She thinks she rules me now . She wasn't like this as bad before . Is it a Phase that she will grow out of hopefull ???
2007-02-16 05:50:24 · 13 answers · asked by Dawn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
All acts of rebellion have to be stopped.
I really like the show called Super Nanny with Jo Frost.
http://abc.go.com/primetime/supernanny/
We follow how she post the rules.
Then go over the rules with our adult children & grandkids.
When a child acts up, we remind them of the rules
Then when they do it again, they are corrected and a priveldge is taken away or the younger ones are put in a corner and stay there for every mintue of their age.
It has really helped us, our children and our children with our grandkids.
We have a lot of peace in our relationships now and much better behavior & respect toward each other.
Our whole family watches Super Nanny.
2007-02-16 05:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by ~Raspberry Tea~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To a certain extent it is a phase - you are being tested as she is testing her individuality and self-proclaimed "grown-upedness".
However, that does not mean that the behavior is allowable. If you give in to it now, it will only get worse. Without making any bigger of any issue than you have to, let her know that her bahavior and her attitude toward you will not be tolerated or allowed. If it means curtailing her activities, taking away privileges (i.e. computer time, t.v., cell phone, whatever), then do so until she learns to act like a civil human being.
When my daughter started in that sort of behavior, I simply ignored her, especially when she tried telling me what to do and when, until she could speak to me with some respect. It wasn't easy when what I really wanted to do was give her a quick rap across the mouth.....
If she doesn't respond to being told to act like a civil human being, then there need to be firm, consistent consequences. If she has to back out of plans with friends, then so be it. Don't give in just because she has made plans, don't give in to "but Mom" (jeez I hate that phrase). If she is a door slammer, offer to take her door off the hinges until she learns how to close it properly - then follow through. Taking a door off the hinges is not a big trick (I did it once for an afternoon - the lesson was learned pretty quickly).
Again, if you ignore it entirely it WON'T go away. If she is hanging out with friends that treat their mothers like that, then that issue needs to be addressed, as well.
Good luck - "motherhood, part sainthood, part gorilla warfare"
2007-02-16 06:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that my sister was the same way. She always thought she could rule the house. My dad never let him run all over him. So I think you need to out your foot down and tell her whats up. I dont know what you do for disapline..but do something that will prove to her you are not going to let her run all over you..
goofd luck
2007-02-16 05:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by acoats2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM A PARENT
I AM A TEACHER
if you don't nip this in the bud now, you will lose her and you will never have any say or control in her life whatsoever. TAKE CARE OF IT NOW or you will regret it!!!!
pop her in the mouth once or twice and you will see a new attitude! take everything from her but a box of clothes and a mattress. let her earn everything back.
DO NOT be afraid of tough love!!!!!!
2007-02-16 07:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by buffywaldie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the phase will end when she moves out or regains her respect for you. Seriously.
2007-02-16 05:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase...Unfortunately, she probably won't grow out of it until she's about 25...good luck
2007-02-16 05:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by boxadorboxador 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is she hanging with lately? Get a grip now or lady you are in for one hell of a ride if she is like that @ 11yrs old.
2007-02-16 08:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Radtech1996 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a good smackacross the mouth next time she sass' ya
2007-02-16 08:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by K S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her get away with that. It will only get worse. Wait til she turns 13... Good Luck.
2007-02-16 05:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is lack of discipline and respect, you need to take control now or you will never get it again.
2007-02-16 05:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋