im 18 and last summer I finnaly got my first girlfriend and my best friend stole her from me...now i hate them both and am extremely depressed and angry...no matter how hard i tried to explain to him after she broke my heart that i didnt want him to date her he would just lie to me and tell me he wouldnt date her. i found out about them wanting to date 20 days after she broke up with me...and he says he didnt steal her from me even tho when i was dating her she would flirt with him and i was jealous but she would cry and tell me she liked me alot and not him at all. Me and my best friend were really close and i trusted him but he lied ALOT right to me and i feel so betrayed and hurt. now they date and they both know i hate it but dont care. They think im overeacting and shouldnt care at all. i told them i would be their friend still because im trying to be happy again. but im hurt so bad and so angry and feel like it was so wrong. I dont no wat to do to feel better...any suggrestions?
2007-02-16 06:21:00 · 11 answers · asked by baerouaisdfxc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your mistake was in telling them you would be their friend. They both betrayed you, have no respect for your feelings and don't deserve your friendship. Of course it hurts you've lost both a girlfriend and a best friend but there are a lot of decent people out there that would make a better girlfriend and a better best friend. They deserve each other. I suggest you go out with other friends and have some fun.
2007-02-16 06:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to realize that you shouldn't blame yourself for you ex and your friend hooking up. This is something that does happen pretty often. It sucks and you feel like you will never get over it...believe me...you will. It hurts and you are angry, but you need to let it go...she obviously was not the right one for you or she would have never done what she did. I went through something similar and just when I thought that life sucked the worst that it could...the man, that I am married to today, came along and at first I wanted nothing to do with hiim. What I am saying is that you can't let this consume your life...this was your first GF and not the last. Pick yourself up, maybe find some new people to hang out with and be yourself. It takes time...but you will be fine. AND, if it's too hard to be friends with them...then just be friendly to them...doesn't mean you have to hang out with them : ^ )
2007-02-16 06:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by Leah31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being friends with the guy who is dating your ex. He isn't going to admit anything to you and he will continue to date your ex, no matter how much you tell him it hurts or try to explain. He is now in love with her or has feelings towards her and nothing you say or do can change his mind about that. It is a sad situation when your friend steals your girlfriend, but the best thing to do is to start looking for someone new and forget them both. Keep yourself busy with activities you enjoy.
2007-02-16 06:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way: She wasnt the one for you!
If she wouldnt have done it now to you, she would have down the road.
You need a commited and honest woman. Someone who will only care and want you! You will get that one day, maybe in college! You never know how you will meet your soul mate.
But the last thing to do is be sad. It didnt work out FOR A REASON. She wasnt the one, and you deserve better. Just let your friends date and forgive them. Be happy that it didnt end up in a marriage!
2007-02-16 06:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Going through this right now
Listen don't throw a friendship away for a girl bros before hoes yeah he stole her but I'm trying to get over this too and me and my best friend are step bros don't let the girl get between you it'll hurt I'm still hurting but you can't torture yourself
2015-03-30 17:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by Luke 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Evidently, she wasn't the one for you. You're only 18, you have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy yourself while you're young. She's not the only girl in the world. And as for your best friend, you can make other friends. You don't have to hang around them. You are to young to be getting serious about a girl anyway. You are supposed to be dating.
2007-02-16 06:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-22 07:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also experienced it .it is very tough ..u feel like deserted . u can't be friends .nt with gf n friend. ..this post is very old .I m replying to this only to express my feelings .what I felt in last 6 months ..
2016-08-25 09:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shw sum bravery bro!:-) Relax!:-) Dat ***** nd dat guy who u called ur frnd were never ur frndz!:-)I knw hw much painful it is but u hve shw u r greater and more powerful den dem nd u must shw dem uve got balls!:-) Nvr ever see dere faces!:-) Anywayz read dis post 2day so sorry 4 a very late reply peace!:-)
2017-03-20 07:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Women don’t want to feel as though they are completely responsible for your happiness and that is what it feels like when the other person has no outside interests. Men who are overeager or jump when the woman says jump are the ones who are more likely to end up in the friend zone. This doesn’t mean that you should play the game of not calling for a few days; it means that you should set healthy boundaries until you both naturally find a spot for the other in your lives.
2017-02-15 18:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋