My boyfriend has keys 2 my apartment & practically lives there, but he doesn't. He has his own place that he's at sometimes but spends most of his time at my place. The problem I'm having with him is that it can get pretty late sometimes, like 10 or 11 in the evening & he doesn't call to let me know if he's coming by or not & when I call him to ask he beats around the bush about the subject. Yes, he has a key but wouldn't it be considerate if he could at least call and let me know if he's going to come by or not. Is that expecting too much?
2007-02-16 04:50:03 · 8 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You aren't expecting too much. You're GIVING him too much. Too much rope, too much freedom, too much license to be inconsiderate.
You should ask for your keys back, and only let him in when he gives you a phone call first...at a decent hour.
P.S. Be VERY careful if he has free & easy access to YOUR apartment, but you don't have free & easy access to HIS. His beating around the bush when you call him may (MAY!) be his way of masking the fact that he's got a girl with him at his place, and also his way of making sure that you don't have a man with you at yours.
Think about it.
If you don't have a key to his place, he sure as h*** shouldn't have a key to yours.
2007-02-16 04:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is taking you for granted and not respecting your time. You need to set some boundaries and close that revolving door. If he can not give you the courtesy of answering you when you ask if he is coming over, then you need to get your keys back and not be so 'available'.
2007-02-16 05:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by crzynluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My BF and I have a curfew we imposed on ourselves right when we met. On our second date, I said Look, I have to be at work early tomorrow, I'm not trying to put you out, but I need to get some sleep! We decided 11 was late enough during the week, and we've stuck to that ever since...and we're in our mid-30's, not kids.
I think you need to have a chat with him about this subject.
2007-02-16 04:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not expecting too much at all! Maybe it's time to ask for the key back until he finds his manners!
2007-02-16 04:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by just another dudette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no i see where your coming from though dont worry about it but if it starts to bother you more than ask him to call and tell you or just get your keys back from him do you have keys to his place
2007-02-16 04:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, it would be common courtesy for him to let you know if he is coming over. however, your idea and his idea of common courtesy could be two different things and it is obviously the case. in your idea and mine it would be common courtesy, but in his mind, it could be too much to ask. just sit down and talk to him about this. hopefully you can work something out. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-16 04:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's a common courtesy.
2007-02-16 04:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Your Highness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump him and get your keys back.
2007-02-16 04:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋