despite being 29 years of age i have never had a proper grown up sexual relationship (no i'm not ugly!! lol) so i don't know what to do.... my new boyfriend and i have planned this fantastic weekend away. mostly we were just gonna have lots of sex i expect as we have only just got to that stage of this new relationship. however, this morning i got my period! dammit! so, what i wanna know is; what do other girls do? do you tell your b/f no sex this weekend? or what??!! i'm not stupid or insecure or anything, not worried he'll dump me or that he only wants me for sex, please don't misunderstand, i just don't know how best to deal with this situation, it's awkward for me...
2007-02-16 03:37:29 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys, some really sensible answers there! :)
2007-02-16 03:57:30 · update #1
dunno why but yahoo answers is playing up and won't let me give any of you the thumbs up...sorry, will sort it as soon as it lets me.....
2007-02-16 04:00:50 · update #2
Just be honest with him. Let him know up front that Aunt Flo is in town visiting and you guys are just not going to be able to have the wall-to-wall sex that you'd anticipated.
Tell him before you leave on the trip. That way, if that puts him out of the mood to go, you guys can reschedule. If he wants to go anyway, then you'll know that he wants to spend time with you either way.
If he does leave you because of mother nature, then he was not a good boyfriend in the first place!
2007-02-16 03:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell him you just got your period. Simple. Is not like you can control that (unless you are on the pill). You guys have three choices:
One, go, and still have sex. Many people don’t care that she is having the period. But is not the general opinion. Most people will be grossed out with it (both girls and guys). So they just wait.
Two, don’t go, and wait for next weekend. You will be actually very “horny” as you just got out of your period and your hormones will be going crazy. This is usually the best time because you will want to have no stopping sex, and as you should know, we guys are always wanting sex…. LOL. So for a sexual get away, this should be the real solution.
Three, if you two don’t mind just spending time together, then still go wherever you were planning to go, and have a romantic weekend together. Of course, this is as long as you two are ok with it, and also as long as you don’t get into some weird mood changes when you have your period. This is normal on many women, but only you know it. If you do, then you might want to stay to avoid having a any bad time with your boyfriend (if you think is that bad).
But no matter what is chosen, you need to make sure he understands that you will have your period every month, and that he must accept it, and deal with it. You said you are not afraid of him leaving, so then it should be easy for you to just tell him. Do not apologize for it, is not your fault, just talk to him, and see what he would like to do, and just promise him that when you are out of your period, you will make sure to make him forget about this world with wild crazy sex ;)
Good luck and have fun!!
2007-02-16 03:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is tell him what's going on and talk it over with him. It really is a matter of how comfortable you feel and well-how badly you can't wait. Some guys have no problem, some are grossed out-some girls are too! It's a little awkward, but you two should really decide together what works for you.
2007-02-16 03:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by DizzyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him, "I know this sucks but we can't have sex this weekend because I got my period." Most likely, he'll be disappointed but he'll deal with it. It's possible that he might want to have sex anyway but most guys (understandably) think it's gross and would much rather just wait. And I don't know about you, but when I'm on my period, I'm never exactly in the mood either.
2007-02-16 03:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, some girls dont mind having sex on the period, its just messy, and some guys like it. on the other hand, some guys think its gross to even MENTION a period, and some girls dont even want to be looked at. my bf thinks its hilarious to go around saying "tampon" loudly to try to embarrass me. such a sweetie pie......
and then there are some people that are into anal sex, so who cares if there is a period or not???
there is always the shower, no clean-up required.
just be honest and upfront with him, let him know your fears and what you are willing to do/ not do. if he's mature enough, he'll understand and be willing to make you feel comfortable with whatever you guys decide.
2007-02-16 03:43:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you are comfortable with. There can still be lots of relaxation and cuddling. If you don't have heavy periods and he is okay with it you could still have sex. There is also lots of oral sex available, so don't give up the weekend without discussing it with your boyfriend to see what he says. He may want to scrap it for a less messy weekend.
2007-02-16 03:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most girls have been there. Just be honest about it. It can be pretty hard to do that if it's early in the relationship, but you probably shouldn't be having sex if you can't be fully honest with him! I've talked to a couple of my guy friends about a situation of mine similar to this. They've all said that a guy that is in to you probably won't care about something like that.
Definitely talk to him about it. Hopefully it all works out for you!
2007-02-16 03:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by shesaidpaul@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know the deal before hand and that way maybe you guys can reschedule for another time. This happened to me before but we rescheduled, also dont wanna get to personnal but they have birth control pills like yasmin that you can take so that you won't get your period. Don't worry so much about it but let him know and if he really still wants to go then I guess you can be the one doing all the pleasing "wink wink" just to make up for it..Have fun if you go
2007-02-16 03:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i know a bunch of girls that do have sex on their period. This is just your own personal opinion. If you want to there is nothing wrong with if your bf floats that way. I don't because I cramp to bad and it hurts if I have sex.
2007-02-16 03:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋