So hear is my problem, I am 20 years old and have never really dated. Working and my career has always been my life. Now I am out of high school, in the working world 100% of the time, and I don’t know what to do. I teach theatre to younger students, so I am never around people my own age anymore. I feel like there really is no option for me to date anymore. Not to mention I am going insane being a virgin and being alone all the time. I have never been on a date in my life and I am so lost, scared and embarrassed. What should I do?
2007-02-16 04:01:07 · 17 answers · asked by Richard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be creative, take a film class at your local city college. It's a fun elective and a class that is casual and often requires student interaction.
Don't go public about you being a virgin or that you are "itching to lose your virginity." Keep that to yourself.
Try not to focus negatively on the fact that you've never been on a date in your life. Just work on socializing with females more and be yourself. Do not try to impress women, they are keen experts on picking up on guys trying to show off. They think its cute though, but try to focus on getting to know them. If you show interest in them, they'll warm up to you. Plus it helps you keep your mind of your self-consciousness.
There shouldn't be anything to be scared about and you shouldn't feel lost. Well, at 20, everyone is lost so in a sense, you're the same as everyone, so try not to make your state any worse than any others.
Finally, do not make it a goal to lose your virginity. That should be secondary. Plus, you're jumping ahead of yourself. You need to date first to find out what kinds of women you find attractive.
Stay relaxed and believe in yourself (because no one else will if you don't believe in yourself) and you will be ok.
2007-02-16 04:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for someone to just have sex with. Start with looking for other people your age to hang with. Join a bowling league, reading group (the local book stores have all kinds), athletic group - volleyball is fun, and your life will improve from there. There is nothing wrong with being a 20 year old virgin. Be proud that you haven't had sex just for the sake of having sex. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-16 12:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't buy that at all! No way is your teaching career keeping you occupied 24/7I I have relatives who are teachers, they put a lot of work into it--but they have time for a social life. They have lives, and there is no reason why you shouldn't.
It doesn't matter who you teach--there are other adults around. Take one out to dinner and a movie on a Friday or Saturday night.
If you have time to be on the computer, you have time to meet people and date.
2007-02-16 12:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the club, singles bar, mingle ask your friends if they know anyone available. Dont spend your time sulking being all soggy how you can't find a date or still are a virgin. Suck it up, seriously, take it like a man and become the woMAN lover!
2007-02-16 12:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by apple|addikt. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read some book when I was in somewhat of the same situation.
I can't remember the name. I found it in the bookstore in the sex section. It made me more confident. I also read "...guide to seduction."
Finding, dating women is like a job or finding a job. You have to constantly work at it.
2007-02-16 12:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Matthew L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont trip pimp its all about loving your self.. U will find someone you are young always remember that just think at it like this you are a jewel and you just aint for no one. A lot of wanting sex and having tons of sex comes from the media so dont think about it and worry about your self for now. There will be a time and place for this. Good luck
2007-02-16 12:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop focusing on sex and focus on finding someone just to hang out with...if its all good, then sex can come later.
Sex with the wrong person is not all its cracked up to be and you'll end up regretting being with someone to lose your virginity.
2007-02-16 12:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a virgin is not a big deal, I would hang out with older guys to satisfy my curiosity about sex.
2007-02-16 12:18:28 · answer #8 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never feel embarrased to be a virgin. i think its cool. dont worry you are still very young to start sleeping around. your love will come and when you fall in love with that specila some one then get married. because making love is way better than having sex. and remember having multiple partners is unhealthy. so be patient and your time will come when you are ready.
2007-02-16 12:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by jessGRL 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well you should take some time off of work or one weekend just go out with some friends or go to a club and she what happens and if you see something you like then you should approach her and ask her questions get her number and then it all falls into place
2007-02-16 12:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by zorin l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋