I'm a 13 year old and have never had a bf. I feel so left out and most of the time I think there's something wrong with me! I have been asked out (by maybe 2 guys) and turned them down. I also have heard people saying I'm ugly. I know this sounds a little dramatic but I really do need some advice!
2007-02-16 06:09:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hon, it is normal not to have a bf and it is also ok not to have one. Wait until you are ready. Also, the ones who say you are ugly are people you really don't want to be associated with. As a matter of fact, I was teased in school for being ugly, poor, etc. Now that I am older, I have men all around me. Things change when you get older. You start to see people for who they are and not what they look like. If you are happy with yourself, then it will all work out. Good Luck and remember, the one you are meant to be with will come just don't try to rush it!! ((HUG))
2007-02-16 06:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you are perfectly normal sweetie, but I also have a sister that is 13 and I would suggest to both of you that you are still two young, and boys now days only want one thing. Its good you turned them down because that means your not ready. Take time to be a kid enjoy life. I had my first boyfriend and it lasted a year and then he dumped me. You may think that the first one you meet is your soul mate, but there are so many other guys that will be willing to be with you. I wish I would of enjoyed my high school days more with my friends than with him. Take your time. O by the way I use to get picked on all the time, and now that I am 21 I get hit on all the time. You change as a person. Dint worry everything is fine. Enjoy your innocence
2007-02-16 14:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by stilettoheels55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal not to have a bf at the age of 13.
If anybody has asked you out then there are OBVIOUSLY
people out there who like you.
The people who call you ugly..........I am guessing that
the are girls.......girls tend to get jealous of other girls VERY EASILY and when that happens they want to bring you down
to their level and calling you ugly is an insult, makes you feel bad about yourself, and lets them get the upper hand.
Or the boys that are calling you ugly are afraid that
you are TOO good for them or TOO pretty for them and
the same as the girls.......they want to bring you down.
Don't let them. Remember true beauty is on the inside, but
at 13 (or anytime) its hard to remember that.... so I would
say do your best to always dress nicely (not talking with expensive clothes) talking make sure that you are neat...
iron your shirts or your pants, brush your hair, make sure you
have good hygiene habits (brush your teeth, use deodorant,etc).
Learn to have confidence in who YOU ARE not in who other people SAY you are.
Good luck
2007-02-16 14:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are young, now i been there now you are not ulgy
because god made you beautiful, you have to like you
it sound as if you have self-esteem issues, what i would tell
you is hold your head high and love who you are, there jealous
because the see you beauty,and how magnificent you are
and they want to take it from you so you can have low self-esteem but a true friend would not care, now as for a boyfriend
i use to be the same way, ending up making bad decision
it is very normal to not have one and enjoy your life, and
go to school, maybe skating or something, you
alot of time of course there are gonna make it seems as if
you need a boyfriend so you can be just like them, but the
one you don,t want to do is do something you have,nt talk
to mom about, try to talk to your mom, or a female adult
so that you voice your opinion. you are normal.
2007-02-16 14:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Tella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are normal! Your to young to have a "boyfriend". Your smart for not wanting to date right now, do you know why? Look at your other friends who have had boyfriends, what happened to them? Either pregnant, regret it, or they broke up! Right? Yeah you dont want that.
If people pick on you because of it, just let them. Stand up for what you believe in and dont settle for less. Dont give into the pressure of this world and the people at your school.
Your not ugly, I was told i was ugly when I was young. But now i think im beautiful compared to my old friends :)
Look up and be confident, your a smart girl who doesnt need negative people around you!
Very proud of you!
2007-02-16 14:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah deary,
im 15 and ive never had a boyfreind either.
ive been asked out, but i rejected them.
dont beleive the crap about people sying youre ugly,
you are a beautiful young lady, just wait till
you grow up a little more.
its perfectly normal not to have dated up to 13!
if anything, youve been spared the heartbreak and drama.
dont worry about that stuff,
you shouldnt have a boyfreind just to have had one anyway.
wait a few years!
2007-02-16 14:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by ninjah_jamie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there is nothing wrong at your age. You are only 13.. you have your whole life ahead of you. I didn't have a bf until i was 16 and i was happy with that. I spent lots of time hanging out with friends.
you have plenty of time.. don't worry about it so much
2007-02-16 14:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 13. I know that to you (and obviously to your "friends") it seems like you HAVE to have a boyfriend, but all Jr. High relationships are good for are heartbreak and drama. I have NEVER seen anyone have a boyfriend or girlfriend that they stayed with all through Jr. High, High School, AND College to get married later. I know it happens, but you obviously don't seem comfortable with having a boyfriend right now since you already turned down 2 guys already.
Forget about your "friends." You obviously just want a boyfriend to please THEM. Dont' worry about pleasing anyone but yourself. You're too young to have to worry about that.
2007-02-16 14:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal for you not to have a bf because their nothin but a pain in the butt but i'm 18 and when i was yur age i didn't have a bf and didn't know what that meant but its normal for you not to have one but let me tell you something juss because you heard somebody call you ugly that don't mean you ugly i have people callin me names everyday but i still keep my head up and continue to live life to the fullest so don't worry about what people got go say about you juss shake them haters off because that's all they doing is haten
2007-02-16 14:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by zorin l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all the people who said you're ugly were most probably girls...some girls like to do that...but it doesn't mean you look ugly to guys
two already wanted to go out with you
besides...you're 13..and young...you've got plenty of time
2007-02-16 14:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by zorro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋