Well, I told this girl that her bf was cheating on her, and she told me she knew...I have a crush on this girl....A HUGE one. and she told me she wasn't looking for a serious relationship, that's why she settled for this guy. I told her that I had a crush on her, and I asked her if she wanted to go out with me. She said she really wanted to, and told me that she really liked me and that I was sweet and all, but she said she was afraid that it would turn serious. She told me that she was sorry, but she just can't handle that anymore. I told her I understood, but I still want to be with her. She understands me better than any other girl, and she has the best attitude that I have ever seen, but she doesn't want a serious relationship. What should I do???
2007-02-16 03:58:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I can understand her not wanting to be in anything serious right now. Dating is supposed to be fun and easy going especially in your younger years. But she if she's in a relationship where the word cheating actually applies, then she's kinda already in something semi serious. Cheating only counts if you have the title BF/GF. But if your just casually dating, then the relationship is open and its ok to date other people. Do you kinda see what i'm saying? Maybe bring that point up to her, it may make her think and see things a little bit different. Also if she really values herself she shouldn't be with someone who doesn't appreciate her, and then let him get away with cheating.
If she's afraid that it might get to serious between you guys simply throw out the idea of keepin it easy and casual. That you don't need a commitment, you just want to take her out, sometime next week, maybe lunch or a movie, or even just stay in. I don't know if your looking for something serious or not, but she obviously isn't. So if you want her, you gotta work with her. If you can settle for the open-keep-it-easy-fun-dating scenario, then you've already got your foot in the door. Work with that for a bit and give it some time. she may later decide that you are the one she wants. You alone, and she doesn't want to share you with another girl. Or you may later decide that she isn't completly everything you want, and then you didnt' get yourself stuck in something uber serious and complicated.
ps: Casual Dating is a great way to 1) get to really know the person on a deeper level so you don't have any negative suprises if you just jump into something 2) keeps your options open, there are many great women out there and 3) It's fun and you don't get 100% tied down.
2007-02-16 04:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
email her in case you have her email address. if she gave you her kind devoid of hesitation then call her-- just to invite her what she become as much as and if she'd desire to bypass to an amusement park or something relaxing on a undeniable day-it does not could be too severe/frightening once you communicate for the 1st time. yet... undergo in strategies that if she's 5 yrs older than you.. she could be searching for extra mature issues-until eventually you're keen to step that up or whatnot. goodluck my buddy. playstation do no longer I actually have a warm avatar or what
2016-09-29 04:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by truesdale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please move on. This girl has told you she can not be in a serious relationship. She is not capable of the maturity and commitment such a relationship requires. Also why would you want a girl who is with a cheater? This indicates a lack of self respect and self worth to me. If she doesn't value herself,how can she expect anyone else to value her? I also wonder what she will catch from her cheating boyfriend?
2007-02-16 04:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by pnut 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient with her, see things from her pint of view and continue to be her friend. talk with her occasionally, but the good guy that you are. Over time, as she continues to get to know you better, sees what type of person you are, sees that you have tender, caring qualities, perhaps she will also see that you would be someone MORE than just a friend. Patience is the key. Patience and understanding things from her point of view.
2007-02-16 04:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight for her dont just give up ususually when a girl says she doesn't want a serious relationship its because she doesn't want to be hurt so show her that she doesnt need to be afraid. Take it slow so she doesn't get freaked out.
2007-02-16 04:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by girl in love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could move on but that would probably suck for you. Maybe if you tell her that it woun't get that seriouse, and then if shes goes out with you she;'ll relize that she likes you a lot to and might consider getting into a serious relationship. hope this helps good luck
2007-02-16 04:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Curls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay there! You're in the right place right now. Good things come to those who wait. She'll find out later that she needs you. But let everything run it's course and it will all fall into place.
2007-02-16 04:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two options.
you could probably have sex with her but that would destroy all chances you would ever have at getting with her in a relationship.
you can give her the time and space she needs knowing full well that you might not be the choice she makes when she says she is ready for a relationship.
i say go for option one.
2007-02-16 04:03:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe one day this girl will come around and see you for the nice guy you appear to be. In the meantime, I would say start dating. No need to wait around for this girl, she may never come around.
2007-02-16 04:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you and I know this girl so I say that she'll regret it! She'll come around. She's confused about a lot, trust me on that. She does like you. She just needs some time.
2007-02-16 04:20:19 · answer #10 · answered by Manda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋