I have this man in my life that is great! I mean really great! Good job (we work together), has his stuff together...everything that any woman is looking for. We flirt all the time and talk about our lives and kids (we both have them) but when I suggest that we go to lunch together he backs off. Just last week we were joking around and he stopped me and said that he was not going to let me lead him down "that path".....whatever that means! I am so confused! One day he will go out of his way to please me....like bring me donuts in the morning, and the next day I'm leading him down a "path"?? Please someone help.....guys what does it mean when another guy acts like that? By the way we have gone to lunch together before but always with other staff, and he always sits by me.
2007-02-16 05:04:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he is not married.
2007-02-16 05:09:10 · update #1
The way i see this is.............well he doesn't want to rush in-to things. Maybe he feels pressured. You have to think about these things u know. He and u have kids, Is he with the baby's mom??? and if so that's a big no no. But if hes not well he just wants to take it easy. Try to kick back on all the flirting, just a bit. Don't be asking him out for lunch let him take the initiative. Let him chase u around for a bit u know what i mean? Guys are not interested in something easy, If he likes u and wants something with u believe me he will come after it. And if he doesn't well honey there u go, "ur just a flirt" By the "Leading down the path" well this means u got it all set for him. NOt GOOD. he already know what will happen, there will be no surprises no nothing. And this takes the excitement out u know. Hope u fallow my advice, well good luck. Like i said let him call the shots let him feel like the man in the relationship. We need to talk more about the subject feel free to email me. Take care.
2007-02-16 05:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Twilight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has kids? Chances are this means he is also MARRIED...therefore he doesn't want your friendship to turn physical, since he is afraid of getting his butt divorced!
He was honest enough to tell you that he doesn't want anything more than a friendship. He goes to lunch with you -- but only when with your co-workers. He does friendly things like bring you donuts in the morning, sure, but he also is sending out all the signals that say "You are my friend at work, and nothing more". You should take the hint, and just remain friends. Maybe you should ask him to hook you up with someone who you can go out with -- if he's as good a friend as you say he is, he knows what sort of man you are looking for.
Don't mess up what seems to be a perfectly good working relationship. And don't be so desperate honey, you will find a man of your own soon enough...that's assuming you are a single mom and not trying to have an affair, of course, in which case, you are on your own! :)
Good luck!
2007-02-16 05:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by jalabi99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious. You are a co-worker or colleague of his. He spends time with you at work so as a friend he speaks and treats you the way he does. He is also obviously attached to his family and children and will not let anyone intrude into his family life. When he does something like getting you donuts, don't get any wrong ideas of his making advances to you. Just eat the donuts and be happy with his company. He is not making advances and you must not even suspect him for it. That path he is talking of is the wrong path. I suggest except for being friends, leave him alone. Never again try to lure him the way you appear to be hoping. You will lose this friend who seems to me a nice; good guy.
2007-02-16 05:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kool-kat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's either in a committed relationship if he speaks of being "lead" down "that path" or he's going/has gone through a divorce??? To mention the word "lead" alone speaks of a temptation. So if he's married and you're trying to seduce him, he's letting you know now that you don't have a chance and he's happy with his wife.
Either or, he doesn't want involved. At least not yet.
2007-02-16 05:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends with him. That is the best. I have found that the best way to deal with guys, is to just become friends, let them know you are interested and then let them take the lead. Guys don't like pushy girls.
Next time he tells you that, ask him what he means by that. Maybe he is not over his ex. Or his divorce may not be completely final.
2007-02-16 05:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not really have the same feelings for you maybe he's still getting over his previous girlfriend/wife/fiance and he's not ready for more commitment and maybe you're scaring him away by repeatedly asking him to go out for lunch and maybe you should like schedule something with him like the two of you taking your kids out for lunch or something and then he won't be so wary of you and maybe he just wants a chance to get to know you a little better.
2007-02-16 05:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
specific it could be annoying to hold decrease back in the journey that your getting him all warm and bothered and then pulling decrease back. it is observed as teasing. the place does he flow after he leaves your place? a guy cant and wont wait consistently. He won't be going each of how with you even though it does no longer mean he's no longer looking it someplace else. intercourse is in simple terms intercourse to alot of fellows. they might have a one evening stand and not sense something for the girl who supplies it up. Or sense accountable for doing it.
2016-12-17 11:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by moncalieri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, it means he's not interested. Not necessarily that he's not interested in YOU but that he may not be interested in a relationship altogether.
If you want to find out what's going on, you should broach the subject from a non-partial standpoint. In other words, find out what his past relationship(s) were like and if he's looking for a relationship without putting yourself in the picture. Speak in general terms.
From there, you can choose your course. Best of luck.
2007-02-16 05:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by DaveJoseph 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back off. Perhaps he's *gasp* not interested in "going down that path" as he said. Plain and simple. How would you feel if a guy was after you like that, but you didn't like him that way.
2007-02-16 05:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe there is a problem he is trying to deal with... he still want to be with his friend and be around people... but seems to be a bit insecure of being to alone with a female... i dont know for sure... but "that path" is meaning like... he's not ready to go through something he's not used to... it will take time... but the best way to find out is... getting it stright for the person... ask him why?... dont get mad if he gets upset if you ask him a Q? that would make him feel uncomfortable... try and understand why he is doing that... maybe he is really trying to get over something... but like i said... ask... and get a stright answer...
2007-02-16 05:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋