how could i ask in a sulty way if a girl i like , if she's dating anyone without her knowing i want to ask her out.
there's a justin timberlake concert in april i have 2 tickets for and i know she like's him also, and even mention that her friends had tickets ,and she'd like to go.
i really would like to see the concert with her.
but i so don't want to make a jerk of myself
by asking her on a date if she is already dating someone .
i just worked up the guts to say more than two words today
and she is so friendly always.i don't want that to change.
and worried of making a fool of myself please help.
i'm 22 years old by the way not a kid which is so lame.
honest answers please
2007-02-16 05:36:34 · 15 answers · asked by johnc 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you not know anyone that could find out for you?
If not, you're best off finding a way of dropping it into conversation... When you're near her start casually mention something you are doing the next weekend (if you're not doing anything make something up), then ask if she's up to anything good, or if there is more than just her stood around ask someone else and then ask her. If you start by mentioning that you already have plans she won't sense an ulterior motive! If she tells you but doesn't mention a boyfriend ask if she is doing whatever it may be with her fella... Hopefully she will then correct you by saying she doesn't have one!
I wouldn't mention the Justin concert just yet. I know girls who would use a guy for something like that, and those Justin tickets are hugely sought after at the moment. If you start seeing her and things go well, then bring up the concert, but otherwise I would keep it quiet. If you do start seeing her it will be a nice surprise in a few months. That way you'll know she's seeing you for you not just some JT tickets!
Good Luck! Hope it goes well :) xx
2007-02-16 06:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by lou lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm no a Don Juan or anything, however, I do know that from what you have written you are placing this person way too high on the pedestal. The first thing all men should realize is that women are people too. They recognize insecurity, fallibility and shyness just as men do. In most cases this is unfounded and it is our own insecurities or inability to speak that keeps that certain someone at arms length. What is the worst that could happen...she would say no. You may feel rejected or upset, but you did ask and it is her loss if she doesn't accept. It's not like she can kill you for asking. It will also give you the chance to perhapss see if she is a nice person or just another shallow, dim-witted pain. If she says only a blatant NO, then you don't want her in your life anyway. However, I would suspect that she will probably be a bit more diplomatic and perhap give you reason. At any rate if you don't ask her, then the only person you can blame is you. Don't allow anyone to have such an impact on you that you would give them more influence on you than you have on yourself.
2007-02-16 05:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask her about her concert, just say "Hey you know that Justin Timerblake concert we were talking about? Well I ended up getting tickets and was wondering if you'd want to go?" I know it seems soo hard to actually walk over and say that to her, but c'mon your 22, you must have approached girls before! Just take some deep breaths, pump yourself up and go for it! If she seems sweet everytime you talk to her, and you know she wants to go, its worth a shot. If she says yes, then you already broke the ice and you guys will be able to hang out for awhile before the concert and get to know each other which will make the concert even more fun. And if she says 'no thanks, im seeing someone' it's not the end of the world, at least you'll know so you don't have to dive yourself crazy thinking about it.
Just go for it, Good Luck!!
2007-02-16 05:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her casually like what she does for fun or on her days off from work and if she doesn't mention a boyfriend then chances are she doesn't have one. Then make your move and tell her if she would like to go the concert with you. Good luck.
2007-02-16 05:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by 619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you think WAY too much. Relax. First of dont start with a concert, its to grand of a gesture for someone you not dating. Go out for coffee first, or do something small, this will allow you to see if she is single or not and also this will build bridge for brining up concert. Most importantly have fun. keep it simple and don't think too much.
2007-02-16 05:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by Patrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her , its's the only way to find out if she wants to go on a date with you or not. and if she is so friendly you don't have to worry . Good luck and enjoy the concert
2007-02-16 05:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by sandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her. It is easy. Talk to her like she is an old friend. Hi Betty, are you dating anyone? No, then you can go with me to the concert. OK? I will pick you up at....... Then shut up and wait for her to talk. Don't forget to breathe. Get your self-esteem up. It isn't necessary to be afraid of women. They are so easy. All you have to do is charm them. Ask her how she FEELS about different topics. Don't monopolize conversation.
2007-02-16 05:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by The Rabbi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is ask her to the concert. If she is dating someone she should politely let you know.(this bye the way is not rejection) No need to worry.
good luck
2007-02-16 05:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to the concert go out for a drink or something afterward start a coversation get to know her you might grow on her
2007-02-16 05:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by devon a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would drop into conversation hows your love life going then...
..about the tickets just ask her if she wants to go. Shes bound to say yes and if she does go with you and she is single it will be all goood :).
2007-02-16 07:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by emmeheff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋