My son is very non social and is very clingy to me. His teachers are concerned that the problem is at home. He only does this when he's at school, he doesnt want me to leave. I dont know what I am supposed to do. Honestly I will tell you I am an average mom I let my child know i love him and I play with him when time allows. He is an only child and his dad and pay attention to him as much as possible. He is spoiled in the toys area, but its not like we overly pay attention to him. We are an average family. What can I do to help him, and help us. He plays with the other kids at the babysitters, she doesnt complain of these problems at all. Maybe hes so used to getting to do what he wants, do you think that could be the problem? I dont know what to do, please help!
2007-02-16 05:56:58 · 12 answers · asked by CC 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He is 5 years old, he will be 6 in August, and he is in 4&5 year old preschool. He has been acting like this for about a month now, and he has been going to school since he was 4.
2007-02-16 07:15:02 · update #1
that very well could be the problem. if he gets what he wants, he does not know how to handle things when he doesn't get what he wants. since he just does this at school and schools have a set time to do certain things, i would say that this is your problem. try to work with him on this starting at home. it is going to take a little while for him to get used to this so be patient. the sooner you fix this, the better off he will be and the easier it will be on you. it is hard to say no to a kid. trust me i have been there but it is just something that you have to learn to do. if a child does not learn limits then they are going to grow up with the same attitude and that is going to hurt them in life. don't think you are bad parents because you aren't. kids do not come with instructions and parents have to learn as their child does about what works and what doesn't. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-16 06:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on the age of your child, and how long he's been in school. If he is just starting preschool, give it some time, and keep things as routine as possible. A strict routine will let him know what is coming up next.
If he's a third grader, or and older child, he may need some separation anxiety counseling.
My middle son did this going into kindergarten. It took him about a month to adjust. You just have to stay strong, and let him know you are there for him. Try to figure out what comforts him.
Whatever you do, don't push him away. He needs to know you will support him when he is uncomfortable or fearful. But he also needs to know that he can be confident to grow with you by his side.
2007-02-16 06:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by BossMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your babysitter and teacher the same person? If not, sounds more like its an issue with the teacher, that that is a specific play your son does not want to be, or maybe theres a kid there thats mean. Maybe a smaller school. You didnt mention the age,which would help.
2007-02-16 06:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think this has anything to do with what's going on at home, and therefore wouldn't change how you are running your family. If he has been at this school for more than a few months, then he probably should be adjusted and happy there by now. If he's been there for a few months and he's ok at the babysitters, but not at the school, I would wonder what is going on at the school. My recommendation would be to make a surprise visit to the school and peak in on him to see how things are going. Can he speak and tell you how his day went? If not, my experience has been to follow your "gut" instinct. If he's ok everywhere but that school, it isn't a good sign. Perhaps he needs to switch schools....
2007-02-16 06:06:15 · answer #4 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to him about school? Maybe there could be a problem there, making him not want to go. Ask him why he doesn't like school? Ask him if the teachers and other students are nice to him? I don't think this would be about spoiling him. If he is fine at the babysitters, and at home, maybe you could even talk to the teachers... see how they discipline, or if other students pick on him.
2007-02-16 06:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My son is also 3 years old, also an only child and honestly he may just not like it there, kids are just like you and i we dread certain places or people, wheather he says it or not he probably dosent like the people, or maybe a specific person or kid is mean to him there, I would just enjoy the fact he clings to you, soon you will be clinging on to him... Honor you time with him.. Your teacher and him just might not click, remember the teachers you disliked, and tell them to save it when they suggest your the problem obviously its them that you son has the problem with. not you ar you home. good luck
2007-02-16 06:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by anw7292 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just part of growing up. Be consistent with him. Keep telling him that you love him, but that he needs to go to school and you'll be there at the end of the day. Tell him that sometimes it's hard to do things, but they have to get done. Don't lose your patience with him just yet. Ask him WHY he doesn't want to go and explain to him WHY it's ok. Get to the root of it.
2007-02-16 06:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Erin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people are different. Theres nothing wrong with your son. Just let him be as he wants to be, as long as its not bad behaviour I see no reason to take action.
2007-02-16 06:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mighty C 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how old is he? this could be a problem depending on his age.. but if he's pretty young, then it's nothing to be concerned about..
2007-02-16 06:04:30 · answer #9 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Throw him out the nest and see if he flies.
2007-02-16 06:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋