I am engaged but how will i know if its to the right man?

Answer 1

IF YOU ARE ASKING THAT HE IS NOT THE RIGHT MAN

Answer 2

You shouldn't be engaged if you are questioning it...why did you say "yes" to his proposal? If you felt obligated or that "it was the right thing to do", then it's all wrong. You will know when the right man comes along, trust me - there won't be any question about it.

Answer 3

You're never going to be SURE. I've been married 35 years, and there is no guarantee my marriage will go on forever. It just doesn't work that way. I remember people who told me if I wasn't sure I shouldn't be getting married.....hogwash! You are making a huge lifetime committment, something you've probably never done before. To be "sure" that this marriage will make it through all the ups and downs of life, and still be good after all the changing you and your husband will do through life is impossible. In fact, I think people who are a little intimidated by this committment are those that take it the most serious. Those starry-eyed, "this is my soul-mate forever" statements are made in the heat of love and lust. The long haul is a little bit tougher. There are some things you can do to make yourself feel a little more comfortable with him. Talk about his views on the real basics, religion, children, what his life's work might be. Here is a great one, watch how he treats you when you're sick. Does he take care of you, does he help you to feel better, does he care about your needs when you can't take care of them yourself? This is a pretty good indication of what life with him will be like. Of course, pre-marriage couseling will help you get to a lot of issues quickly. So, after you've done all that, you hold on tight and jump, and hope you've made the right decision. Life with your best friend is terrific.....I oughta know.....so far. Good Luck.

Answer 4

If you're not sure if he's the right man. You're probably not ready for marriage. If you're not ready and it's not the right time, weather or not he's the right man becomes a moot point.. marriage won't work unless you enter into that union at the right time, with the right person and the with right attitude and motives. Talk to you're fiance about your feelings. Get pre-martial counseling to help you make the right decisions.

Answer 5

I will state the obvious: this question is a little late, it should've been the question before you said yes to being engaged.

He is not the right man if you have to ask. Sometimes even when we feel we know we are wrong, so if you don't feel it all something is wrong!!!

Why are you marrying him...really, what is the motivating factor? That will tell you a lot about if it is the real deal or not.

Good luck and it's not too late to back out!

Answer 6

It is natural to be nervous, and even sometimes question your feelings when you're taking a big step in your relationship. The bottom line is - Do you love this man? Can you imagine your future without him? Does he treat you right? If you're still not sure, spend a couple of days away from him and see how you feel. Time apart will accentuate your feelings, whether they be of true love or the need for independence.

Answer 7

Do youre personalities connect - do you have plenty to talk about? Are you truthfull and faithfull to each other. Do you respect and admire him, and does he respect and admire you? Are you both considerate to each other. Do you both have fun together? Can you trust him and does he trust you? Do you both connect physicaly very well? Can you tell him anything and can he tell you anything? Do you both feel totaly comfortable with eachother? Have you know him long enough to really know him and been through lots of different things together to know how he is in all different situations so as to see all different sides of him and vice versa? Do you generaly get on well without many seriouse arguments? Do you share the same religious/spiritual beliefs and if not are you both able to see past that or is it going to be a problem if he doesnt come round to your way of thinking etc?

What about your ambitions in life eg traveling, kids, career etc... are both yours and his ambitions compatable and likely to be going in the same direction?

Ask yourself as many questions as possible. Then hopefully the answer should become clear..

Best of luck.

Answer 8

Hopefully, your have known him long enough to get past the first initial year, where everyone puts their best foot forward. So if you have seen the good, the bad, and the nerve racking parts of your man; and you're still in love with him. I said "In Love", not just love him. He also has to make you feel valued.

Answer 9

If you are having serious doubts, not just cold feet. Then you shouldn't be engaged, b/c he's not the right man.

Answer 10

Infact you have asked a very interesting Question.... Which mingles in most of our minds. however try getting more information about him from around. Try to take as many positive points he possesses and ask yourself whether you would like to live with him/ not. Try not to any make decision in a hurry. Pre- Marital counseling will go hand in hand with what I have mentioned.
Also talk to him more and observe his behavior(gestures, body language, eye contact) and the content of his speech.

Answer 11

You should have asked before accepting the proposal. However it's normal to question yourself when you make such a big commitment. I would just focus on the reasons why you stay with him and the quality of relationship you have. If you can't figure those out or they are both negative, you should move on.