the pills. And every time we have sex, we like it better! (Note that I am mixing having sex and making love as one, but we consider those two separate things).

Now getting ready to stop the pills and look for a first baby.

Also note that we are not that religious, we belong (family wise) to different religions, and we decided not to get married under any religion. And I think it was the best idea ever. Religion has not been a factor for anything in our matrimony, and we are very happy this way.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

I believe that sex is meant to be saved for marriage.
Unfortunately I am weak and didn't wait. Now my fiancee and I struggle every day (we're very similar with our values) because we are afraid to be physical at all aside from hugging and kissing because we're not sure where things will end up, and we want to wait until we get married to be deeply intimate that way again.

My advice: WAIT! WAIT!! WAIT!!!

Answer 8

I'm 24, and I've decided to wait until I'm married. I know it's hard, but I think that it'll be worth it. Sex should be with someone you love, not just because you're feeling randy.

Answer 9

i was 20 when i first had sex, it was with my my girlfiriend who ended up my wife; she was 18.

as i've gotten older, i tell people that its okay to have sex, but you have to be ready. you only get to do it the first time, one time. you know the whole story of condoms i'm sure. but you also have to make sure that you feel comfortable doing it. make sure that it is right for you. make it worthwhile, giving your virginity to some is a precious gift that should be given serious thought.

Answer 10

hey, who doesn't want to do it? i've never done it either, but i'm waiting 'till marriage 'cause it will make my wife feel just that much more special. i'd care more for my future wife than some girl i'd probably never see after high school.

plus+, some girls will have more respect for you and you may get more dates.

Answer 11

Im 17 and I am also a virgin. Im not going to say wait unitll you're married but wait unitll YOU are ready not your peers.