OK, she has started playing hard to get, how do I continue the pursuit?

Question

She is making getting another date difficult by being really busy and unavailable.

She does display a lot of interest both through her words and her actions in hanging out again though so she is definitely playing hard to get.

How do I pursue her without coming on too strong, being needy, clingy, etc.

How often should I ask her out and talk to her in general? Right now I left the ball in her court as far as when she is available, but that might have been a mistake since she wants me to chase her.

Answer 1

Did she put out the first few dates??? If no, lay low and let her come to you!!!

Answer 2

when a woman is playing hard to get, what she is testing you on is how desperate you are, your strengths, needs and breaking point.
yes, excuses have not changed in the last 1000 years, people still fall for the "i am busy" line, no one is too busy to not return calls or email within a reasonable time (a week at most).
they can throw a tantrum to make you feel guilty, but that only makes them look more guilty because disbelieving them shows how much of a B.S person they are.

anyway, if this mind-game woman is what you seek, you have to throw her off of her game...dont do what she expects most guys would do.

call 2 times one day, hang up if no answer, wait for an hour or two, leave a message on second call if no answer.

dont try again until 2-3 days have passed, do the same thing

if after 2-3 days, 2 voicemail messages, and 4 attempts, you get no results, dont call anymore.

this is of course that she has your number before started calling.
if a woman wants to make the time or wants to see you, they would make the time.

if you get no response from her in 2 weeks, drop her, move on, you didnt fall for her game and she needs to get your attention now...because you arent giving it to her.

Answer 3

I hate games, but the best advice I can give to you is treat her like she is treating you. She shouldn't be playing hard to get unless she's uninterested. If that's the case, give up now. If you know she's truly interested but is enjoying you chasing her, STOP chasing. Give her the "I'm busy" excuse, and let her do some chasing. It sounds like she may have an ego issue?

Answer 4

Well us girls hate it when guys try to hard/ because they show it and we know it. You need to in a sense lay low. ask her out casually....be rational about the asking her "Too Much" thing. level the playing field...don't ask her out as much and then she will begin to wonder whats going on, so then that will lead to you two getting together to talk. But do not come on too strong....but you need to push a little bit. I hope everything works out for you!

Good luck hon!

Victoria

Answer 5

Ive the same situation with this man.Hes my best friend,family friends son,know each other over six years,we are in love.But meetings he makes a big deal acts pricey.Yet he does have feeligns for me and is there for me always(like more then a friend)So ive decided im going to calling him to meet me somewhere,give time,date,address,then leave it upto him.He turns up great we are couple in love having a normal relationship with meeting dating if he does not come to meet me where ive asked i forget it move on there are other guys who want to date me.you should do the same thing!

Answer 6

keep chasing her but dont act like a creeper