If I don't give my boyfriend sex every night he threatens to leave me or thinks I am going out on him.Can someone please help me figure this out?
2007-02-16 05:24:20 · 18 answers · asked by cindibad20022002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok becuase hes a guy!! .. if hes gonig to leave you for sex than f*ck him hes not worth it ..
try talking to him and just ask him why we have to do it 24/7
2007-02-16 05:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by ; р я ε т т ч <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. The usual.
Look, guys will be guys (I know, I am one!!). if he is being a jerk and telling you that he will leave you just because you don’t want sex every time he does, then you are the one that should leave him.
But if you don’t want to leave him, then you need to talk to him. I understand how he feels because I am like that too many times, but my wife is not a sex maniac, so she is not gonna have sex with me 24/7. But still, we talk about it, and we both do some commitments to each other. She tries to have sex as much as she can with me, and I try to be as romantic as I can with her (she loves that).
You need to talk to him and explain that you don’t feel like having sex every time, and that he can not force you and that if he is going to be a little kid and cry and tell you he will leave, then you might be better without him (you are not a “mommy” to take care of the baby).
I’m sure probably would like him to do something more often too, maybe be romantic, or take you out, or whatever it is. Ask him how he would feel if you ask him to do that all the time. And if he says “I would do it” then he is being a little kid again. You need to come up with a solution where both can be happy, you give in a little, and so does he.
Unless you want to risk it and give him sex all the time, but make him be committed to please you on whatever you like also all the time. Someone will give in eventually and call it off (and I bet it will be him).
One idea I can give you also, is that if you agree to have more sex, you can always please him by giving him a quickie or a b/j or even a hand job. He will probably be happy. My wife does that to me sometimes cause she knows I am stressed from work and traffic. I reward her later with anything from taking her out, buy her nice flowers, or even please her sexually next time all the way without me getting any. She loves that.
Good luck. And have fun!
2007-02-16 05:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he's getting over his head with wanting sex. The male sex drive is natural and can be powerful, although you also need to fight it if you don't want it. He'll probably be hurt if you do, but in the long run it's probably better as you shouldn't let him force you to do anything you don't want to. Otherwise it could continue forever. Just advice, it might be better to leave him for a while (or permanently) if you aren't up for being his sex toy. Don't let the relationship be based on sex, it'll never last.
2007-02-16 05:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by pertinential 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 06:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slip a Viagra into his food. He sounds like the kind of chap that doesn't need Viagra to get going so the effect will be that he has a four day erection. after that his organ will be to painful for him to even contemplate having sex for a week or so. When he feels better again chuck another Viagra in his food again to repeat the process
2007-02-16 05:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by dogstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that what kind of relationship do you two have if there isnt trust?
And you want a break every now and again from sex.
Besides, I think its a horrible thing that he said he would leave you if you didnt give him any. I suggest giving him an ultimatum.
Tell him he needs to repsect you otherwise this relationship is doomed and he isnt compromising.
2007-02-16 05:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... he's an addict!!! If he's not going to stay with you if you don't sleep with him EVERY night then he sounds like a crazy person to me and very selfish to top it off. You need to stand your ground and let him know how you feel, don't just give in to what he wants. If he leaves you because of that... then HIS LOSS!!! and your gain because you'll eventually find someone who respects you and wants you for who you are, not for what you give him.
2007-02-16 05:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by cm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may be loves u so much and(in his point of view) sex is the best way to tell u so.esp if u r sexy.so you shouldn't be angry of him if he asked u for it cause it's supposed you have the same emotions but u don't have to express it in terms of sex.so try to LET HIM KNOW you love him too.cause it is not enough to love you should express it in the way that satisfies BOTH u and your partner.(eg kisses hugs or even oral sex may work)
if he really loves you don't ever lose him
but if he puts sex as a condition for your relationship so he don't love you and he uses u as a sex toy.so don't ever keep him
best of luck
2007-02-16 05:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your boy could have a sex addiction.
its not "normal" to be addicted to sex, but it does happen. and it might not even be like that. some guys jus have a higher sex drive. Guys tend to have higher sex drives than girls, anyways, so it could seem like he wants it "24/7" when its actually YOU dont want it as much. maybe its just a lack of interest?
however, if he is pressuring you to have sex, and you dont want to, you are going to end up getting in trouble. just ebcause he seems like a nice guy now doesnt mean he cant turn into a sex-crazed psychopath when you dont give it up. if hes pressuring you, get out of the relationship. forget "love" forget "lust" forget it all. because you could end up hurt, raped, or worse. and no one deserves that.
if youre SURE that hes not like that, but he just has a higher sexual hunger than you do, i suggest you talk to him about it. tell him that its not that youre cheating, its just taht you dont need or want sex that much. also, it sounds a lil bit like your relationship is based on sex. thats not healthy. a healthy sex life is important in relationships, but sex shouldnt be the sole reason youre together.
you need to talk to him about it. if hes convinced youre cheating on him, and youre not, then he needs to work on his trust issues. if you think he could have a sexual addiction, maybe he should go to a counsellor. (its embarrassing, but it helps) and if hes forcing you to have sex (God-forbid), then you need to get away NOW. dont wait, dont tell yourself he'll change. dont wait it out. because if hes forcing you, its rape, even if you "love" him.
either way, you need to have a sit down talk with your man. let him know how you feel. tell him that your sex drive isnt as high as his. and if he doesnt like it, well d@mmit, he can find a hooker on the street. you dont deserve to be threatened jus becuase you dont want to have sex all the time. if it comes down to it, you will find someone else-someone better-who wont threaten to leave you, and will treat you better.
sorry if this is blunt, but i think what hes doing is wrong, and im sure alot of ppl agree. i hope you'll think about what ive said.
good luck and my prayers are with you.
2007-02-16 05:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex girlfriend would like to have had sex up to three times a day or more, i was getting worn out, she 37, me 42, guess im just getting to old and worn out, God i hope not.
2007-02-16 05:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋