Depression and my relationship.....is it normal to feel like this?

Question

I've been suffering from depression for the last month or so and have been prescribed therapy by my doctor. I really feel it is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. he is the best boyfriend anyone could ask for. I get bouts when i absolutely doubt everything about our relationship and wonder if i want to be with him anymore and if i would be better off without him. The truth is i couldn't cope without him he is my rock and my best friend. he's being so supportive. I feel like I love him one minute and like i need to get out of the relationship the next. When i'm feeling OK, i feel really happy in the relationship and i was just being silly, but suddenly i'll snap back again and feel anxiety. Is it normal to feel like this about someone you love and are happy with normally, when you have depression?

Answer 1

You need to talk to your therapist about this. You have to figure out what caused this depression in the last month......? Something has happened to cause you to suddenly feel this way.

Tell your bf that you appreciate him being supportive and you will get better since you are getting help. Your bf cannot help you with your depression. And you can do it without him. Yes, you would be sad, but you would go on with your life. Maybe that's part of the problem. You fear that he is going to leave you?

Answer 2

Hi, I don't know if this is any consolation to you but I am in the exact same situation. I am suffering from anxiety and depression and have trouble working out whether doubts about my relationship or a symptom or a cause of this depression. The puzzle for me is that the doubts don't seem to have any foundation. Not alone is my girfriend great but we are great together. So why the doubts...?

My doctor sent me to a Cognitive Behaviour Therapist...the first time i have ever been to a counsellor or psychologist. After listening to my woes, the therapist said there is nothing wrong with my relationship but that I have a mild form of obsessive compulsive disorder...basically: malfunctioning thought patterns that are creating negative feelings where none should exist. And these thought patterns are ultimately making me depressed.

Heavy stuff, but it explains a lot of things to me and offers hope for my relationship. But I've only been to him once so we'll see what happens next...

So basically, despite what everybody says about you'll "just know" if he's the one,, etc, I'm not sure that that is always the case. It really depends on what sort of person you are, i think/hope. And my therapist gave me some good advice: You've made a decision already to be with this person, so stick with it for now until your head is clear...and then you will know what to do.

Answer 3

Honestly, It sounds to me that you are having doubts in your relationship and are insecure about leaving him and this is the cause of your depression. It doesn't help that most people suffer from one form of depression during the winter months. A doctor shouldn't prescribe serious medication within this short of window unless this was ongoing and this depression is a side effect of the medication I suggest you talking to your doctor about changing it or finding out from him/her if this is normal. You may not have been given the right medication but only a professional can properly give you a diagnosis. I'm not qualified and I don't think you can honestly find your answers here in these fourms. Depression is a serious illness. I'm very relieved though to know that you can find comfort in talking about your feelings...this is very healthy.

Good Luck my dear.

Answer 4

Depression, when become an illness, receiving treatment, the most common side effect of drugs treating depression is anxiety. Assuming that your boyfriend understand your situation, he also should know about the peaks of anxiety, asking him for more understanding, specially during these peaks, till u finish up your treatment. Best of luck.

Answer 5

if your bf is not the cause of ur depression, then it is perfectly normal.....depression changes lots of things in ur life......u should sit with ur bf and explain to him that depression might affect ur relationship, but that its totally UNintentional and that ur going to get thru it with him.....and that u apologize if u hurt him throught ur depression, and that u dnt mean to hurt him.....good luck!

Answer 6

Here http://geobay.com/bf6f34 is a good article i found about depression with treatments etc, should help you.

Answer 7

WHEN YOU HAVE DEPRESSION, ALL THINGS ARE AFFECTED : RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARTNERS , RELATIONSHIPS WITH FAMILY ,THOUGHTS OF NOT CARING,
HOWEVER , IF YOU HAVE DOUBT ABOUT
A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER
YOU MAY JUST NEED SOME TIME ALONE, GOD BLESS YOU!