2007-02-16 04:11:16 · 25 answers · asked by boricuablanca79 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It all depends on the nice Jewish boy…
Generally, there is no religious problem with a wedding of a Jewish man and a converted nice girl (unless the Jewish man is a Cohen, but even then it all depends on how religious he is).
Converted people are accepted by the community exactly like born-Jews, and the family of the Jewish man might even respect the nice Catholic girl even more for her efforts.
I have two aunts who converted to Judaism when married my uncles (one was Protestant and one was Catholic), and not only are they both very beloved by anyone (as they would be anyway, even if they wouldn't convert), they are highly appreciated by my religious relatives for studying Judaism so hard and accepting the burden of joining the Jewish faith and nation.
Tell the nice Catholic girl to do whatever makes her feel good.
2007-02-17 02:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by yotg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question begs a few other questions. If you convert than you will no longer be a nice Catholic girl, but a nice Jewish girl. Would you be converting just to get the man, or because you really want to be Jewish? My other question is, if you need to change your religion, what else will you have to change to make this man happy?? Seems that mutual acceptance has a better chance of a lasting commitment.
God bless you both!
2007-02-16 04:16:04 · answer #2 · answered by hbern 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too many labels, and assumptions.
I'm a too-nice EX catholic girl with a Jewish man who doesn't want me to convert and has his reasons why he prefers schiczes (spelling?) to women of like religion.
And he's a spiritually religious person of the faith!
Let alone all of the ones who are much more baout the cultural ID with "jewish", not so much "Judaism".
So, before you get into all of this, do your homework, not just on him.
Expand your mind, rid yourself of hard-and-fast categories, and then maybe you've got a great chance.
About anything, really. Breaking barriers applies to all phases of life, just about.
2007-02-16 04:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The religion comes first. I am a Jew-by-choice, but Judaism is not for everyone. Study Judaism for a few years to determine if it's what you really want. If so, convert, and only then should you look for a nice Jewish man.
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2007-02-16 04:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Hatikvah 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you convert...yeah. I've thought about this issue a lot. I've dated mostly catholic girls...mostly italian....and I always get afraid of being serious with them.
I'm non-practising....and I don;t care what they believe....but my fear comes in with how the children will be raised. I'm always a fraid that someone who isn;t religious now will find God later. A lot of religious people seem to find God after they have kids. Their parents and community guilt them into it.
I would NOT want my children raised very religiously in ANY religion...and not at all in a Church (unless it were Quaker or Unitarian...those folks are cool).
I think if you converted....I'd probably be calmer about it. I know it's hypocritical...but it's how I feel. I just don't want my children raised in that belief system. The quakers and Unitarians are different to me. I'd be perfectly willing to raise a child in a combination of those faiths and Judaism.
2007-02-16 04:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 05:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by truesdale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are converting just for him, and not for you, then you are doing it for the wrong reasons... If he is already willing to date you, and you him, chances are neither of you are really that strong in your religion, after all, if you were, you would see the inherent issues with dating someone who has such a huge gap in philosophy.
Bottom line, do not convert for any other reason than that you actually believe... otherwise you are lying to everyone, including yourself...
2007-02-16 04:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by XX 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most jews wont want you to convert. They will actually say no to you at least 3 times. They don't want to be responsible fo ryou. It is a big deal to convert, and it takes about a year or so to do so. It will be a lot of work studying, and changing your lifestyle. Good luck with that if you are really into this guy and want to...
2007-02-16 04:18:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♫O Praise Him♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It worked for Dr. Laura. The question is does the Catholic girl believe in Judaism? If not, don't convert for him!
2007-02-16 05:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by Fotomama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No nice Catholic girl I know would ever consider doing such a thing.
If he loves you, he should convert. Not you.
What you're considering is spiritually ill informed and reckless.
Look out.
2007-02-16 04:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋