After about 2 days I realized that I didnt like the fact that he was 18 and Im 21. But I still liked him, and then I just felt like that 18 was too young, so after about a week I ended it. Also I was startin to catch feelings for him and I didnt want to be in a relationship. Its been about 3 weeks now and I dont care about the age thing, because my feelings for him didnt go away. But I dont think he likes me no more. My friend told me that I should just forget about him cuz he dont like me. But I cant help the way I feel. Should I try to get at him even if hes goin to reject me?
2007-02-16 03:52:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hooking up while drunk is NEVER a good idea....and realistically he is only 18.....But if you truly have feelings for him.....sometimes we must put our pride behind us, to experience what is meant for us......
2007-02-16 04:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by onekoolkat_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't count on him making a move, he probally is convinced you don't like him. From a guys perspective if a girl broke up with me after a week I would assume she didn't like me and didn't find me attractive. I would think if she really liked me she would call me and at at least date me a few weeks.
You are 21 and he is 18 so what? 18 is too young for you? Are you serious? You are three more years older than him so what, you think because you are older than him you are more mature, dream on.
What is the big deal about a relationship anyway? Not ready for a relationship? What relationship? You only knew him a week! You only saw him for a week and your already scared of getting married? Are you crazy? I know many people who have been in a relationship for years and still are not all that serious, they just want someone to cling onto. Believe me a guy after 1 week of dating is not going to have very strong emotional feelings for you. He probally is more emotionally attached to his dog then his date.
You think you have too much of an age difference? I am 27 and I am flirting with a 39-40 year old divorced mom with 2 kids.
Your feelings didn't go away for him? And you broke up with him? Why? How is he to know you have feelings for him? You dumped him! He feels rejected and like a loser. He thinks you find him repulsive! He probally thinks you are making jokes with your friends behind his back how awful of a date he was, that is what I would think if a girl broke up with me after only a week. He probally is saying to myself "maybe I am too short for her, maybe she doesn't like my teeth, maybe I am too nice, maybe she doesn't like my hair, the way I dress, maybe my car is too trashy for her, my eyes look funny, my nose is too long, she thinks I am fat, maybe I smell bad, did I forget to brush my teeth?"
You don't think he likes you anymore? How do you know? Would it be that painful to ask him? The worst thing he could say is no. So what if he rejects you, your the one who rejected him remember! Take a risk it won't hurt your feelings. Your going to have miserable life if you won't take any chances in fear of rejection. The more you get rejected the more easier it becomes.
Please I beg you from a guys perspective if you want him back the only way your going to get him back is if you make the move. If you leave things be you will regret for years not taking that risk.
2007-02-16 12:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rejection sucks, but I think it is much worse to live in fear of rejection. I think you should let him know how you feel and see where it goes from there. If you have feeling for the guy, it's at least wrth checking out. What's the worst that could happen, he say he's not interested and you are sitting right back where you are now but at least you followed your passion and emotions. There is nothing wrong with dating this guy that is 3 years younger than you, expacially if his maturity level is comfortable to you. Good Luck
2007-02-16 12:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by hooodis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is talk to him and let him know how you feel and what was going on with you these past few weeks. Im sure everthing will work out the way it is supposed to. good luck
2007-02-16 11:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by lawson403 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little older then 18 and of drinking age....so whatcha doing tonight? Wanna meet me at the local pub and I'll buy the rounds!!!
2007-02-16 11:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Paul M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your willing to pursue him even if you may get rejected, go for it. It's worth a shot. He may give you another shot.
2007-02-16 11:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Why shouldn't you feel the rejection that you initailly gave to him?
Have fun with it.
2007-02-16 11:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worse he can say is no.
You will never know if you dont ask.
Confidence is very attractive also.
2007-02-16 11:57:49 · answer #8 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. . .nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2007-02-16 11:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by Veruca Salt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋