I have been dating this guy on and off for a little under three years. It started out as a casual no strings atached thing but to tell you the truth I love him VERY much after all this time. It has been off and on due to the fact that he is in the military and our agreement was when he had to be deployed we would go our separate ways and if we were to start hooking up again after he got back fine, if not fine. We always maintained a friendship. He is a really great guy who I would even think of marrying. I have never really felt like that before. About 4-5 months ago he told me we couldn't see eachother any more because he was leaving to go back home to Ohio and didn't think it was fair to either one of us to continue our relationship. We have been through a lot together but we have never been "BF/GF". Now, he is not leaving for (as we see it) another year or so and we have reconnected.
Am I just setting myself up to get hurt again or do you think I could finally have what I want?
2007-02-16 04:46:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I KNOW he has feelings for me I think he is just scared but I don't know what of.
2007-02-16 04:48:32 · update #1
You will always have disappointments and "hurts" in your life. If a relationship does not work out, let it go... it wasn't meant to be... at least not right now.
Listen to your inner-self, maybe it's an ANGEL giving you advice!
2007-02-16 04:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by emy_1114 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It not what he scare of about his feelings for you... if you were gf/bf or married... he didn't want you go though grief sob for long time... He didn't want you go though... If he retired from military and yeah he would married you but right now he want you to do what you need to do and he has to go to war and don't want you to worry about him.... he want to serve his country... many many military wifes girlfriends loves their men... and not thinking that if he was killed left kids behind and all that... Women who with Military know what will happen if he got killed or missing... but women don't think that will happen to their men....
That man you have right now wow, he told you if he went and don't want you and him to have any thing love or something. He has to go and focus his job and serve the country. So you gonnahave to go on and do your thing college, work, or something... If he was killed and you found out... what would you do??? you never get over it and don't want no other man... He didn't want to see you going though with this...
So I hope you understand... That how My dad and mom didn't do very well when he was in Marines.... so he got back he was very mean and hateful person...
Remember, he might be same person you saw him and maybe not. He want you to know that there is no fairy tale to happen. just remember do what you need to do and now you make the choice....
2007-02-16 05:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how you feel and that you want to move things laong and actually be with him tell him next time he deploys that you arent going to break things off with him and that you have strong feelings with him just let him know whats in your heart and if he doesnt feel the same about you then you might as well move on good luck
2007-02-16 05:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the military is his career I say break it off, Im in the army and its gonna be like that til he retires.
2007-02-16 04:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by rc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should find someone else that makes you happy but you should also tell him how you feel about him...it might shake him up a bit and he might decide that it might be time to take it the next step :)
P.S. sry about him movin away i know if my boy friend i would be upset
2007-02-16 04:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are setting yourself up to get hurt drastically, babe. Just come my way, and I'll show you the world, sweetheart.
2007-02-16 04:50:19 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel-san 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ain't nothin but some boo-tay, accept that.
2007-02-16 04:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by knottygaboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋