I feel unnappreciated in my relationship. I don't feel like he's interested in me anymore. I've tried to talk to him about it, but he rolls it off his shoulders. Also, in the past, we've gone through this, and he still doesn't make an effort. It is an otherwise good relationship.
I'm going to do a strip tease for him for his birthday. I've decided that if he laughs and isn't turned on or doesn't appreciate it, that that's it for me. I've decided this because doing something like that would be putting myself out there and possibly making myself look stupid (I'm a klutz! haha) shows just how dedicated I am, and if he doesn't appreciate it, then he doesn't care and he's not worth it.
Is that wrong of me? This is his last chance and my last effort.
2007-02-16 05:00:27 · 29 answers · asked by :-) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason why I don't just end it is because he really has been good to me, but for the past 3 months he's just disinterested in me. He loves me the same, but I just don't feel it from him. I've told him that, and he just shrugs it off. I'm thinking this will either get him interested in me again or just really make me walk out the door.
2007-02-16 05:07:28 · update #1
If you're not happy, then get out. You have that right.
2007-02-16 05:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think is best for u to do something else that is more romantic and can touch his heart than doing strip tease for his bday. A romantic nite following up wit a nice love making scene will do better than strip tease. Let him hold u and hug u to make him know how deep is ur love to him. Non verbal communication will do better than jst talk. Break up will alwys be the last alternative. u have still alot to do b4 breaking up wit him. Love comes and goes but tis a matter of how both of u create the love and intimacy between u 2
2007-02-16 13:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by john 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
um... Dont do the strip tease for one..for two.. if your not happy and you have tried to be civil in communicating your concerns of the relationship. Sometimes our last resort is to leave that person and let them know that mean business.. The only thing is that dont be fooled into thinking that its easy. its very hard to break up with someone you love and they dont recipicate what you put into it. Just remember if you do that and decide to get back with that person: A relationship is like a shoe string you can cut it and tie it back up but its never the same shoe string theres a note where it use to be whole. I hope you and your dude get it stright but if dude is young dont waist your time... it take us a while to mature.. im 31 I did not get striaght until 26 and geled into a man searching for my soulmate around 27 it takes time for us to get it...
2007-02-16 13:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are frustrated with him. you can't have a successful or fulfilling relationship if only one partner is doing all the work. He needs to catch a wake up and see that he is lucky to have you who is willing to try your best to make things work and spice up the relationship if he cant put in the same effort or at least "try" to put in some effort then you are wasting your time and if you were to get married to this guy later on you would be in the same position. rather get out now before you get in deeper. good luck and find a guy that can give just as well as he can get. good luck!
2007-02-16 13:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by ☆Ele☆ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Using sexuality (striptease) as a deciding factor for your relationship is a very poor idea...even if he gets turned on does not make him sensitive to your needs...It will never make him step up in any way...Also you are way too vulnerable at this point to put your self out there like that....I have used sex for many years as a last ditch effort to make a relationship work, but deep down inseide we know it won't REALLY change anything...He does not deserve that for his birthday. I think you should sit down and write out what it is you need and then ask him if he is able to give it to you, if he can't it doesn't make him a bad guy just NOT able or willing and then you need to surround yourself with people who love you with your clothes on.
2007-02-16 13:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong for you to break up with someone if they are not willing to work at the relationship..... it goes both way... if one person is trying so hard to work on the relationship and the other is just sitting there, of course it is going no where..... as far as doing things for him, you dont need to prove anything to him. a person should like you for you... good luck and i am with you all the way.... he has no more interest, so why should you still have interest... some people dont know what they got until they loose it....
2007-02-16 13:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by molly_tony 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it would not be wrong of you. The point of being with someone is because you are happy. I have been there already he just lost interest and i tried and tried to make it work but nothing ever changed. it seems to me like you are not happy, trust me if you are not happy you will not be. if a man does not appreciate his woman he does not respect her. Good luck with everything!
2007-02-16 13:08:39 · answer #7 · answered by Shelby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well for starters,,,,,he don't deserve the strip tease.......that's like,,,,,,offering him the last piece of booty before the break up.................Just get some nerve and end it. I mean, if you're not happy, and he don't care if you're together or not, ,,,,then why not just move on to someone who will treat you better? I know you love him, and I do know how you feel, but don't sit around and wait for him to decide whether or not you are good enough for him.
2007-02-16 13:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
th e venom being lost in arelationshipe after constant dating si a old prob the only way u can let it stay alive is by innovating and u and he both making an effort for ti and trust me have a talk with him about it seriously and explain him that u ned it more than he thought u did and god willing every thing shall be alright
2007-02-16 13:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by niss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong, but why try to keep some one that isn't interested in you anymore. Start making it with "it all about me now" Think more about yourself. Quit making it all about him, women spend so much time trying to please there man and don't realize that the man doesn't even care. As long as you cook, clean and have sex about them they think everything is okay in the relationship.
Good luck how he starts to appreciate you for who you are.
2007-02-16 13:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
-f you feel unappreciated in a relationship, you should not have to put up with that. Talk to your partner and have a heart-to-heart discussion about it. If that does not bring about any chances, ask them to join you in some marital or relationship counseling. If that still does not bring about a change, perhaps you might consider moving on.
2007-02-16 13:08:48 · answer #11 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋