Language of love.....?

Question

My name is Jessica, For those of you who don' know me :)
I guess I'll start off by telling you a bit about my situation,
About 3 months ago, A spanish speaking family of 7 moved into my apartment complex, And they live right below me... Well they have 2 little daughters who's names are Samantha & Cynthia. Samantha is 7, and Cynthia is 5. I met these two young girls one day, And I soon became very fond of them, I learned that their dad and the two young girls are the only 3 people in their house that speak English, Samantha and Cynthia have 3 cousins that live with them, So it's the two young girls, their mom & dad, as well as 3 cousins. Over these past 3 months, I have become VERY fond of one of her cousins named Pablo ( Paul ) And He has become very fond of me as well, I have been studying Spanish with this family since the day I met them, And I am learning very quickly.... But I feel like I have really fallen for this guy Pablo...

But we can't speak eachothers language, yet. We study every day for hours and hours, A lot of time and effort has gone into this relationship already, and I dont want to give up on it. . . My parents have no idea about this relationship between him & I. I haven't told them because I'm afraid they will get rather upset about it, And restrict me from seeing him, My parents are very outgoing & down to earth people, They are wonderful, And loving.... It kills me that I'm not telling them about this relationship because all they ask for is honesty, they just want me to tell them how I feel and what's actually going on in my life, They hate liars, And they have tried to raise me to be completely honest to others, myself and them as well.

The only reason I haven't said anything to them, Is because of the fact that Pablo can't speak English that much, And my parents like to get to know the man that I am interested in..... They want to know his intentions, and his goals in life, They don't interrogate him or anything, they just wanna know who he is... that's it. They are always so polite to the guys that I have been interested in, in the past.

And with Pablo not speaking English, I'm afraid that it will be a major problem, Actually, I know it will be a major problem, So I was just hoping to wait, and teach him more English in hopes that he will learn quickly, and I can tell my parents about this relationship we have between eachother. My parents are very smart people, And they know me like the back of their hands, They can usually read me like a book, And that's a problem in this case, Because Pablo always buys me things, Even though I keep asking him not to, He is always buying me things, And he says it's just because he wants to make sure that I realize that he truley cares about me, And he doesn't exactly know how to express it, So he continues to buy me things......... But my parents will notice these things, And ask where it is that I got them, And I usually don't know what to say, because I honestly dont want to lie to them...

I love my parents. I just want to be honest, And live happy.... But Pablo truly satisfies my heart to the deepest depths possible.


- Now that you are aware of the situation ....

My questions are...

1 ) Do you think we are completely crazy for being interested and dating each other though we can't speak each others language?

2 ) Is it possible, In your opinion for this relationship to go somewhere in life... Somewhere positive?

3 ) Now that I gave a little bit of information on my parents, What should I do in your opinion... Should I continue lying until Pablo can speak English, Or just tell them now.. orr what?



Please help!!!!!!!!

I'll choose best answer ASAP!!!

Thanks so much for your help!!!
I really appreciate it!

Answer 1

baby girl, there is nothing wrong by falling in love with pablo. language, in time, both out you will over come. i married someone before where we have language barrier. but we soon over came that obstacle. tell you parent of what's going on, it woudl be easier to introduce him to your family. but baby girl, you need to know him inside and out like you would with any other boys that you want to get close to.

Answer 2

I think that it is absolutely great that you have crossed a cultural and language barrier so quickly and without much help. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being in a relationship with someone of a different ethnicity. What does concern me a little is that you are painting the picture of a very deep relationship, yet you say that the two of you can hardly speak each other's language. It is one thing to be attracted to someone because of their mannerisms, looks, or accent, but I could hardly say that I was deeply involved in a relationship with someone that I couldn't communicate effectively with. I think that you are going down the right path and that it will all work out in the end, but I think you need to take a step back and assess how deep your feelings are. No one knows your parents better than you do, and I think the ticket to telling them about Pablo would be to introduce him as a friend first, then let it progress. If you must introduce him as a boyfriend or love interest, try to understate the fact so that they do not get overwhelmed with the situation. Chances are, if you present him as you did to the Yahoo! community, they will have some serious questions about how you are carrying on this 'serious' relationship without solid communication. With that said, you seem to be an intelligent woman, and I think that this will all work out fine for you. I know how you feel...a few years ago in college I dated a woman from Saudi Arabia. Thank God for English because she did not speak Spanish (my first language although I am US born) and I definitely do not speak Arabic. A language barrier can be overcome with a little effort, but the key is time. I wish you the best of luck. If you need more advice, you can email me directly at dryicezero-at-yahoo-dot-com.

Answer 3

1 ) Do you think we are completely crazy for being interested and dating each other though we can't speak each others language?

Ans: No, you two are not completely crazy. A lot of people have to overcome barriers in order to go through with their relationships. If you two can overcome the language barrier, then you two are truly for each other.

2 ) Is it possible, In your opinion for this relationship to go somewhere in life... Somewhere positive?

Ans: That would be up to the two of you, if you overcome one barrier, then you can overcome the others. Relationships needs two people to work together for love and if you two will be together through these tough times, then this relationship will go somewhere.

3 ) Now that I gave a little bit of information on my parents, What should I do in your opinion... Should I continue lying until Pablo can speak English, Or just tell them now.. orr what?

Ans: If you parents value honesty, then be honest to them. Tell them about you and Pablo. They will be worried at first but if you tell them that you love him and that you two will work hard to overcome the barriers between the two of you. As they say, parents just wants the best for thier kids and if you show them that you value your relationship then they will even probably help go through your relationship.



Dont let the language barrier stop you from loving someone who really like.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Jessica ! I know you are trying to justify your own conscience in asking this question. You love your parents and do not want to displease/offend them. You are in deep love with Paul and so is he. You are also worried about your acceptance in his family because of the language barrier and vice versa.My advice: If you both are convinced that you are perfect for each other, be frank enough to speak to your parents openly.Let him also do it.Language is no barrier when you are bent on overcoming that. Think of your childhood-as children if we are shifted over to an alien land, we learn to communicate in the local language fast so that we can move along with other children!! Still we speak our own language at home but brings other language friends home and they also perfectly start mingling with others. Same is the case here. Once you have decided, Spanish will not be a problem to you or English to him!!

Answer 5

wow long question...
well I think that if you guys are that happy together, it shouldn't matter that his English is not perfect, or that your Spanish is not perfect... if you can communicate and understand each other, that's all that counts. hell you can even understand each other by signs :))
as for your parents, I'm sure they will care more about the fact that Pablo makes you happy, rather than about the fact that he is Spanish and he's not able to communicate in English at a higher level...
well that's about it. I hope your love story has a happy ending, no matter of the language it is written in! good luck!

Answer 6

1) yes you should continue going out. i think it is so cute and romantic how you are overcoming the langague barrier
2) I'm sure it will turn out positive, but if it ends up you don't feel like going out you can still be friends and help him learn even more of english.i'm sure it wont though, he sounds so sweet.
3) I would tell them how you feel about him. if they are outgoing and down to earth, they shouldn't mind. I would tell them you are sorryyou didn't tell them where the gifts were from, but you just didn't know what to say. If needed have his dad or someone that speaks both english and spanish translate when your parents ask him questions.

hope i helped=]

Answer 7

Honesty and trust - the very things your parents instilled in you, is what you need to do right now - be honest with your parents and give them the opportunity to consider and digest the news about Pablo - and trust they will see how much you care about him and him about you. It sounds like they are pretty cool, so don't do anything to damage that relationship - boys come and go, but you have your parents forever!
Good Luck!
Aloha!!

Answer 8

I think it is really cute that your with a Spanish guy because they are so romantic but he will eventually learn Spanish because my aunt was with a guy who didn't speak Spanish and now he knows more than her i think you should tell your parents because my mom is very strict lady and when she found out she was very open about it and told me what she didn't want with my relationship? And i understood the fact and now she adores my boyfriend that i been with going on 2 yrs in April.

Answer 9

Well, in your case, the very best thing to do is to tell your parents about what's going on with you and him. Parents can understand your situation, in the first place. Your status in life I think is to go on with your studies and then to find the right man for you. If you're on a stage of relationship, why bothered? You can go on with your love to him, while each of you teaching each other language to fulfill it. Never in our life that we cannot do the impossible when we are in love. Follow your heart and be brave to face the world about your love. Be courageous enough to tell your parents about your love to him. A love that's felt with pure intentions blossoms forever. And, please never indulge in pre-marital sex first. Align yourself and think more if this is what you want for life. Because marriage is sacred and lasting.

Answer 10

G tell ur parents and if they are as understandin as i think they are they'll probably give u guys language lessons a couple of tips and 4 Pablo tell him i'm proud of a good guy whop doesnt think life's just 'bout playin multiple girls.