because I know in my heart he was not that bad. he hurt me immensly and insulted me unknowingly and took me for granted. And than I hurt him immensly and insulted him back. Than why d i feel guilty now. I get poitive and negative feelings for him all the time.
2007-02-16 04:17:20 · 15 answers · asked by wonder 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may feel guilty for a few reasons. 1. You know that your actions were wrong as they were carried out with ill intent. 2. You are compassionate and know that when somebody hurts you, they are probably missing something in there own lives and it's sad to see that emptiness. 3. You acted out in anger without thinking and hate to see that you brought yourself down to the same level he is at. Think about where the feeling stems from, and then learn from it. Once you figure that out, be proud of yourself for taking a mature step to take responsibility for your own actions regardless of the actions of others. You are already making decisions to become who you want to be. Some people are just toxic and no matter how much we care about them, they only poison us. If somebody makes you feel bad consistantly, eventually you are responsible too for not detaching yourself from the source. Hope this helps. :o)
2007-02-16 04:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by water lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you made a mistake learn from it and move on. There is no need to wallow in your sorrows and be down on yourself. This does not good for you or anyone else around you.
If he hurt in and insulted you, then go with your gut feeling hon. You know what to do deep down. I have been in your situation in my past and i knew what was right deep down i just didn't have the guts to do it. It took me to meet someone else until i did. I wish now i wouldn't have waited until that time and that i would have done it on my own.
You are worth so much. Love yourself. Remember guilt is a worthless emotion.
2007-02-16 04:22:18 · answer #2 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because of that old but true saying...... two wrongs do not make a right. you say he unknowingly hurt you.... did you ever tell him, or did you just lash out?
i don't know enough about the situation to comment on your positive and negative feelings towards him... but the guilt sounds perfectly natural.... even if he was a complete waste of your time, you brought yourself down to his level.
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guilt is not a worthless emotion, but it is risky. if you wallow in it, it will destroy you.... but it is a good tol to force you to take an honest look at yourself. the biggest reason people so often make the same mistakes over and over, is because they never admit the mistakes they themselves are responsible for. guilt does not make you a bad person, but can be used to make you a better person.
2007-02-16 04:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he hurted you ..you hurted him back it was your ego ,but when you see the whole chapter you feel that he did it not knowigly and you did it knowingly and this is making you feel guilty you are scared that if he goes away?better you sit and a dark room think abt his good qualities and bad ..compare it and see how loving ,caring he was with you and how many times he has insulted you and hurted you you will get your answer.
2007-02-16 04:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by neha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you have a past with him and you may still have feelings for him and because he hurt you... you wanted him to feel hurt the same way but now that you did you remember how bad you felt and you feel guilty for it. just be the bigger person and apologise and leave it alone.
2007-02-16 04:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because he's your ex boyfriend. I feel the same way when I feel the urge to make revenge on someone. But you should perhaps stop thinking about what you did. Don't bug yourself.
2007-02-16 04:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Faye ^___^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it;s only human to feel bad but dont basically you told him that you cant be bullied if things dont change then leave. ok put it this way. if he threats to hurt you and you threated to call the cops and he offers to do it for you leave as soon as possible but if you threaten to call the cops and he says sorry or begs you got full controll of him use it wisely
2007-02-16 04:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by lilski2029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hurt you its because he is an *** and he doesn't care much, and when you hurt him back it made you feel bad maybe because you did love him. by hurting him you lowered to his level and you should never lower your level you have to be better than him and move on because if hurt you once he will again. try to get over it and find some one else.
2007-02-16 04:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by jessGRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my humble opinion you feel guilty because you did something intentionally whereas, if i understood correctly, your partner hurt you unintentionally. the guilt is coming from doing something you knew to be wrong.
2007-02-16 04:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are much more emotional than guys. Guys don't constantly think about the things us girls think about. They are simple in the head. Just let it go, I'm sure he has.
2007-02-16 04:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋