I am scared.
How do I know I made the right choice?
We have dated off and on for 6 years. We broke up in 2005,in 2006 he started dating someone else and it hurt me bad. He threw it up in my face and always took up for her. I begged and begged him to come back and he told me no.
In the summer of 2006 we got back together, and I found him talking to her again and broke up with him. We got back together once again, and moved in together.
On Jan 1st, I found out she had been calling him. I kicked him out. He knew how much I disliked her and I told him how much it hurt me. He says now,he will change, he doesn't want her or no one, I am the only one. He wants to make me happy. I want to find out - if there is someone who will treat me better, I think. I love him, but I am tired of getting hurt.
He told me today, I am treating him like crap, that him and her were just friends nothing was going on, and why won't I give him 1 more chance? Am I doing the right thing by not going back?
2007-02-16 05:19:28 · 13 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry - rosez - he has not been here for me. It would be different , but I have weighed and thought about our ACTUAL relationship, it was all about him.
2007-02-16 05:26:46 · update #1
The question is do you believe him? Do you think she is doing this to cause you heartache or is he really interested in her? Is he calling her or is just it her calling him?
Follow your instincts not your heart. There is a verse in the bible that says "do not trust thy heart for thy heart is deceiptful". It is true sometimes our hearts can lead us in the wrong direction. Stop and take inventory of your relationship with him. What do you believe to be true? Can you really see yourself with him in the long term?
If you are having issues now they do not just go away, you have to work on them together. Good luck to you no matter what your decision.
2007-02-16 05:29:48 · answer #1 · answered by supergoober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would advise you not to break up with him right now.You know in life its really difficult to maintain a relation but very easy to break up.Sometimes its not easy to take such decision easily,just you are facing right now.
Cause its not a matter of 5 minutes or 10 minutes that you know each others.Its a matter of 6 years,so obviously you should not break up like that.You know try to invite him in a nice place be friendly with him.Talk with him like a friend and not like a lover.
Ask him if he really want you in his life,tell him not to waste his time with other girls.Cause I think you can give him the love that another girls won't be able to give him.At that very moment I think you must tried your best possible.What I mean is that,you must show him how much you love him.How much you care, how much you feel for him.
In your voice there must be the power of love, the feeling that you hold for your boyfriend.You must not think about what he done with you about your past.I can tell you what he did was wrong and still he is wrong.But you should do not to give up.Try your possible best dear.
I know you are tired of what your boyfriend is doing with you.But its also a part of life.So accept its as its is, talk to your boyfriend.Then you could take the right decision,Whatever the decision will be do not stop here.Start a new path then one day you will see life will cheer up with you.
One's things more please never be sad in life, whatever the situation is.Cause life is mean to cheer up.Wish you good luck and I will pray for you.
2007-02-16 14:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by vee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in a 6 year relationship as family friends,then as best friends then in love.Its hard to let go since you come so close to the real thing then going back or breaking up is hard to do.You wonder if i start from scratch i wont get to know any other person as well as i know this one,will it ever work out,i love this person he loves me etc.So its hard give it another try.We thats me and him even got over him flirting with my cousin sister,hes my best friend,my love hes been there for me through everything.So you must think of giving ti another chance.Best of luck!
2007-02-16 13:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll hurt like hell and definitely take time, but I think you made the right decision in leaving. This is the same girl that he left you for, correct? Is so, then yes, you have no reason to go back to him. Be strong.
2007-02-16 13:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by cree siempre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you deserve better. Your guy should be totally focused on you. You need to read the book When Men Love Bit**es. It is linked below. I've gotten a great response from guys by using lots of her ideas.
2007-02-16 13:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he told u 'today' that ur treating him like crap. ok, so both of you are together under that same roof. he wants to start fresh....you have his attention now.....and now youre talking about leaving him or of the past instead of thinking....HEY i FINALLY HAVE HIM. ...NOW ...start working on the good and the positive and start being happy and put the past in the past. peace
2007-02-16 13:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there has been this much conflict already, I would say .... move on. 6 years??? that is pretty long time .....
I would say move on ..... there will be someone new who is truly into you ..... just got to find him ....
good luck ......
2007-02-16 13:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. trust me 6 months from now you will be adding to the same old scenario if you stay on with him. you are wasting your time at this point.
find someone who will adore you always!
2007-02-16 13:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on if you trust what he is telling him but if you dont then there is no point in even trying to work things out! So just follow your heart...good luck!
2007-02-16 13:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away it sounds like he doesn't appreciate what he has anyway so do whats right for you and find someone who cares for you the way you need to be cared for!
2007-02-16 13:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by That Kid Zinc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋