2007-02-16 05:22:53 · 18 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
she is my brothers wife. i was in her wedding because i was the grooms sister, but now we became friends, not really good friends, but friends ( i never hang out with her without my brother) so i think she expects to be in my wedding, but i dont know if i want her there.
2007-02-16 05:34:54 · update #1
It's your wedding, you can ask or not ask whomever you want. However, to be nice you may consider just simply adding another her as another maid. There's not really anymore cost involved, she'll be a headcount at the wedding anyway, and you don't have to pay for her dress. The most you'll have to do is buy her a gift. Seriously, any fallout that could be in the making can be avoided by adding that one simple thing; besides, friend or not, she's your brother's wife. Think of it a will of good guester.
2007-02-16 06:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long ago the wedding was. Im going through the same thing, but our weddings are only 6 months apart. Funny thing is...my brother didnt invite my fiance to be a groomsman, but for some reason I do feel obligated to ask his soon-to-be wife to be one of my bridesmaids.
That being said, no you dont have to ask her. Think of all the girls who are bridesmaids like 10 times before they are married! half the time they are just a number to make the brides side and grooms side even...it doesnt mean you should have to ask all 10 of those brides to be bridesmaids.
2007-02-16 06:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccessarily. Depends on how many brides maids you already have and if you have room for another. How close are you? Would this person understand if you didn't have her in your wedding? I haven't ever been in a wedding before, but one of my friends is having me in hers later this year. She will most definitley be in mine, but we are REALLY close. Even though we've been through lots of stuff together over the years I didn't expect her to ask me to be in her wedding. You have a lot to think about. I'm sure you'll make the right decision though.
2007-02-16 05:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your situation. Are you having a large wedding? Is she a relative? A very close friend? Does she live close?
Picking your bridesmaids is your choice you make and it doesn't always have to be a reciprocal process
2007-02-16 05:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, depends on who the former-bride-now-bridesmaid is. If she's very close to you, then I would. But I wouldn't do it strictly because she chose YOU for a bridesmaid. Your bridesmaids are supposed to be your closest friends and appointing one out of obligation can cut out the chance to have someone you REALLY want to stand with you.
2007-02-16 05:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not neccesarily. The people you pick for your bridesmaids should be the people you feel the closest to, not who you feel obligated to ask.
It's your wedding and if people truly want you to be happy they will not give you grief over who or what you choose for your wedding.
2007-02-16 05:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lorrie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hoping to be part of this family forever, right? Wouldn't you rather invite her to be a part of your wedding than live with hurt feelings the rest of your life?
2007-02-16 08:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you where her maid of honor does not mean that you have to have her as yours or even it the wedding . this is your day and you should have who you want . just to let you know there will be hard feeling no matter who you pick some one else will feel left out , just let them know they mean allot to you , but you and your husband have pick who is in the wedding together and that is that ..
2007-02-16 06:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by blueflowerscs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're asking if your sister in law should be a bridesmaid? She IS family now...
2007-02-16 06:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your sister in law. I think she should be in your wedding. But if you don't feel close enough to her, then don't ask. But do prepared for her to be prickly about it.
2007-02-16 05:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋