For Valentine's Day my boyfriend had to work plowing snow because that's his on-call job. So i let that go, he was off that night but didnt get payed so i payed for not only for us to eat pizza, but for EVERY one else he works with too. It was only 30 bucks and he said he would pay me back yesterday and take me out for a real nice dinner Well, we didnt, i called alot yesterday and he wasnt home from his friends who he was staying with whille he was working this job, but his mom was their He finaly gets home and its 8:30, its too late for me to leave ( my mom wont let me) and his car doesnt run So i ask him if he forgot and that he had promised to take me out I admit i had a tone, i was irritaited that yet again he had let me down And he yelled at me, said he had been working hard all day and that i was being selfish He hung up on me a couple of times, i called him back and finally he reallly did have to go because his mom was yellin. Was i wrong for being upset and did i over react?
2007-02-16 03:46:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound to me as if you over-reacted, just like you approached the problem in the wrong way. You should have told him that you understood about Valentine's Day, but that he was the one who had suggested a nice date the next night and then he blew you off and that hurt your feelings. You could have started the conversation with something like, gee I was getting worried something had happened to you because I thought we had plans. Next time!!! Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-16 03:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were being selfish, but if he was plowing snow and you're in one of those big snow storms that we had, I'm sure he was busy. However, if he promised to take you out, he should have called and told you he wasn't going to be able to make it. That would be the considerate thing to do.
You both sound very young because you're both still living with your Moms. I would back off a little and concentrate on other things going on in my life. You say you have felt let down by him before. Maybe he is not the guy for you. Don't settle. Concentrate on other goals right now. You will meet the right guy eventually.
2007-02-16 11:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to be upset in a situation like that. The thing is, he PROMISED. He didn't say he would try. It was a promise so he shouldn't break it. But isn't it that Promises are made to be broken? But on the other side, you should perhaps understand him because as you've said, he said that he was working hard all day. Then maybe he really forgot about what he promised to you. But yelling at you isn't right. Talk about it. Take Care!
2007-02-16 11:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by Faye ^___^ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i honestly don't think so. Because he promised you a nice dinner and you expected to get it and you didn't . You weren't wrong for being upset but he was wrong for yelling at you and you had every reason to over react about the situation because he knew you were looking forward to spending the day with him.
2007-02-16 11:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Marty Johnson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did over react. But it seems to me he has let you down alot. I think he was working but he should of said sorry for forgeting. You should look at the whole relationship from start till now. If there is alot of things that he has done that you didn't like and still does. then you should get out now and find someone new.
2007-02-16 11:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the fist place it's not your fault, but he could of called to let you know he wasn't going to be able to make it, instead of keeping you waiting for him. And it was wrong for you to talk to him that way, and because you were upset, isn't a good excuse, when your upset, first calm down and try to talk nice to him after all you do want to be with him and he does work and it can get stressful. I was the same with my b-fr, but since I started to talk nicely, we have been getting along great. So try it. *_* Just apologize and tell him that if he could please let you know next time.
2007-02-16 11:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you do something nice for people, do not expect something back in return. If he asked to borrow $30.00, to feed his friends and you - then he should pay you back. If you offered to buy food without asking him first, then what does he owe you?
Drop it for a few days, but when you know he will be paid then ask him if tonight is the night for my real nice dinner.
You probably over reacted because you were disappointed.
2007-02-16 11:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if he has been busy working, and tired, don't get to upset. My husband didn't come home for 2 days when we had all the snow, he missed valentines day too. Hopefully if he is not working we will catch up this weekend.
2007-02-16 11:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, it sounds like that both you and he are still yet....date and have friends but it may be too soon for both of you to be in a committed relationship....with that said only deal with guys that treat you right (he sounds like he's not that into you)...lose the loser. Be strong, know that you are a diamond, and be sure to be able to care for yourself by getting an education. Good luck sweetie.
2007-02-16 11:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No
1. He let you pay for everybody else
2. He promised to let you out be he didn't
Or
Yes
1. He works hard to earn the money for himself (and probably you)
2. You were being a bit to off.
It's your decision, your choices. You tell him what's on your mind.
2007-02-16 11:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋