Im not being sick or anything.Ive got family which is overpossesive.I know what it is,1 of my male cousin(i dont have bros)is way overpossesive he doesnt like me being in love with his friend(didnt meet my guy through my cousin infact he befriended my guy after he came to know about us)he told my guy to not get into relationship with me,my cousin talks to my girlfriends gets to know all about them/us.parents dont think theres anything wrong in it.what do you think about my cousin?what do i do?Its not happening in USA.What are reasons for cousin to act this way so overpossesive crazy?
2007-02-16 05:16:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ill try to be as objective as i can,seems like your cousin enjoys this behaviour and keeps doing it.Some men love the control they have on their wives/sisters/cousins.He acts so overpossesive and being cousins its not understandable.Theres definitely something wrong somewhere if you havent done anything wrong and hes acting so crazily overpossesive.Mostly we see boyfriends/husbands acting this way so this one is strange.Maybe he has a problem?Try reading up online on crazy overpossesive behaviour,if he has all the traits then i think he has a problem.
2007-02-16 11:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for guys not to want their relatives getting involved with their friends. This would mean that they couldn't do anything with their buddy without a relative of the opposite sex tagging along.
When guys get together, sometimes they want to go chase girls or do something bad that you may not approve of. Whether if it's going to a nudy bar, looking at dirty magazines or smoking pot, depending on their age, your cousin is going to do everything in his power to prevent you from hooking up with his buddy so that they can continue hanging out without being restricted.
2007-02-16 13:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your age matters in this somewhat
He might be being protective if you are young and not around people that are good for you as a person.
If you are a young adult and your cousin is older then you may need to definitely set down some boundaries around you and your friends....Is it cultural? sounds to me it is, so you may have a difficult time getting support from your family. Talk to your boyfriend and if he sees nothing wrong in it...then you may want to find a new boyfriend or perhaps he may be able to help you depending on your age
2007-02-16 13:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jane Dee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty weird but maybe he dated this girl before and he doesn't want you dating her or maybe he likes her or something so he's worried that she'll pick you over him it's like a jealously thing trust me you'll prolly win because me and my sister we're like both trying to get the same guy and he liked me and not her I suppose but he was too afraid and then we played like Spin The Bottle and Seven Minutes In Heaven and stuff and we kept getting each other and in the Seven Minutes In Heaven he asked me if I would go out with him and I said yes.
2007-02-16 13:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is always a good thing and it is right to enjoy it while it lasts.
often than not, love happens between people who belong to communities which on their own have traditions and customs.
the thing is that in most human societies cousins are still considered as first relative and they wield their right in that capacity. in this view it remains a bigger duty on your cousin to protect the family honour by ensuring your likely boyfriend/ lover is there with honourable intents.
in today's reality this is hardly the case. i for one understand the innocence in flings , but the eventualities in most cases become a bane.
so if your boyfriend can step up to honour and handle this relationship according to wisdom by fulfilling the underlining neccesities as suggested by your local traditions and customs, you would not have to worry about your bro.... cousin's negetive disposition to your relationship.
mind you, if your cousin's stance is as gross as you have hinted you must be carefull not to trampple on his ego[ men would do anything to salve a bruised ego].
all said, it's your call to make.
yet you must be generally careful not to end up sad at the end of your decision.
2007-02-16 13:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some families are like that. My best friends family is exactly like that. Her whole family is like super involved in her life. Her cousins are protective over her. They say its because she's family, and they don't want to see her get hurt when its somethng they can help. It's part of their tradition, and their culture. If you don't like it, you should talk to your cousins and tell them to stop and that it makes you feel unappreciated and that you feel that they don't trust you to make your own decisions. Good luck!
2007-02-16 13:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by starsnmoons0101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants to sleep with you......is that what tour thinking if thats the impression you got you have to stop things right away
other wise he's like this beacuase you dont have any bor's or sis
so he's taking the role of big bro and thats what big bros do they ruin everything for teh little sis buy bullying boyfreinds getting dirt from the girlfreinds i know it sucks but wait untill someone messes with you you'll appericate it then i did the same crap to my little sis i didnt like her boyfreinds but befreinded them anyways so i knew what they where up to even better than my sis sometimes if you dont think he wants to molest you then you should concider your self lucky with this sort of burden
2007-02-16 13:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks of you as a sister, and doesn't want his friend with you. Maybe he knows something about the friend you don't. I hope it all works out for you! Good luck!!
2007-02-16 13:21:30 · answer #8 · answered by bcrazycaroline18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens everywhere... more often then you think that it does.... BUT i think that you have your own mind, make the choice for yourself... dont let other choose who you should or should not love.... good luck
2007-02-16 13:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by molly_tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you too much and does not want you to get hurt :)
2007-02-16 13:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Halomot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋