i am a 15 year old girl in year 11. i reaaly like this boy in yr 13 and he is either 17 or 18. i think he likes me aswell but i am to shy to speak to him. i wrote a letter telling how muched i like him but i can't gain courage to give it to him. i don't know him but i think i love him. What should i do
2007-02-16 05:55:51 · 25 answers · asked by toni 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do nothing..he is too old for you he wont go out with you until you are a bi...........t older unless he is a paedophile.
2007-02-23 20:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what love feels like compared to infatuation.
In this country there are rules that consider a minor being under 17. You are 15.
If he is 18, then you must be aware and sensible even at your young age, to consider what making the acquaintance with one another may result in.
It is difficult to control our emotions, after all, life is a series of experiences, that is; falling in-love, developing feelings towards others - and I am certain, that at a tender age of 15, you are just beginning have attractions and feelings for others. However, you are young - you have, hopefully a long life ahead of you . . therefore act with caution, and realize that when we are as young as you are, infatuation may seem very strong, a love, or mature love will more realistically feel one day in the future, when you are older.
I have not advised you whether you should or should not give this possibly 18 year old your letter . . I'd rather say, employ logic and caution, in whatever you decide to do.
All our actions have consequences.
2007-02-16 14:09:11 · answer #2 · answered by skydancerwi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you like this guy then go ask him out. You don't love him... love happens over time, and takes effort from both parties.
You have a crush or infatuation with this person. We all got them at your age and at the time they felt really intense and we all thought we were in love.
The worst thing that can happen is that he says no to you. Then you just move on. Okay it might hurt for a little while, but you will get over it, just like we all did. Suggest something casual, like a film or some lunch on the weekend.... you might be surprised and get a yes.
A letter might seem a little over the top to him, especially if you have started declaring undying love in it. Try seeing if you can somehow get his mobile number off someone else you know. That way you could send a text to ask him out!
good luck!
2007-02-22 15:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont do it babe, you dont love him! You cant Love someone unless you know everything about someone! He is to old for you to sweetie, at your age you want to be out with your friends having a good time!
Most boys that age want one thing and trust me once they have got it thats it!
My brother is 18 and he is such a little git, he has no respect for women and only wants Sex! If he ever got a girl pregnant she would be on her own!!!
Thats not what you want, you want to get a good job and go to Uni, not worry about Boys you have your whole life to do that!
Im not trying to put u off men, far from it! Get a boyfriend but get one your own age who you will have more in common with and you can grow together! Plus you never stick with the first person we think we love!
Goodluck
2007-02-24 13:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gonna say you don;t love him cos in your heart you feel as though you do, but i promise you its only infatuation, still good though innit, don't give him the letter it will scare him off, and don't approach him out of the blue, he'll think your a bit desperate, try to get to know him first you may not think too much of him in the cold light of day. Try to engineer a way to talk to him when on your own, he should b flattered with your attention. Good luck princess and remember always have dignity and self esteem.
2007-02-16 14:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Chunky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him, beware, he is at the age when he will not love you back and he would expect sex and if you havn't before then I would be wary. He would probably use you for sex till someone new comes along, we men can be like that. At your age, 3 years is a lifetime. DON'T send him a letter. He could be cruel and make fun of you along with his mates and have evidence to make it worse.
He could however be a nice guy and really like you too. Just be sure before you do anything. Ultimately and rather annoyingly, you will never know unless you ask.
2007-02-16 14:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Slick 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
believe me u certainly dont love him its just a crush u will have loads of them before your twenty if he likes u for u he will either ask u out or at least make an attempt to chat wiv u just let time take its course if hes like most 17\18 yr olds he probly just wants to get in ya nickers
2007-02-24 11:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by ade r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving him the letter would be a mistake since he probably has no idea how you feel. If you don't know him you can't love him but you obviously have an intense attraction. If you can't talk to him you need to get yourself into situations where he has the opportunity to speak to you. Only then will you know if he is attracted to you.
2007-02-16 14:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not so sure that you love him. You probably just have a major case of the love bug. My advise to you is not to push anything on him, if you want to give him a note just give him one but don't pour your heart out to him and tell him you love him. That will just scare him away. Take it slow and easy, and hopefully he will feel the same way you do. If he doesn't the just move on, your young and there will time for love later in life.
Good luck!
2007-02-16 14:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by BL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH you are soooo precious! i just wanna hug you! Listen lovely, you need to know that your heart WILL be broken! Maybe not by this particular guy whom you love rite now, but your heart WILL be broken at some point in your life for SURE. My advice is to accept this, to know this WILL happen to you and to say, "The hell with it..!!"
I think you are afraid to talk to him b/c you are afraid he will reject you and/or break your heart. But if you accept that your heart will be broken sooner or later, the possibility of it being THIS guy who breaks your heart wont seem soo SCARY anymore. After all, you WILL live after a broken heart.
Besides, this guy may not even be your first heart breaker! The two of you may spend some wonderful, beautiful times together...
But you will never know unless you take the plunge and say "to hell with heartbreak!" and ask that guy out! Good luck! :)
2007-02-16 14:04:41 · answer #10 · answered by The cat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just relax and I think you should just go up to him and ask him if he would like to go to the coffee shop or the cool spot there to get something to eat or drink. Then tell how much you like him. dont worry about the outcome if he likes you then it was worth it and if he doesnt then at least you know you can move on. good luck and i hope this helped you.
2007-02-16 14:02:35 · answer #11 · answered by apriljean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋