I'm a college sr. & graduate in May. I'm a white, 22 yr. old man. I grew up around tons of diff. people & cultures.But was NEVER SEEN AS A BAD "DIFFERENT." I want to date interracially(mainly African Americans), but my parents don't agree with it. They are kinda racist, bc they think that white men & white women should only date each other (everyone with their own race). I TOTALLY DISAGREE because I am not attracted by color nor do I stop liking someone/being attracted to someone because she just happens to be of another skin tone. I'm heavily attracted to black and latin girls,whites don't do much for me. My mom says she don't care really if I dated interracially. She even told a black girl than wanted to go with me tha My stepdad is total opposite. He puts it down & we have had arguments about it in the past. The thing is, I still live with them (until May), but I want to start living my life my way now. What should I do? Go with my heart or wait a couple of more months? I'm torn
2007-02-16 06:14:22 · 23 answers · asked by Trojan8408 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with your heart. Its time for your family to move into this century and become a little more open-minded.
2007-02-16 06:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by maybe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are an adult now and have to do what is right for you.. that is part of becoming your own person and knowing yourself.
however, it would be a little different to me if you said you found a girl that you were in love with and she just happend to be black. that is when your love sees no color. when you say i want to date someone BECAUSE they are black or asian or latin-- whatever. then you ARE choosing them specifically for the color of there skin! therefore you DO see color.
don't take this the wrong way. I think that interracial relationships are very much accepted and almost the "norm" these days and you should do what makes you happy. but you should look for a woman that has qualities that you love. not just a skin complexion that you like.
2007-02-16 06:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by koolkeynan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember - The genetic difference between African Americans and Whites is only about a diference of 2-5% ( I don't recall the exact numbers). While raising mixed-racial children may be difficult, many interracial marriages find a way to teach their children about both parts of their heritage. Consider how well you get on with the other person, regardless of other's (even mine) opinion. Good luck....follow your heart, not other people's desires. (Ugh - I just read all the other answers, many agree - follow the heart)
2007-02-16 06:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by macosby2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh sweetie! That is the sweetest thing ever. I think you should go with your heart. SCREW what anyone has 2 say about who you want to be with. Nobody has the right to be so closeminded and tell you that you shouldn't date anyone because of their color. I think you should tell your mom if she wants to be apart of your life that she needs to accept that you might be with a girl of another race and your stepdad needs to just shut up because he sounds like a real dumbazz! No disrespect to him, though. I am a black girl and I would be proud to have u az my boyfriend if i was in the situation. Because u want ur family to like your future girl or whatever. You need to keep your head up and do what you think is right. Don't let anyone tell you what is right for you, only you know that.
keep ur head up baby boy
xoxo
good luck
2007-02-16 06:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Chocol@t3 K!$$3$♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so basically it's one of your parents .. in this case i would say go with heart cuz your mom doesnt care and your step father is just racist he's not taking the time to get to know these people for whether they are kind and caring and all that, if this were different i'd say listen to your parents cuz they always knows whats right even when you dont wanna believe them but they've been there and done that before. so if i were you i'd date who ever i wanted to date but if your parents tell you well i should say your mom tells you that the girl is bad news or whatever listen to her she's more than likely right.
2007-02-16 06:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To keep the peace at home, I'd say wait a few months. Your parents are your parents and they'll love you no matter what, but living with them is a totally different story. Keep the peace until you're out on your own, then as long as you're TRULY happy with your relationship(s), they'll eventually get over themselves and be happy for you.
2007-02-16 06:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart, dude! If you like someone, you like someone no matter what color they are. People are just people. If you are planning to leave their home in a few months anyway, they really cannot tell you what to do. You're an adult now. And a college graduate (congrats, btw!!). Live you life as you wish.
Good luck! :-)
2007-02-16 06:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a tough situation...torn between your heart and your parents.
My advice is: Life is to short to try and please everyone and if you find someone that treats you right and makes you happy...then who cares what color their skin is.
Hopefully in time your parents will see that you are truly happy and accept this, but until then and while you are living in their house you should probably avoid bringing that person to their house just out of respect to them and to her.
Good Luck in whatever you do...just make sure that YOU are happy :)
2007-02-16 06:23:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anita G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are from another planet. WE ARE all equal, and they have no right telling you who you should marry!
If you like someone and want to pursue something of the opposite race, then do it!
Im hispanic and my husband is white, I think we are perfect together!
Your old enough to make your own choices. If your parents dont approve ever, then thats THEIR fault. Not yours! Pursue your dreams and your life.
2007-02-16 06:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
(Numbers 12:1) And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.
People often refer to the Bible for support that interracial relationship is wrong. Well, if Moses married a Ethiopian (Black) woman and God Blessed it, then why do people today have a problem with it?
2007-02-19 03:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by MoPleasure4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋