Well, i just recently broke up with my boyfriend because im way to selfish right now to handle him having a child. I know that the child must come first so i decided to end it and think about what i really want to do. I still love him and would like to try and get used to the idea to make sure im making the right decision. How do i do this with him and what is inappropriate or not?
2007-02-16 06:06:07 · 4 answers · asked by kaybee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You mention you are selfish, if this child is not yours and your upset by the situation, the best thing to do is to stay out of it completely. That's not being selfish, that's doing what is right for you. I'm not sure how you could be a good friend to him, but in the mean time you need to think about what is right for you in this relationship. What needs will you be serving by staying even in a friendship and are you willing to accept him with this child? If you feel you cannot accept the situation how it is then leave it. If the only need you are serving is his wants because you feel guilty about leaving him, then I feel you need to end the relationship. I too would be disappointed if I dated a man who later had a child and it was not my child. Personally I would not be friends at all unless both of us needed and deserved friendship from one another.
2007-02-16 06:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to become an ex-loved one good friend, such passions, such as resentment, hatred, hurt, anger, any other negative reaction, will not allow a good friendship to develop.
Too much baggage to carry about too soon.
It is only when one reaches a state of neutrality about the other person, with whom one was so strongly involved, as far as emotions go - that a friendship may be possible to develop.
2007-02-16 14:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by skydancerwi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be good friends with him. It just doesn't work if you still have feelings for that person. You can talk to him but I really wouldn't try to spend alot of time with him because if there are still feelings there the lines can get blurred.
2007-02-16 14:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it will work. Since you are love with him, and you can't do anything about it, just don't be friends. You will just start feeling it again. Maybe, you are just thinking this because you want to get back with him, but it's going to be too late. Either stay with him, or leave him.
2007-02-16 14:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋