My ex and I have been broken up for over a year now and of course, I haven't gotten over it. (I'm 25! it's ridiculous). So he just broke up with his gf of 4 months the day before Valentine's day, and he told our mutual friend that he just wasn't into her like he was me and by this time with me, he was in love. He wouldn't talk to me this whole year (maybe here and there) until now. He's going to build me a custom enclosure for my baby ball python here in the next few weeks, and I told him I'd pay him... But why all of a sudden is he coming around?? I'm the one who made contact with him when i heard he was going to break it off with his girl... normally he wouldn't respond but he did. Now I'm getting all this hope that he might still love me and we might get back together. I just have to keep telling meself we broke up for a reason. I love that book "It's called a breakup because it's broken". I still love him, though. I wonder if he feels the same?? "Incomplete" by the B-boys
2007-02-16 04:38:57 · 14 answers · asked by wickidgrrl82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was a really ugly breakup. To keep a long story short- I got pregnant, he freaked out, already has a 8-yr old little girl. Said he'd leave me if I kept it, we'd get married and "do it right" if I aborted. I aborted, he broke up with me about a month after (I was going crazy, really depressed and pissed off) and we fought A LOT after the abortion, too. Ya, I should be happy this guy's gone. But before the pregnancy, things were so good... Not perfect, but really good. We were happy. We both said we had something really special.. He called me his little chicken lol in a really cute way, of course. Dorky, yes, but it was our little thing. He'd never called anyone by a pet name before, and hasn't since. We just... clicked. And of course, clashed a lot too. I don't know if the love is still there.. I put a few holes in his walls while I was pregnant for a month. he was a freakin' JERK to me. I needed him and he wasn't there for me. Pregnancy makes you kinda nutty...
2007-02-16 04:55:06 · update #1
As my Grandma used to tell me.... Don't put all your eggs in one basket.
You guys broke up for a reason. You can hope that whatever led the two of you to breakup the first time may have been overcome by maturity. But don't count on it. Not enough time has gone by for anyone to have matured THAT much.
Keeps your eyes wide open sweetie, and don't have unrealistic expectations.
2007-02-16 04:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by atomictulip 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say why you broke up in the first place. If he's a nice man who does't hit you, has a good job, does not control you, doesn't do drugs, no criminal record then I would give it another try.
If you do, don't make the same mistakes from the first try. Start the relationship slowly. Don't move in with him or vise versa. Don't get pregnant either. Make sure you keep your space incase it does't work out. Date him like you just met him. Have him win you over by taking you out for dinner, movies etc.
Remember that he's on the rebound. Keep in mind that he may also make up with his old GirlFriend. It sounds like you really love this man. But that doesn't mean he loves you.
Play it smart. Move on with your life and find someone else to win your heart if it doesnt work out.
Good Luck
2007-02-16 04:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She,s not really into you, is she - do you need a special telegram from the queen to tell you that simple fact. You could hang around like a sap or show you are capable of making other relationships too, where, at least the person would be more into you than your present choice.. You may also want to check out more facts and information on how to make love and really satisfy a partner, as your girl-friend may be going for top-ups from her ex, because you can,t do the business well...
2016-03-28 22:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do to keep from wondering is to actually walk up and talk to him.....u guys may not be as close as u were b4 but the point is u were once before. Tell him how you feel...as awkward as it may be to have this conversation. You never know, it just might be what he wanted to hear all along. People get back together all the time. If it doesn't work out the way u wanted it to, oh well, no more wondering.
2007-02-16 04:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend had correct information then chances are he may still have feelings, but doesn't mean he wants to get back together. I guess i'd wait and see how things play out when he comes over, but don't get your hopes up just in case he just wants to be friends. Let him make the first move.
2007-02-16 04:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could go on and on trying to analyze your situation, but the short answer is, see what happens. You say you both have feelings left for each other, then let nature take its course. Because u haven't said why u broke up, its hard to say if you could salvage the relationship. Perhaps a year apart, you both have matured a bit. Good luck!
2007-02-16 04:48:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is possibly open to getting back together with you but is going to take a cautious look and see if the issues involved with the break up are resolved or not. I would just try to have fun and enjoy any time you get to spend with him and not push him away by pressuring him into answers for now.
2007-02-16 04:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Shawn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself. He got her on the rebound and now you're in his line of sight. It's hard to be alone and that will make anybody attractive to him. It could work, but to protect your own self esteem and emotions, don't sleep with him for a very long time.
2007-02-16 04:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were you..I'd ask him to come over some night just to "hang out" and see if it's like old times....if it is, maybe MENTION it..like "Gosh, this feels like old times huh? I really miss it." If he has feelings or something, he'll probably mention them then. Guys don't like to be the first to say things. Also, it would be BEST to get your feelings out...don't be afraid to say how you feel to him...the worst he can do is say he doesn't feel the same way...but that's better then never knowing ..."WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN." Best of luck...oh and if it makes you feel more confident...this same thing happened to me...and, I'm with my ex again! <3 =0)
2007-02-16 04:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by nessa20 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Still love you? Maybe he does, but more likely you're just a rebound.
Sorry, be honest with yourself tho.
2007-02-16 04:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by deucelow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋