Husband Deployed?

Question

I got married, and 10 days later my husband who is in the Marine Corp left for Japan for three months. (Well, it's 3 months so far, but who knows with the way the military works ;) ) We found out that i am pregnant, so now I'm stuck here and all i can do is think about the time i'm missing out on with him. Do any other military spouses have any advice as far as tricks to pass the time?

He's stationed at Cherry Point, NC. And to the guy who think's im foolish, they say being in love is the same as being insane, so yeah, I guess i'm a little crazy. ;) I don't feel sorry for myself. And I don't regret choosing the military life. I was just simply asking others what they have done, so military haters back off.

Answer 1

Honey thats fine,My hubby just got back from a deployment 5 monthes ago,and hes leaving again in 1month.You have yo be ready to live the Military life.Are you here on Camp Pendleton.My hubby is a marine aslo.It is hard everytime,but make sure you dont get stressed out,and make freinds,talk to your family.maybe get a job for the first couple monthes.Me i was home everyday with my son,and freinds.As soon as you know it he will be back.At least hes not gone for 7 monthes at a time like mine.Mine is going to Iraq for 7 monthes.maybe Decorate the babys room with furnisher,and nice stuff put urself in a little mission urself.I live close to the pool,and the gym,so during the hot summer thats where we went to the most,Or the beach with the feinds.

Answer 2

You are not alone! I am a Marine Corps wife too and I can't tell you how many woman I've seen left behind while pregnant. First, be proud of your husband's commitment to serving his country and give yourself credit for your role in that. Not every woman is up to the task. Second, you can't think of it as just passing time until he returns - you have a life too and you have to live it even in his absence. You will be an even better mother and wife if you are your own, strong, woman. Take this time as an opportunity to pursue those things that interest you. You can miss him like crazy but there is no sense in being lonely. Find other wives and get involved in groups that you are interested in. People will welcome you and be very supportive. Your husband will admire and value your strength.

Answer 3

There aren't any tricks. You are going to miss him and some days more than others.
My husband is in Iraq and has been for 8 months, he may also get extended for longer than a year, or get redeployed right when hes suppose to be coming home.
We have a 5 yr old and a 9 month old baby.
You could join a military spouse club
join a pregnany class and parenting class
Hopefully you have friends around, hang out often.
Don't-
count everyday..that just makes it worse.
sit around alone
Deployments suck but as a marine he wont be gone longer than 7 months, so thats a plus belieive it or not.

Answer 4

Hey Hero,
Idle time will ruin you. It will drive yourself and your husband insane.
Do projects and set goals. Maybe learn how to quilt and start one to be handed down to future generations. You could start a sewing club among military wives, or a book club or anything that brings you into contact with people going through the same situation.
Start a flower garden and send him pictures of your progress, dried pressed flowers with your letters. Write a book for your baby, learn a new software program. You have a lot of options.
You are not stuck there! Think positive. You are choosing to be there, honoring your commitment to your husband who needs you, YOU, to be the strong foundation to help keep his hopes and dreams alive while he is away. He needs you to have exciting and positive things to talk about when he calls, not " I can't live without you, I'm missing out on time with you"... or whatever.
That will destroy his heart. You are married for gosh sakes. You have the rest of your life with him girl!

Answer 5

Find something to do other than miss him all day and someone to do it with. Either a church group or friends or family or your family readiness group. It helps to have people to keep you active. Just hang in there and the days will pass and he'll be home. The posters above had good ideas on activities you can take up so I just wanted to add this:

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USMC WIFE'S SERENITY PRAYER

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change like
Barracks duty, unaccompanied tours, delays in returns to name a few.

God grant me the courage to accept the things I can change like the furniture arrangement, forwarding addresses, schools, and such.

And, God, grant me the knowledge that I am a strong and proud woman. God, please note, I am a Marine Corps Wife.

Answer 6

I am a military wife, and I just take classes to help with my degree to pass time. Its hard we just got to a new duty station and my hubby left 2 months after, he wont be back til next year.

Answer 7

hi first off congrats on the marriage and baby,
my husband is deployed to iraq so i know what your going through. hes been gone for 4 months already. the best advice i have is meet other wives in his unit. look in yahoo groups myspace. contact his base for info on his units family readiness group they are your best source of support and advice since they are in the same boat with you,

how to pass the time. stay busy. very busy. start a journal for him to read when he returns start a journal on your pregnancy to give to the baby when their older, if you have a hobby get into it. send packages to him. write him letters not just emails. paper letters mean alot too. start looking at baby gear and baby name books plan for the baby

in my own experience i have found that the days pass alot faster when i stay busy. good luck and congrats

Answer 8

WestPac widow

Answer 9

Hence the complete foolishness of getting married before a deployment much less letting yourself get pregnant. My advice is to get out and do something - work, volunteer, anything to get you thinking about something other than feeling sorry for yourself. Try to contact other Marine wives etc.