After coming out of a very stressful, very soul destroying marriage.
I don't want to settle down again, but I would like a good sex life. I want to make up for lost time. But would I be classed as a slapper or slag, if I had some fun?
2007-02-16 03:48:01 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tracy theres a whole new world out there just waiting for you! Its 2007 and women of all ages can do whatever they damn well please!
If you have good friends their not gonna think badly of you whatever you do. find someone who you can go out with-preferably other single ladies (remember-there's safety in numbers) and go to lively places where you can start chatting to guys and get used to spending time in mixed company. I'm sure you;ll eventualy meet some hunky guy who you'll want to get to know on a deeper level but meanwhile GET OUT and GET SOME FUN!!! men have been doing it for years.
2007-02-16 03:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by denise m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't just jump into "having fun". You have to make sure you are emotionally ready. When you decided you want to go out to play with the boys remember there is a big difference between love and great sex. You want to make sure you don't get caught stuck in love when your playing because if it becomes unrequited, it aches.
Of course you can have a great sex life but you have to be up front about the no-strings-attached thing. Also as someone else has already said, you also need to be responsible with the men you meet (make sure you always have your condom stash- no excuses). In the heat of the moment guys will always say it doesn't matter, but you should make it matter to you, "No glove no love baby!"
You only a slag or a slapper if you're not being choosy. "You should neither give to the needy or the greedy". You should make sure sex at anytime is on your terms. This includes a fcuk buddy on speed dial.
Hope you have a fcuking great time!!
2007-02-16 04:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Love&Laughter 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women can have fabulous sex without the comittment. Its not just for the man.
However I would make sure that you are doing it because you want to have fun. You say making up for lost time. I wouldnt use sex to make you feel better for the loss of your marriage. It will end up making you feel empty, used and alone.
If you genuinely do want to go out there though and have some great fun with no strings then I say go for it. Let the guy know that its not going to turn into a relationship though otherwise you may damage his ego or make him upset if it doesnt turn into anything. Also if they are in in just for the sex be careful if you start feeling something more for them, its easily done and you dont always know you are feeling this way.
You wont be branded a slag or slapper if you are quiet about it and it doesnt become common knowledge. Make sure you have no strings relationship with somebody trustworthy enough to not go down the pub and blab it with all his mates. You are a sexual being and should be alowed to express yourself safely.
Good luck
2007-02-16 03:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!
You can have great sex without commitment
You deserve to enjoy sex and feel good
I'm sorry you had a bad marriage,I've been there with a partner re:stress so can empathise.
Anyone who calls you slapper or slag just ignore it and don't take it to heart as it will more likely be said out of jealousy.
I wish you well in your quest to find happiness.
Best wishes
2007-02-16 04:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Zenlife07 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can have no strings sex, as long as you both know it is. You deserve some fun by the sounds of things. You do what you want to do and dont you give a monkeys toss what anyone else thinks. Be sure its what you want though, It sounds like you have high standards anyway, so go for it mate. Good luck.
2007-02-16 04:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by simon m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't judge you as long as your honest in the beginning and of a legal age.My only advice would be to definitely take precaution sexually.Don't, confuse yourself with wanting sex thinking(AS WE DO)that they will love us.You don't say how long it has been or how old you are,and reading into it I don't want you to jump out of the frying pan into the fire.Give yourself some time to know you...and don't be afraid if you do want casual sex,you will be most mens favourite woman BUT make sure you are doing it because you want to,not because your hurting.
2007-02-16 04:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure they can. Just a few years ago my wife did five guys in two days at a Renaissance Faire. Another time she brought two guys home from work and the three of us gave her a workout that lasted most of the night.
2007-02-16 09:16:33 · answer #7 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not? Just have fun and enjoy the finer things in life. i know what your going through because i was in the same boat last year! Get in touch and we can maybe make up for lost time together...X
2007-02-16 03:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by jaz r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what difference would it make what other people thought of you IF they knew that you slept around? have your fun. men do it all the time. frak the double standard.
but i know a slag if you want a good example. her phone number is...
2007-02-16 03:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only f you let people label you.
Be independant.
Why Men love B*tches is a great book.
I used to have a great sex life...
2007-02-16 03:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋