im totally in love with my now ex he say's he loves me but dos'nt want to settle down yet or his he just lieing
2007-02-16 05:40:55 · 14 answers · asked by SHY1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in this situation myself: I really do still love my ex but I dont want to be in a relationship with her for many reasons: equally I dont want to settle down with her because it would not work. I would do anything for her but we are not meant to be together and things have been better whilst we have remained as friends.
I was a bit wary of the old "we can still be friends" cliche but it has worked and I am very glad that it has because she is a good friend to have in my life.
Its very easy for people to say "oh he's lying" or "Dont believe him he is stringing you along" but I would suggest they have never been in this position or are just trying to give you an easy answer without really knowing too much about the situation.
I hope you can work it out as friends
2007-02-16 07:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't speak for a man, but I love an ex boyfriend still after some years. But know that he wouldn't have been right for me, we wanted different things. Whilst we had a very good relationship at the time we were not really suited to be together. Shame but that's life.
I think the girl he is with now is actually much better suited to his lifestyle, although I resent her totally.
2007-02-16 13:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by rose1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have been through it. I believe a person can love someone yet not be ready for a committment for whatever reason. Many times the reason they are not ready has nothing to do with you. Just accept that he loves you and move on. Don't try to force a relationship on him; it will only make him run. If it is meant to be, then it will happen in its own time.
2007-02-16 16:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by crzynluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok... it is so easy to Love someone of the opposite sex and not want a relationship with them... whether it being your parent or an ex. I still love my ex alot but we just arent meant to be together... that doesnt mean we cant still love eachother tho...
2007-02-16 13:44:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup. been there, done that, doing it right now...
me and my ex split for a couple months, and now we're practically together again, i know i love her, but i realized i can't get too reattached otherwise i might be setting myself up for the same debacle i got set up in the last time around. but they do say its better to have loved and lost rather than to have never loved at all...
2007-02-16 13:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by alex l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutly Lying. If you love someone, you dont want to lose them. If he isnt ready to settle down, he doesnt believe he has found his true love. Im sorry, move on, I am sure you can find someone else who will appriciate you better!
2007-02-16 13:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but simply because they are scared of commitment...they think that once in a relationship thats it...no more life, no more girls...but its not like that. Being in a relationship(a healthy one) is just the being of a good life.
2007-02-16 13:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes just using you hey hes got it on a plate find some dignity and move on your worth more than that
2007-02-16 13:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by dottydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very possible. He has his reasons, whatever they are. And if those reasons are enough to not want a relationship, it's easier to just respect that instead of asking why and such. (Not saying you're pestering him or anything.)
2007-02-16 13:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by pertinential 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be just saying what he knows you want to hear.
2007-02-16 13:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋